• About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Jobs
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
    • Comment Policy
  • Shop
  • Sign In
  • Support Us
    • Give to Autostraddle
    • Become an AF+ Member
    • AF+ Gift Membership
    • Buy Our Merch
  • Home
  • AF+
    • All AF+ Posts
    • AF+ Discount Marketplace
    • Into the AF+ Advice Box
    • AF+ Roundtables
    • Personal Essays
    • Anonymous Job Confessions
    • Interview with My Significant Other
    • Things I’ve Never Asked
    • The Autostraddle Insider
    • Some Answers to Some Questions
    • Sex Diaries
    • S L I C K Erotica
    • Interview With My Ex
    • Excerpts From My Secret Diary
    • Annual Report
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • TV Show Recaps
    • TV Reviews
    • TV Lists
    • TV News & Trailers
    • TV Features
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • Autostraddle TV Awards
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Boobs On Your Tube
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 100 Best Lesbian Movies Of All Time
    • The Autostraddle Encyclopedia of Lesbian Cinema
    • Movie Lists
    • Movie Reviews
    • Movie Features
    • Movie News & Trailers
  • Entertainment
    • Literature
    • Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)
    • Style
    • Music
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
    • Comedy
    • Sports
  • Love + Sex
    • All Love + Sex Posts
    • Dating
    • Sex
    • Sex Toys
    • Lesbian Dating Apps
    • Friendship
    • Breakups
    • Relationships
    • Lesbian Weddings
    • Shibari 101
    • Tops & Bottoms
  • News
    • Politics + Activism
    • Society + Culture
    • Pop Culture Fix
  • Community
    • Culture
    • Straddleverse
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • LGBTQ+ Businesses
    • LGBT Pride
    • Autostraddle Reader Data
  • Identity
    • First Person
    • Coming Out
    • Gender
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Disability
    • Bisexuality
  • Home
    • Crafts & DIY Projects
    • Food and Drink
    • House & Garden
    • Pets & Animals
  • Games
    • Quizzes
    • Puzzles

Life

  • LGBT History
  • Health
  • Travel
  • Money + Work
  • Geekery
  • Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft
  • Holigays
  • Parenting & Family
  • Pregnancy

Etc.

  • Special Issues
  • Webcomics
  • Lists/Top Tens
  • Greatest Hits
  • Ranked by Lesbianism
  • Epic Lists
  • Shopping
  • Podcasts

  • Support Us
    • Give to Autostraddle
    • Become an AF+ Member
    • AF+ Gift Membership
    • Buy Our Merch
  • Sign In
  • Home
  • AF+
    • All AF+ Posts
    • AF+ Discount Marketplace
    • Into the AF+ Advice Box
    • AF+ Roundtables
    • Personal Essays
    • Anonymous Job Confessions
    • Interview with My Significant Other
    • Things I’ve Never Asked
    • The Autostraddle Insider
    • Some Answers to Some Questions
    • Sex Diaries
    • S L I C K Erotica
    • Interview With My Ex
    • Excerpts From My Secret Diary
    • Annual Report
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • TV Show Recaps
    • TV Reviews
    • TV Lists
    • TV News & Trailers
    • TV Features
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • Autostraddle TV Awards
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Boobs On Your Tube
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 100 Best Lesbian Movies Of All Time
    • The Autostraddle Encyclopedia of Lesbian Cinema
    • Movie Lists
    • Movie Reviews
    • Movie Features
    • Movie News & Trailers
  • Entertainment
    • Literature
    • Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)
    • Style
    • Music
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
    • Comedy
    • Sports
  • Love + Sex
    • All Love + Sex Posts
    • Dating
    • Sex
    • Sex Toys
    • Lesbian Dating Apps
    • Friendship
    • Breakups
    • Relationships
    • Lesbian Weddings
    • Shibari 101
    • Tops & Bottoms
  • News
    • Politics + Activism
    • Society + Culture
    • Pop Culture Fix
  • Community
    • Culture
    • Straddleverse
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • LGBTQ+ Businesses
    • LGBT Pride
    • Autostraddle Reader Data
  • Identity
    • First Person
    • Coming Out
    • Gender
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Disability
    • Bisexuality
  • Home
    • Crafts & DIY Projects
    • Food and Drink
    • House & Garden
    • Pets & Animals
  • Games
    • Quizzes
    • Puzzles
  • Shop
  • About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Jobs
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
    • Comment Policy
Dating First Person

On Sobriety, Recovery and the Art of Not Dating

“My sobriety buddies warned me that if I violated the ban on dating before I was ready, I might be pushed into a relapse. Instead, I’ve just been pushed into never wanting to date again.”

Reyna February 19, 2013 22 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Thinking More About Sex

The week on NSFW Sunday: self-esteem, transforming representations in porn and Best Lesbian Erotica 2013.

Ryan Yates February 17, 2013 18 Comments
Friendship

Idol Worship: Two Idols Are Better Than One, Especially When Those Two Idols Are Together

Valentine’s Day Edition! A collection of lady-loving-ladies I love loving a lady I also love in a somewhat official manner.

Carmen February 12, 2013 13 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Sleeps Nude

So much sex-related material, including porn milestones, having sex in a canoe, your first time, sexual quality improvement and erotica-writing.

Ryan Yates February 10, 2013 21 Comments
Dating

Am I On A Date Or Are We Just Two Pretty Girls Hanging Out?

