“I’ve been disabled for as long as I’ve been a woman, gay and, y’know, alive. So I don’t even know how it’s possible to “see past” something so fully baked into my experience. Instead, I need you to work a little harder and understand disability as part of my value rather than a caveat on it.”
Queer sex dreams, BDSM and the law, kinky headspace, sex positivity basics, five books to read about sex work and more.
Sometimes the girl you have a crush on has an open girl/boy/boifriend and you’ve never even thought about non-monogamy before. Here’s how to start.
I wanted her to crawl over to the toy box and fetch the cane, then bring it back to me in her mouth. I wanted to tell her what to do. And I wanted it to be for my direct pleasure.
Who messages first, taking all your activity partners out for brunch, what orgasms do to your brain, the key to better communication and more.
“How do I own up to this as if it’s the most normal thing for me to have done?” Well guess what — not having sex IS a normal thing! I have the great pleasure today of telling you that you’re normal.
I had to be comfortable enough to say, “I like this, but not that” to someone I’d just met, because if I couldn’t, I might get my clit bit again.
How to tell if someone’s flirting with you, talking about what you want, the most-searched-for term in porn (has to do with lesbian sex), establishing protocol and more.
Figuring out how to use digital spaces is as powerful as living your best queer life, with certainty.
A new study suggests sexually active lesbian teens have more partners and lost their virginities earlier than heterosexuals and that one in five lesbian’s most recent sex partner was a man.
Trusting physics, trusting agency, trusting desire, and trusting the people I played with changed everything.
“I now have a million conspiracy theories in my head about the possibility that maybe the girl I met in person was not the same girl writing me these emails.”
Consensual non-consent, an electrosex checklist, tumblr is for porn, two things people in long-term relationships are good at, dating as a transfeminine girl and more.
“I’ve gotten so good at telling people what I like and what I want that I’ve been accused of topping from the bottom, but telling people what I don’t like is completely different territory.”
“We have heard of a number of attempts to go down on a lover underwater, but apparently few women possess the breath-holding capacity to take their lover all the way to orgasm.”
Bad literary sex scenes, what romance means, sex ed and disability, how to have car sex and more.
The first time I knew I was a top was when a girl I was dating said, “Please, hit me harder,” and then, later, whispered, “I can take more than you can give me.”
Valentine’s Day spending, tactile pornography, a new smart vibrator, how degrading sex can be feminist degrading sex and more.
Maybe the reason your friend/the older self-professed queen at the bar/your co-worker/that girl Claire won’t stop talking about finding someone is because they have 25 times more Keurig flavor options than the whole of their supposed dating pool — we’re scientifically improbable.
Innovative new sex toy or lobster claw clamped on your clit?