Like last time, as we proceed in the comments, remember the severity or levity of your hypotheticals might feed the power a person has over you. Tread carefully, and let’s have fun.
“Gaze out the window or exist in silhouette as often as possible.”
14 opening lines that will have you burning up Tinder (with queer pop culture references!).
Kristin is bringing her advice show, Getting In Bed With Kristin, to Autostraddle’s Facebook live!
There is safety in distance, a whole lot of it — distance lets us be different version of ourselves, or to reveal parts of ourselves we haven’t shown to the light before. It allows us to be bold, and take risks.
If you’ve got a non-December birthday, then listen up — you’ve got it made! Your birthday is not eclipsed by holiday cheer, capitalism, Santa and Jesus. So why don’t you help make our neglected birthday special?
I think you could style your hair like Dolly Parton and people on Kentucky front porches and in Kentucky truck beds would still call you a dyke in that horrible ugly tone that only bigots can growl with.
“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t want to break up with them. I really just want to be happy with them.”
“I’m entirely lost. Which direction should I be heading in right now? Where is my path leading? What should I be putting most of my energy into to one day become an independent and successful person with a flourishing career?” A tarot reading to explore possibilities.
Do you have to go to your homophobic asshole cousin’s wedding? How do you tell your more-than-friends friend that you’ve slept with her ex? Is 22 too old to still be as pure and virginal as the driven snow? Get in here and find out!
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
“I want to make out with my bestie. I love her dearly, but I don’t think I’m in love with her—I don’t want to be in a whole relationship thing with her or anything.”
What do you do when your girlfriend has a small vaginal opening and wants to have penetrative sex?
Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.
So you were dumped because…you’re not a vegan?
Butterfly brain? Too many ideas? Here’s a quick tarot spread you can do to figure out what to focus on, what to ditch, and what to put on the back-burner for tomorrow.
It’s important to see people who deserve to be celebrated — especially queer people and POC — using selfies to celebrate another day for themselves. We want to see your face out there, so we’ve put together some advice to help you be your best self(ie).
“How exactly do I make new friends, especially queer ones? This is the first time I’ve been not-in-school for a long time.”
“My goopy brain instantly convinced me that this event would singularly make or break our relationship and that if it went poorly it would be my fault. But I swallowed my anxiety and said yes. Then I immediately started thinking about my outfit.”
Sometimes the girl you have a crush on has an open girl/boy/boifriend and you’ve never even thought about non-monogamy before. Here’s how to start.