“There was so much fucking estrogen and so many ladies who fist other ladies in that building, my ovaries tried to reproduce asexually.”

samantha irby February 7, 2013 239 Comments
NSFW Sunday Valentine's Day

28 Super Lesbosexy Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas

From floggers to legwarmers to boyshorts to candles to lip venom to strap-ons to so much more — 28 ideas for your special queer someone this Valentine’s Day Season.

Riese February 4, 2013 21 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Guilty As Charged

This week on NSFW Sunday: lingerie, the best vintage sci-fi porn (now with lesbian dominatrixes) and nation-wide sexual health rankings.

Ryan Yates February 3, 2013 14 Comments
Sex

You Need Help: Real Talk About Your First Strap-On

“Help! I just got a strap-on and it turns out I’m not so skilled at using it (yet). How do I learn?”

A.E. Osworth February 1, 2013 56 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Will Be A Shock To Your System

This week on NSFW Sunday: ex sex, explaining what lesbians do in bed, a smut writing manifesto, talking about porn in relationships and more.

Ryan Yates January 27, 2013 32 Comments
Lesbian Dating Apps

New App Helps Overthinkers Get A Date

Four questions. You can handle four questions. Especially when one of them is, “What’s your name?”

Kristen January 25, 2013 39 Comments
Sex

You Need Help: No One’s An Expert on Orgasms Right Away

“I’ve been hanging out/ hooking up with this girl for about a month. I have her pretty figured out physically and can get her off fairly quick, but the same can’t be said about her. I don’t have a problem with it, but it’s starting to make her upset. Help.”

A.E. Osworth January 22, 2013 44 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Wants To Hold Your Hand

This week on NSFW Sunday: killer femmes, modern love, orgasm-free casual sex, nonsexual touching, “The Barbie” and a lesbian porn party.

Ryan Yates January 20, 2013 13 Comments
Love + Sex

Formspring Friday: These Queers Desperately Need Your Advice Because We’re Stumped

Boys creating problems, exes who won’t own up to stuff, flirty best friends, and how to start checking your own privilege in the name love. It’s time to give advice to anonymous strangers on the internet!

Laneia January 18, 2013 61 Comments
Sex

What We Talk About When We Talk About Flogging

Gather ’round, queers, and let me tell you the tale of The Christmas Flogger. It is a tale of how my girlfriend and I negotiated, bought and learned to use our very first flogger.

Guest January 17, 2013 32 Comments
Love + Sex

The Guardian Impressively Talks About Gay Sex By Not Talking About It

In a recent Guardian article, British journalist and author Nick Cohen put on his whimsical ally cap and attempted to tackle an age-old question: Why are straight people so darned invested in what gays do in bed?

fonseca January 14, 2013 33 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Shameless

This week on NSFW Sunday: being a mistress, sleeping naked, sexual history curation and a queer feminist porn review.

Ryan Yates January 13, 2013 19 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Using Both Hands

This week on NSFW Sunday: Hitachi magic wands, new lesbian porn, how yoga helps your sex life, kinky fairy tales and more.

Ryan Yates January 6, 2013 7 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Making Out At Midnight

This week on NSFW Sunday: writing about sex, car sex, g-spots, the most provocative books of 2012 and more.

Ryan Yates December 30, 2012 10 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Will Think More About Sex

This week on NSFW Sunday: 2012 in sex, dream girls, open relationship interviews, dildos on airplanes and buying your first vibrator.

Ryan Yates December 23, 2012 13 Comments
Lesbian Dating Apps

I Seek, You Seek, SheSeek: Esther Zinn and her Girl-on-Girl Culture App

Meet Esther Zinn, the creator of the iPhone app that lets you find clubs, bars, events and even news for queer ladies anywhere you go.

A.E. Osworth December 21, 2012 56 Comments
← Previous Page 1 … 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 … 112 Next Page →

From the Archives

  • We Sat On Cakes to Find Our Joy
  • Leaning Into Pleasure at the Janelle Monáe Listening Party
  • Win tickets to see The Cliks and Hunter Valentine

Latest Comments

  • TaxZerone That Ugly Ass Tax Bill Disproportionately Impacts the Trans Community "Powerful and essential—thank you for this deeply informed, compassionate reporting that centers trans voices, exposes injustice, and highlights both the…"

  • Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya I Treat My Wife Like a Barbie Doll and She Likes It "the dress i wore to that gentleman jack event used to belong to kristen!"

  • Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya No One’s Doing it Quite Like the Dykes in Orlando Are Doing It "wow this is such a beautiful comment, i love it so much. “growls like deep thunder” resonates sooooo much. even…"

  • Summer Tao That Ugly Ass Tax Bill Disproportionately Impacts the Trans Community "God damn it’s wild to hear from countries where I’d be a hot-button political issue. I’m not even on the…"

Latest Posts

  • A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step
  • On Lena Dunham’s ‘Too Much’ Queer Actors Perform Straight Chaos
  • ‘Ironheart’ Brings Another Queer Witch to the MCU
  • 11 Gay Thoughts About ‘Love Island USA’ Season 7
  • No Filter: Cynthia Erivo Celebrates the Thong Song

Our Network

  • Store
  • For Them

About Us

  • What is AS?
  • Meet The Team
  • Press
  • Advertise
  • Contact Us
  • Write for Us
  • Cookie Policy
  • Privacy Policy

Follow Us

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • Tumblr
  • Instagram
  • RSS

Copyright 2009 - 2025 The Excitant Group, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Comment Policy

Read ad-free: join AF MEDIA