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Friendship

In Defense of the Queer ‘Emotional Support Ex’

Engaging with the world as a queer person means many of the roadmaps we learn at a young age in a heteronormative society are useless.

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Dating

‘I’ve Been Out of the Sex/Dating Scene and I Feel Fine About It? I Think?’

It’s like I’m sexually active in theory but not in practice.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya 4 hours ago
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Comedy Movie Lists

Movies I Watched in Key West When I Was Supposed To Write a New Novel

Last August, I was at a monthlong writing residency in Key West, Florida. While there, I did get a lot of writing done, but I also drank approximately 300 beers and watched a parade dedicated entirely to Jimmy Buffett.

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Pop Culture Fix

Tessa Thompson Plays Gay (Again) in Upcoming Nia DaCosta Film

Plus, Sophie Turner excitedly reading thirst tweets from lesbians, queer contestants in the new season of GBBO, and more!

Valerie Anne 22 hours ago
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Vote Now in the 8th Annual Autostraddle TV Awards!

Fewer gay shows are being produced and the ones that do slip through are often canceled. But that makes it all the more important to celebrate the work that does get made!

The TV Team August 25, 2025 3 Comments
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Politics + Activism

We Must Hold Local Politicians Accountable

Don’t just look at your local politicians’ Reels. Look up their public voting records.

Gabe Dunn August 25, 2025 1 Comment
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TV Feature

Abbi Jacobson on Voicing Another Queer Animated Character in ‘Long Story Short’

“I wish I got to see it when I was younger because I don’t feel like I was exposed to very many queer characters.”

Rendy Jones August 25, 2025
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Quizzes

Quiz: What Type of Lesbian Know-It-All Are You?

Lesbians. We’re full of arcane knowledge.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 24, 2025 14 Comments
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Movie Features

A Trans Guy Watches ‘Cadet Kelly’ for the First Time

This movie isn’t only lesbian. It’s a gateway to an adulthood of kink.

Gabe Dunn August 23, 2025 3 Comments
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Sports

Every Out Queer Player in the 2025 Women’s Rugby World Cup

There are more than 50 openly queer players competing at the Women’s Rugby World Cup 2025. Get to know them and respectfully thirst over them!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 22, 2025 5 Comments
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AF+ Dating

I’m 34 and Want Kids. Is It Ethical To Eliminate Older Women From My Dating Pool?

What’s the best way to approach dating when you’re looking to co-parent? And is “looking for younger women” one of those ways?

the team August 22, 2025 3 Comments
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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Queer Horoscopes for Virgo Season 2025

This particular Virgo Season arrives with a lot of intense energy.

G Weaver August 22, 2025
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Movie Reviews

Lesbian Neo-Noir ‘Honey Don’t!’ Plays With and Challenges Genre Conventions

Tricia Cooke promised us more lesbian sex, and she has delivered!

Drew Burnett Gregory August 21, 2025 7 Comments
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Movie Features

Remember When ‘Brokeback Mountain’ Lost to ‘Crash’ at the Oscars?

When it looked like Brokeback was going to sweep awards season, I couldn’t believe it. Queerness wouldn’t be a joke anymore.

Gabe Dunn August 21, 2025 1 Comment
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First Person

On Never Seeing Someone Again

The most jarring parts of my breakups have been the number of people who I will never see again.

Gabe Dunn August 20, 2025 3 Comments
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No Filter: These ‘Hacks’ Season 4 Bloopers Are Delightful

Plus, Cynthia Erivo stays working and I’m begging Hollywood to let Keke play Whitney Houston!!!!

Christina Tucker August 20, 2025
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Sex

How To Explore Pregnancy Fetish and Kink During Pregnancy

Whether exploring pregnancy fetish or embarking on kinky exploration with a pregnant pleasure vessel, your options for satiating your desires are as limitless as your imagination.

Madison Young August 20, 2025 1 Comment
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Dating

‘I Went on a Not-Quite-Date With a Woman in a Relationship and Now I’m Down Bad’

“Do I tell this person how I feel because I don’t find genuine emotional connections/attraction like this very often?”

Summer Tao August 19, 2025 5 Comments
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Politics + Activism

Boston Children’s Hospital Is Standing Up for Trans Youth

Also, trans athletes are really out here making sure these colleges and sports governing bodies don’t get away with their anti-trans bullshit.

Stef Rubino August 19, 2025
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