• About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Jobs
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
    • Comment Policy
  • Shop
  • Sign In
  • Support Us
    • Give to Autostraddle
    • Become an AF+ Member
    • AF+ Gift Membership
    • Buy Our Merch
  • Home
  • AF+
    • All AF+ Posts
    • AF+ Discount Marketplace
    • Into the AF+ Advice Box
    • AF+ Roundtables
    • Personal Essays
    • Anonymous Job Confessions
    • Interview with My Significant Other
    • Things I’ve Never Asked
    • The Autostraddle Insider
    • Some Answers to Some Questions
    • Sex Diaries
    • S L I C K Erotica
    • Interview With My Ex
    • Excerpts From My Secret Diary
    • Annual Report
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • TV Show Recaps
    • TV Reviews
    • TV Lists
    • TV News & Trailers
    • TV Features
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • Autostraddle TV Awards
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Boobs On Your Tube
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 100 Best Lesbian Movies Of All Time
    • The Autostraddle Encyclopedia of Lesbian Cinema
    • Movie Lists
    • Movie Reviews
    • Movie Features
    • Movie News & Trailers
  • Entertainment
    • Literature
    • Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)
    • Style
    • Music
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
    • Comedy
    • Sports
  • Love + Sex
    • All Love + Sex Posts
    • Dating
    • Lesbian Sex
    • Sex Toys
    • Lesbian Dating Apps
    • Friendship
    • Breakups
    • Relationships
    • Lesbian Weddings
    • Shibari 101
    • Tops & Bottoms
  • News
    • Politics + Activism
    • Society + Culture
    • Pop Culture Fix
  • Community
    • Culture
    • Straddleverse
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • LGBTQ+ Businesses
    • LGBT Pride
    • Autostraddle Reader Data
  • Identity
    • First Person
    • Coming Out
    • Gender
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Disability
    • Bisexuality
  • Home
    • Crafts & DIY Projects
    • Food and Drink
    • House & Garden
    • Pets & Animals
  • Games
    • Quizzes
    • Puzzles

Life

  • LGBT History
  • Health
  • Travel
  • Money + Work
  • Geekery
  • Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft
  • Holigays
  • Parenting & Family
  • Pregnancy

Etc.

  • Special Issues
  • Webcomics
  • Lists/Top Tens
  • Greatest Hits
  • Ranked by Lesbianism
  • Epic Lists
  • Shopping
  • Podcasts

  • Support Us
    • Give to Autostraddle
    • Become an AF+ Member
    • AF+ Gift Membership
    • Buy Our Merch
  • Sign In
  • Home
  • AF+
    • All AF+ Posts
    • AF+ Discount Marketplace
    • Into the AF+ Advice Box
    • AF+ Roundtables
    • Personal Essays
    • Anonymous Job Confessions
    • Interview with My Significant Other
    • Things I’ve Never Asked
    • The Autostraddle Insider
    • Some Answers to Some Questions
    • Sex Diaries
    • S L I C K Erotica
    • Interview With My Ex
    • Excerpts From My Secret Diary
    • Annual Report
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • TV Show Recaps
    • TV Reviews
    • TV Lists
    • TV News & Trailers
    • TV Features
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • Autostraddle TV Awards
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Boobs On Your Tube
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 100 Best Lesbian Movies Of All Time
    • The Autostraddle Encyclopedia of Lesbian Cinema
    • Movie Lists
    • Movie Reviews
    • Movie Features
    • Movie News & Trailers
  • Entertainment
    • Literature
    • Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)
    • Style
    • Music
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
    • Comedy
    • Sports
  • Love + Sex
    • All Love + Sex Posts
    • Dating
    • Lesbian Sex
    • Sex Toys
    • Lesbian Dating Apps
    • Friendship
    • Breakups
    • Relationships
    • Lesbian Weddings
    • Shibari 101
    • Tops & Bottoms
  • News
    • Politics + Activism
    • Society + Culture
    • Pop Culture Fix
  • Community
    • Culture
    • Straddleverse
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • LGBTQ+ Businesses
    • LGBT Pride
    • Autostraddle Reader Data
  • Identity
    • First Person
    • Coming Out
    • Gender
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Disability
    • Bisexuality
  • Home
    • Crafts & DIY Projects
    • Food and Drink
    • House & Garden
    • Pets & Animals
  • Games
    • Quizzes
    • Puzzles
  • Shop
  • About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Jobs
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
    • Comment Policy
9 across / 4 letters / "Call Me By Your ___" (2017 Luca Guadagnino film)
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword’s Got a Real Jam Goin’ Down

And across, too!

