Help! My Friends Won’t Shut Up

Welcome to the weekly AF+ Advice Box, in which we answer all the queer and lesbian advice questions from AF+ members who submitted their queries into our AF+ ask box!

Yall. Friendships!!! I have some very loving friends who are different communicators than I am. Two separate close friendships with the same trouble: they are SHARERS, and not just sharers but monologue at me for 20, 40, 60 minutes at a time. I love an external processor sometimes, and I love complexities and multiple facets of the same topic always! Lesbian processing forever. But when a couple minutes of free association exploration word soup stretches into half an hour, I get bored and then fully bitter. Sometimes I leave multi hour hikes feeling like I barely got a ...

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