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Tarot, Sex, & Hoodoo: A Black Girl’s Guide to the Underworld

An exploration of summer, desire, and the senses through the lens of tarot and trans womanhood.

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Dating Podcasts

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 101: Believe People Are Into You

“I’m really hoping throughout this podcast, you start dating like crazy, and maybe I settle down? Who knows what could happen?”

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First Person Gender Love + Sex

The Night I Learned to Be In My Trans Body

My summer hookup with a rich businesswoman in Japan gave me something more valuable than even the room service wagyu steak.

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Breakups

You Need Help: My First Girlfriend Broke Up With Me — Can We Be Friends?

Not every relationship is meant to last, and just because it ended doesn’t mean you didn’t learn and grow from it.

NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Wants to Map the Forest Together

Show up to your relationship with mutual curiosity, why couples sometimes dress alike, whether or not you can learn to be poly, and more.

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Dating Podcasts

Welcome to “Wait, Is This a Date?” a New Autostraddle Podcast about Queer Dating You Never Knew You Always Needed

Think of us as your friendly neighborhood co-hosts, guiding you through super specific queer dating conundrums because honestly, straight dating podcasts could never.

Valentine Boudreaux, Lain Arbor, River Gray

NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is All About Sexual Self-Discovery

Pandemic sexual self-discovery, how vanilla sexual narratives can be harmful, how to tell your friend their partner sucks and more.

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Sex Toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Vagina Gym’s Kegelbell

So what’s something I do when I am a little sad and want things to turn around? Put things inside my pussy!

NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Into Indie Sex Toys

15 questions to evaluate your relationship, what to do if you’re jealous of a partner’s friend, the Olympic “anti-sex” beds and more.

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Relationships

You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t

Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially create some challenging situations for the two of you to navigate.

NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Nihilistic Slut

85% of queers met their partners by being friends first, how to slow date, how to hide nudes on your phone and more.

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House & Garden Relationships

Dating a Librarian Is The Best Thing To Happen To My Bookshelves

What dating a librarian and fellow writer taught me about organization and intimacy.

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Dating

You Need Help: How Do I Find Nerdy Women to Date?

Queer people so often have to reimagine and carve out our own spaces, rejecting the dominant narratives hurled at us.

NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Super Into PDA Now

It’s time to make out. Plus, gender-neutral sex tech, just break up if you want to break up, how to talk dirty and more.

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AF+ Sex

Here’s Your Full Video Workshop Breaking Down Everything You Need to Know for Strap-On Sex

The latest in Queer Sex 101, our series of real live queer people teaching you everything you need to know about real queer sex continues, with a one-hour workshop from sex educator, Autostraddle writer, SLICK editor and More, Please! editor Ro White on strap-on sex.

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Relationships

Is It My Partner’s Mental Illness Affecting Our Relationship – Or Abuse?

If you feel like a relationship is taking you away from yourself, if it’s making you sad and anxious, if it makes you doubt yourself… that information is more important than any diagnosis ever could be. Your first and most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, and your diagnostic criteria for staying or going is whether you are acting in integrity with yourself.

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Sex Toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Love Hamma Thrusting Vibrator

Lifting the pink Love Hamma Thrusting Vibrator from its packaging unlocked something deep inside me. A need I hadn’t realized existed. A dyke dream previously unnamed. I wanted to get fucked by this hammer-shaped vibrator. Pounded, if you will.

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Book Features Sex

How and Why I Wrote Bang!: A Masturbation Sex-Ed Book for Everyone

I made Bang! Masturbation for People of All Genders and Abilities because it profoundly made sense to me, because there was a gaping hole in that plastic wall where there should have been some acknowledgement of pleasure, consent, or the emotions of sex. Bang! was designed to fill this gap with emotionally-aware, positive sex-ed. While we had been taught about the vas deferens and fallopian tubes, we had never been taught how to even talk about sex with a partner. I made Bang! because I thought it needed to exist.