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AF+

Did My Partner Trick Me Into a Lifetime of Sexless Monogamy?

In today’s A+ advice box: is a miscommunication over polyamory really the issue here or is your relationship simply broken and toxic? Plus; advice about feeling insecure when texting a partner and getting into being handy!

the team March 8, 2024 3 Comments
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Movie Features

‘American Fiction’ Was Never About Its Satire

Despite what many reviews — and even its own PR campaign — might say, American Fiction is not very interested in white people at all.

Carmen Phillips March 8, 2024 6 Comments
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Dating

Top 15 Questions I’ve Asked to Vet People on Dates

10. I’m a bit ashamed of this, but it’s the honest truth. I could never be with a Swiftie hater. At best, I can deal with indifference.

Em Win March 8, 2024 7 Comments
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Puzzles

Mini Crossword Is Neither a Top Nor a Bottom

I’m going to try attaching a light fixture to my ceiling later.

Kate Hawkins March 8, 2024
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TV Feature

The Polyamorous Devils of “Couple to Throuple” Are Ready to Blow Up Gender Norms

Peacock’s polyamorous dating show Couple to Throuple got two things right: Ash and Maximo.

Gabe Dunn March 7, 2024 2 Comments
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Movie Features

Bad Movies From the 2000s I Loved Because Two Women Make Out

Here’s the thing about bad movies between 2004 and 2006: A lot of them featured women making out.

Drew Burnett Gregory March 7, 2024 4 Comments
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Movie Features

In “Past Lives,” It Really Is All on the Page

If you have yet to see Past Lives, you should watch it as soon as possible. But I think you should read the film, too.

Georgie Morvis March 7, 2024
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Movie Features TV Feature

“Euphoria” Characters Ranked By How Likely They’d Survive “Dune”

Get ready for the Zendaya crossover nobody wanted!

Drew Burnett Gregory March 7, 2024 2 Comments
Dating

Top 15 Strangest Things I’ve Done (or Have Been Done to Me) on a First Date

9. Got rejected because I didn’t pay enough attention to someone’s dog
8. Got rejected because I paid too much attention to someone’s dog

Drew Burnett Gregory March 7, 2024 9 Comments
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TV Show Recaps

Good Trouble Series Finale Recap: It’s Not Where You Come From, It’s Where You Belong

Lots of shows have diverse casts, but very few shows bring that diversity to the fore on a consistent basis. Above all else, this is the thing I’ll take with me about Good Trouble — this is how diversity should look.

Natalie March 6, 2024 1 Comment
Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: “Love Lies Bleeding” Premiere Full of Queer Stars and Sex Scenes Discourse

Kristen Stewart really wanted to nail the nailing in ‘Love Lies Bleeing.” Also: Aida Osman stars in Teen Vogue’s Young Hollywood Issue, One Million Moms is upset about a lesbian car commercial, and more!

Riese March 6, 2024
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Movie Features

The Most Important Relationship in “Anatomy of a Fall” Is Between Mother and Son

The first time I heard people posing the question of whether or not Sandra killed her husband, I thought it was a joke. To me, it was obvious the court drama was just set dressing for something more complicated.

Aamina Inayat Khan March 6, 2024
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Movie Lists TV Lists

Top 15 Black Actresses Over 50 Who I Think Should Play Gay (Again)

15. Did I put Jennifer Beals this low purely to make a joke about Bette Porter being a bottom?

Carmen Phillips March 6, 2024 33 Comments
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Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

No Filter: Have You Stopped and Considered How Grateful You Are for Queen Latifah Today?

Also, Ayo Edebiri is absolutely cleaning up this awards season!

Christina Tucker March 6, 2024
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Puzzles

Mini Crossword Takes Off

In 2020 I didn’t do a marathon. I didn’t do one in 2021, 2022, or 2023, either.

Emet Ozar March 6, 2024
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Geekery

An Unkempt List of Great Video Games for Queer Relationships

Someone saw Stardew Valley and decided it wasn’t gay enough. That’s how we ended up with Fae Farm.

Summer Tao March 5, 2024 7 Comments
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Movie Features

From “My Best Friend’s Wedding” to “The Holdovers,” Paul Giamatti Is One of Cinema’s Great Listeners

To understand the magnitude of Paul Giamatti’s warm, yet thorny performance in The Holdovers, you must go further back into his filmography where the seeds of his on-screen persona were sown.

Marya E. Gates March 5, 2024 1 Comment
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Dating

You Need Help: I Don’t Get Excited To See My Girlfriend

“I feel guilty about being so confused and not being able to decide if I like her or not. I’m worried that I’m leading her on.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 5, 2024 8 Comments
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Comedy

Top 15 Most Top Things I Do

13. Have over 100 unread texts

Motti March 5, 2024 5 Comments
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Comedy

Top 15 Most Bottom Things I Do

2. Reference my “top era,” which only really existed in my mind

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 5, 2024 1 Comment
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