Kate Hawkins and Rachel
July 5, 2025
One image shows three people outside at night in an urban setting, the other shows people's limbs tangled together but like, in a sexy way
AF+ Dating

I’m Moving In With My Ex-Situationship (Wait, There’s More)

She’s dating your bestie, still flirts with you, and you’re all three moving in together?! Also, a reader wonders if she’s really a lesbian if all of her exes came out as trans men.

the team July 4, 2025
ultimatum queer love cast with tolandback
AF+ Podcasts TV Feature

To L and Back Podcast: Ultimatum Queer Love Edition, Episodes 208 – 210

We got the ‘To L and Back’ band back together to discuss the messy glory of ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’ — the pain, the glory, the tongue kissing in sushi restaurants and why Haley does NOT in fact owe Dayna an apology.

Riese July 3, 2025
Every Al Pacino movie is gay: Pacino in The Godfather with the Out the Movies logo on the bottom
AF+ Movie Features

Every Al Pacino Movie Is Gay

The queerness of Pacino’s filmography is a reminder. While the media and your worst uncle claim the newness of queer and trans people, the truth is we have always been here. This cinema belongs to us as much as it does any straight film bro.

Drew Burnett Gregory July 3, 2025 3 Comments
13 down / 3 letters / Actress Hari who played Gittel in "Transparent"
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is Not So Odd

Normalize crosswords!!

Emet Ozar and Rachel
June 28, 2025
One image shows two women embracing, another shows a woman being literally held back by her boyfriend
AF+ Love + Sex

My Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust Me to Party at Pride This Year

You cheated on your boyfriend and now he’s asking you to stay home from Pride parties — is that fair? Also, how to navigate different types of political activism.

the team June 27, 2025 6 Comments
mal being filmed for the ultimatum queer love
AF+ TV Feature

Mal Wright Didn’t Want To Be Your Favorite ‘Ultimatum: Queer Love’ Cast Member

In anticipation of the Season Two premiere, Mal tells us everything about how The Ultimatum: Queer Love works and what was really going on behind the scenes, from Choice Day procedure to Reunion regrets.

Riese June 24, 2025 4 Comments
A close crop of an oil painting shows two people in an embrace
AF+ Lesbian Sex

The Former Long-Distance Couple Who F*cked So Much They Made Each Other Sick

“I was showing up to classes late, missing deadlines, covered in hickeys.”

Sex/Life June 24, 2025 2 Comments
three people side hugging each other
AF+ Breakups

The People We Miss From Breakups Other Than Our Exes

I think of all the people who exited my life because of breakups and how neither of us knew our final conversations with each other were exactly that.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and the team
June 23, 2025 6 Comments
Dakota Johnson and Pedro Pascal dance in Materialists. The Dykes Discuss logo at the bottom of the frame.
AF+ Movie Features

Dykes Discuss Celine Song’s ‘Materialists’

Two dykes break down the baffling heterosexuality (and plot choices) in Celine Song’s second film, Materialists.

Drew Burnett Gregory and Christina Tucker
June 21, 2025 1 Comment
2 down / 4 letters / "Veneno" Actress Rodriguez
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Says the Magic Words

Just thinking about how Abra evolves into Kadabra evolves into Alakazam.

Rebecca Goldstein and Rachel
June 21, 2025
One image shows a nun holding a rosary, another shows a young woman moving luggage across a parking lot
AF+ Identity

Should I Stick It Out at My Christian College?

