Is it normal for one person in the relationship to never initiate sex?
Q:
Is it normal to have one person in a relationship be the initiator of sex all the time? I know my wife loves me and loves having sex, she’s always into it once we get going. But I can’t help but feel as though we would hardly ever have sex if I didn't take the lead, or suggest it every time. I acknowledge that it’s probably not everyone’s “thing” to be the one to lead physically, but I often feel as though I shouldn’t have to assume that role every time either.
A:
Sa'iyda: I feel you friend. I am usually the initiator of sex in my relationship too. It really does suck sometimes to be the one who always does the heavy lifting when it comes to starti...
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