Getting in Bed With Kristin + Heather Hogan: Buffy, Cats and Jesus
This week Kristin got in bed with Autostraddle senior editor Heather Hogan to talk about queer representation on teevee, spirituality vs. religion and, of course, cats. (And beer.)
You Need Help: Three Classic Bisexual Questions, Now with Bisexual Answers
Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?
La Boda Jota #3: What’s a Fat Tomboy Femme to Wear on Her Wedding Day?
The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”
How to Rock Your First BDSM Play Party
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
Starstruck: Find Out What Your Crush’s Mars Sign Says About Your Compatibility (and Their Sex Drive)
Mars helps us assert ourselves. It helps us go after what we want. Mars is our individuality. I want. I need. I desire.
NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Getting Good At Boundaries
Why and how to set boundaries in any type of relationship. Plus, don’t date people who are ambivalent about you; how to take good nudes; how to know whether you’re ready to date again and more.
Nine Next-Level Vibrators to Knock Your Own Socks Off With
You already know the basics about buying a vibrator — maybe you already have one or two laying around your bedroom. If you’ve found yourself falling into a rut with your go-to, though, and are wondering if there’s something more, the answer is yes, Virginia, there definitely is.
Y’All Need Help #29: What to Wear, When to Quit
Impress your tattoo artist, confront your braggy woke friend, leave your fiancee, plus two HR questions get answered by a real professional!
How to Have a Difficult Conversation 101: Tough Love From @xenaworrierprincess
Come for the memes, stay for the advice so honest you might start crying while eating an enormous frozen Costco pie-sized peanut butter cup.
How to Navigate Polyamory as a Non-Primary Partner
Always a side piece and never a main piece? We’ve got you covered.
NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Stands Guard Over Solitude
Protect partners’ alone time. Plus, why to ask a lot of questions during a hookup, what to do when you disassociate during sex, Daddy/little dynamics and more.
8 Self-Help Books about Lesbian Relationships
Here are eight non-fiction self-help books about lesbian relationships, partnerships, marriage, and dating!
La Boda Jota #2: Wedding Planning Woes
“At the start of every year, I feel an itch to plan and make vision boards and examine my life and my goals. I knew one thing on my 2018 to-do list was certain and it was getting married and having a wedding.”
Starstruck: Here’s What Venus, Planet of Love, Says About Your Astrological Compatibility
Venus is asking your partner to tie your tie, and putting on a garter belt and stockings just as they’re leaving for work to maybe make them stay a few extra minutes, and putting on an old thing they got you ages ago that will make them weepy because oh my god, how do you still have it? Venus is call and response.
NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Using Their Jade Egg for Display Only
Running a sex-toy store, why people are into feet, the truth about jade eggs and more.
Y’All Need Help #28: Being Careful With Your Sex Eyes
Keeping it casual with straight gals, wondering if your kid and divorce will torpedo your lesbian dating life, and feeling disconnected from the queer community post-breakup. Plus some updates from past advice seekers! Let’s go!
You Can Leave Your Partner Who Scares You
“I’ve been dating this person for four years who is genuinely the light of my life but has some anger management issues. Though they would never, ever turn that anger towards me, it still terrifies me just witnessing it. They are aware of it, but I don’t think they’ll ever go to therapy about it. They don’t really want to even though they acknowledge it’s a problem.”
Squirting 101: Soak Up the Pleasure, Soak Up the Fun
The thing is, there’s no RIGHT way to squirt or to get someone to squirt. There’s no one trick that gets every person, without fail, to magically ejaculate like a pro. That said, here are some places you can get started in trying to hosting your very own water show.
NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Quantifying Desire
Don’t sleep with your ex. Plus the age at which self-esteem peaks, how to get comfortable with your junk, top sexual fantasies and more.
La Boda Jota #1: We’re Not Gonna Wait ‘Til I’m 28
As I quickly learned from the jump, when two queer Latinas are trying to get married — something that sometimes feels like is unheard of — there’ll be some bumps in the road.