You could graduate debt-free, or you could see what else is out there. Also, we help a nonbinary reader feel more supported in this binary world.

the team June 20, 2025
Agnes Varda and Jane Birkin with the Out the Movies logo at the bottom
AF+ Movie Features

Of Course Agnès Varda Was Bisexual

The reveal that Varda was bisexual should have filled me with the joy of a Gaylor finding a Karli Kloss sex tape. Instead, it felt like information I’d already known.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 19, 2025
AF+ First Person

I Miss Feeling Hot

My surgeon informed me that I’d have to spend the rest of Pride Month with my hair pulled back, ointment gooped on, and absolutely no hotness allowed.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 18, 2025 1 Comment
a dream door into a tarot card
AF+ Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Cowboy Clairvoyant’s Guide To Pulling Three Tarot Cards for Yourself

Cowboy Clairvoyant interprets two dreams and also provides a short guide to pulling three tarot cards for yourself.

Autumn Fourkiller June 16, 2025
26 across / 9 letters / Torrey Peters novel about lumberjacks engaged in gender exploration
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Learned the Word ‘Foofaraw’ Today

The more you know!

Emet Ozar and Rachel
June 14, 2025
One image shows a person with her hand on a man's shoulder. The other shows someone covering their face.
AF+ Friendship

I Actually Don’t Need to Hear About Your Trans Allyship!

Your friends are on your side and they can’t wait to tell you about it! Also, we help a trans reader who’s nervous about international travel.

the team June 13, 2025
A close crop of an oil painting shows a woman's hand reaching for another woman's arm
AF+ Lesbian Sex

The Polyamorous NYC Couple with a Daddy / Baby Girl Dynamic

Group sex, mutual masturbation, radical honesty, and lots of oral! The classics, really.

Sex/Life June 10, 2025
9 down / 4 letters / Honey wine (beverage that the "Redwall" books made 90s kids think would be FAR more prevalent in the adult world than it turned out to be)
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Has Unrealistically High Beverage Expectations

Thanks a lot, Brian Jacques.

Kate Hawkins and Rachel
June 7, 2025 2 Comments
One image shows a thin person on the beach, the other shows someone with their knees pulled into their chest looking sad
AF+ Friendship

My Queer Friends Are Mean About How Skinny I Am

Is it ever ok to comment on another person’s body? Also, we help a reader with a loud late-night roommate.

the team June 6, 2025
1 2 3 4 … 52 Next Page →

From the Archives

  • “The Morning Show” Has Mommy Issues
  • I’m A Whole Milk Gay and I’m Not Ashamed
  • Queer Feminist Essay Collection Explores Horrors of Motherhood

Latest Comments

  • Hannah No Filter: Elliot Page Closes Out Pride by Hard Launching With Overcompensating’s Julia Shiplett "Your comment is hilariously and ironically self-involved. Why should a US-based site focus more on international celebrities that you personally…"

  • bri303 25 Lesbian Movies on Hulu That You Can Watch Right Now For Fun If You Want "link resmi bri303 terpercaya bri303"

  • Johanna ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’ Season 2, Reunion Recap: Who Is Still Together? "lol the bot wrote about the wrong season"

  • totoraja 25 Lesbian Movies on Hulu That You Can Watch Right Now For Fun If You Want "dont stop it me totoraja"

Latest Posts

  • AF+ Crossword’s Got a Real Jam Goin’ Down
  • I’m Moving In With My Ex-Situationship (Wait, There’s More)
  • Benedict Nguyễn Finds Performance On the Page
  • What Queer Americans Can Learn From Hungary
  • ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’ Season 2, Reunion Recap: Who Is Still Together?

Our Network

  • Store
  • For Them

About Us

  • What is AS?
  • Meet The Team
  • Press
  • Advertise
  • Contact Us
  • Write for Us
  • Cookie Policy
  • Privacy Policy

Follow Us

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • Tumblr
  • Instagram
  • RSS

Copyright 2009 - 2025 The Excitant Group, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Comment Policy

Read ad-free: join AF MEDIA