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Relationships

You Need Help: I Moved Closer to My Girlfriend but She’s Too Busy for Me

The person who moved shouldn’t be the only person experiencing change.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya November 7, 2023 3 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: How Can I Date When I’m So Scared To?

Dating requires so much vulnerability, and a fear of rejection can be such a roadblock. So, what can we do to confront that roadblock?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 24, 2023 5 Comments
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Breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Get Over the First Woman I Slept With?

Focusing your energy on moving on and healing rather than trying to reconnect is the best path forward — and not just for you, but for her, too.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 17, 2023 4 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex, but There’s Something Deeper Here

You are telling me one thing, which is that your wife and you communicate well and she cares for you, and then I am seeing something different, which is that your needs are continuously deprioritized in the relationship, and that seems to be how things play out when it comes to your wife’s actions.

Nico October 10, 2023 13 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: How Do I Stop Bringing Baggage From My Last Relationship Into My New One?

This is where it gets really scary: Growing together requires communication. 

Drew Burnett Gregory October 3, 2023 2 Comments
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Comedy Dating

Lesbian Date Ideas Inspired By Stock Images

Out of hot queer date ideas? I’ve got you covered.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 28, 2023 13 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Want To Have Sex

To me, both of these things are true: 1. People’s sex drives can change for any number of reasons, at any time and 2. If sex is important to you, that’s valid, too!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 26, 2023 5 Comments
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Lesbian Weddings

How To Make Planning Your Queer Wedding HOT

Wedding planning isn’t exactly known for being sexy, but we found a way to make it so.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 25, 2023 9 Comments
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The Cozy Under-The-Covers Sex You’re Having This Fall, According to Your Zodiac Sign

Wondering what kind of queer sex your sign’s going to be having this fall? I’m going to tell you, don’t worry.

Nico September 24, 2023 7 Comments
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All the Chaotic Gay Questions I’ve Asked on a First Date

“Do you have color-changing LED light bulbs and/or light strips?”

Em Win September 22, 2023 2 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: How Can I Help With Someone Else’s Fear of Dating?

Sometimes, people get on dating apps before they’re really ready to date.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 19, 2023 5 Comments
Sex

Queer Audio Erotica Changed My Life, Helped Me Connect My Mind and Body

I was a late bloomer when it comes to all things sex and sexuality.

Em Win September 19, 2023 2 Comments
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Lesbian Weddings

How To Find a Queer Wedding Photographer

A wedding photographer plays an intimate role, and having a queer one for your gay wedding can mean a lot.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 17, 2023 9 Comments
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Friendship

You Need Help: My Girlfriend Struggles With Social Skills

Just because someone operates differently from you doesn’t mean they’re wrong, bad, or need help.

Em Win September 12, 2023 44 Comments
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Breakups First Person

Untethered: On Miss Havisham-Style Decision-Making

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Nico September 7, 2023 19 Comments
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Breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Overcome the Feeling I’ll Never Find Someone After a Breakup?

I think we all need to shift away from the idea that the sole definition of a successful relationship is one that lasts forever.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 5, 2023 4 Comments
Sex

What Does It Mean to Be a “Bottom” or “Submissive” in Lesbian Sex?

What does it mean when to identify as a “bottom” or a “submissive” in queer sex? I come armed with data and some very vague answers.

Riese September 5, 2023 59 Comments
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Remembering Deborah Sundahl, Lesbian Porn Pioneer

Two months ago, we lost Deborah Sundahl — a fierce, compassionate, and prolific queer elder.

Desirae August 30, 2023 6 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?

Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 29, 2023 9 Comments
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Friendship

Rules for Being the Gay in the Wedding Party

I’ve been that one single, queer friend in the bridal party countless times.

Em Win August 25, 2023 22 Comments
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