Guides often suggest a masturbation practice, getting to know your own unique fantasies, or even challenging yourself to watch porn. But there’s no one perfect method; here’s a bit of a different approach!
“Whether it’s the gay internet or a show like ‘Trinkets’ it makes it easier to be like maybe I’m not the one that’s wrong. Maybe everyone around me is wrong.”
No one is bad at sex.
Guess you better learn how to watch Quibi! Also: a trans high school rom-com, all the Javicia Leslie Batwoman news you can handle, TCA Awards for A Black Lady Sketch Show, and give this duck its own TV show.
Although I don’t think the Limba will be a go-to dildo to use with partners, it surprised me by being one of the most powerful G-spot toys I’ve ever used – and I’ve used a lot!
By pairing a visceral portrayal with thorough descriptions of OCD, “Pure” becomes a teaching tool as well as a delightful dramedy. It’s also just a really good and gay story about a 20-something trying to figure out how to be a good person.
“I feel like I’m very much a stickler for how Black church is shown on TV, and I think a lot of people get it wrong in movies and TV a lot, like it just never is quite right. And I feel like Hollywood is that way too. And I felt like this [portrayal of Hollywood] was very accurate, and I was shocked!”
Jamie is a gorgeous, successful architect. Dana is an event planner who once fell down a flight of stairs. They couldn’t be less alike!
Happy Sunday! Miss Major and Beck are having a baby, Lena Waithe has a cute LA office, queer women are finding their place in ballet, a recipe for strawberry and pecan scones to use up your sourdough daughters, and more!
The key difference between boundaries and walls, whether masturbation is good for you when you’re sick, what science has to say about porn this week, and more.
I know salad is known to many people as a kind of ascetic diet food, but I grew up eating luxurious salads that my mom made. What I love about salads is that they’re like a live jazz solo, where you can throw together the same ingredients over and over again, and they’ll always be good, but never quite in the same way.
Finding the soundtracks that have been there all along, making room for new sounds.
This week’s Extra! Extra! Offers more reflections on police brutality and delves into some damning news coming out of Trumpland. We also look at some LGBTQ+ news from around the world and dive into some of the not-so-great situations unfolding in Europe. And to close out, a look at the state of the Internet, climate change and the pandemic.
“Foxy Brown quickly became my favorite film of the blaxploitation classica. Pam Grier — yes, that Pam Grier, Bette’s big sister (it’ll annoy me forever that that’s how generations of queer women remember Grier) — was just astounding in the titular role… badass and unrelentingly sexy. The other awesome thing about that movie? I think it was the first time I’d seen a lesbian bar on screen.”
If you think all the buzzer-beating action happened in the NBA this week, it’s probably because you didn’t have access to WNBA games.
“Lesbian tennis elbow is real…and not just for tennis enthusiasts.”
Autostraddle recently spoke with Tina Horn via video call to chat about the first volume of SFSX, her myriad influences, building community around art, the sex worker rights’ movement, and incels.
![Illustration of a erotic video site called Fet Tube. A video of a woman lying nude with a microphone pointed down between her legs is in the process of playing. There’s a look of ecstasy on her face and her fingers languidly part her mouth open. A pop-up window is overlaid across her that says “Send me a private message for only $9.99!“. The title of the video below reads “18+ NSFW ASMR - Listen to my BODY & RELAX :) [Adults only vibes]“. The user bio reads “Welcome to my body party. Enjoy the relaxing sounds of my microphones brushing against my leg hairs.” in the sidebar are thumbnails for other porn videos.](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/slick-wannacyber.jpg?fit=640%2C320)
Mostly I had chalked my ambivalence up to stifling antidepressants and emotional avoidance. Was I gutted of desire or was this a case of under exposure? Or was I supposed to own my simpleton truth and scream from a cliff, “I just want to dim the lights and be pegged, goddamnit!”
Niecy Nash Says and Jessica Betts, Roxane Gay and Debbie Millman, and all your favorite grown-up gay love stories! Plus Canadian World Cup soccer star Quinn came out as transgender (congrats!!), and some ‘Pro-Sex, Anti-Fascist’ art to decorate your walls.
The people who fantasize about library sex, excerpts and fall reading lists galore, Black-owned bookstores and radical bookstores, pandemic creativity and more.