I’m In My Thirties and Can’t Make Up My Mind About Having Kids

Welcome to the weekly AF+ Advice Box, in which we answer all the queer and lesbian advice questions from AF+ members who submitted their queries into our AF+ ask box!

I know this is a hard one, and I appreciate any advice on this. I'm in my mid-30s and having a hard time deciding if I want to have a child/children. I never gave it much thought before but in the past couple of years, it has been on my mind a lot. The thoughts have been "Should I or should I not?" and I've been thinking about it almost every day lately. It's a really big decision.

Riese: My advice is to freeze your eggs. Really, freeze your eggs! Get your eggs ripped out of your body and then freeze ‘em up. I know it’s expensive, that’s why I didn’t do it, I couldn’...

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