Here are the ten biggest challenges I’ve faced as someone who splits my time between two countries because an Instagram crush got out of hand and whoops I fell madly in love.
A girlfriend’s sex-positivity is crossing a line — but it’s a line you don’t even want to have. Also, a reader outed a cheater and now it’s just Drama City!
You bonded over a lesbian identity but now she’s exploring bisexuality, and you’re poly and you really don’t want a cis man in the mix. Plus advice for transitioning from LDR to IRL LIVING 2GETHER.
“I just feel like a huge 30-year-old crybaby thinking about asking for more physical affection and, on my worst days, starting to think ‘maybe moving in was a mistake.'”
“She’s basically my dream girl. We’ve hit it off fast over the past few months, and she’s one of my closest friends here at this point, and I am so incredibly calm around her.”
Dating as a lesbian has its own barriers even without an anxiety disorder.
People in age gap relationships often have to defend our relationships. But there are some questions we should ask heading into one.
Here’s how to deal with it.
“I have strong sexual feelings for another good friend of mine. They have a partner already and are poly.”
You don’t care if she graduated college or not, but either way she’s been lying about it to everyone! Plus advice on dealing with a couple’s fight when they’re also your roommates.
Get your quick hacks for fast-acting rejection relief!
Closure is alluring, but it’s not guaranteed in breakups. People don’t always owe us closure.
Advice for a person who really wants to get over being grossed out by periods, plus advice about friendship from three different askers.
A writer reflects on accessing desire in trying times and the romance of collective liberation — playdates that range from toppy to bratty, a bottom with endearing nonverbal cues, a “hole-within-a-hole,” and a Zoom date with their girlfriend daddy.
It’s okay to live a life where your interests overlap with the result of trauma.
Adding sensory play to your repertoire opens a landscape of activities that combine seamlessly with everything already present.
Advice for a reader who’s frustrated with initiating sex, plus upper lip hair removal, and tips for sharing an apartment with a partner queerly and successfully.
She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.
It’s 2024, am I the only one left on the planet who feels enormous shame after self-pleasure?
Advice for a 49-year-old who’s anxious that she may not be wanted in spaces and social circles where most people are younger than her.