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AF+ Parenting & Family

Should We Be Paying Our Friends To Babysit?

They’re doing well financially and love your kid — should you still offer money? Also; tips on giving complements to mascs and butches.

the team August 29, 2025 9 Comments
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the team August 22, 2025 3 Comments
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Autumn Fourkiller August 18, 2025
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AF+ Lesbian Weddings

Must I Invite My Homophobic Stepdad To My Homosexual Wedding?

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the team August 15, 2025
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AF+ Sex

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Sex/Life August 14, 2025
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The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico August 13, 2025 4 Comments
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Your best friend is shaming you for the kind of porn that gets you off. Also; tips on having more threesomes.

the team August 8, 2025
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AF+ Sex

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Sex/Life August 7, 2025 1 Comment
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How To Choose Between Two Paths Using the Tarot

We’ve all been faced with the challenge of deciding between two paths. Here’s a practice that can help.

Autumn Fourkiller August 4, 2025
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How Do I Talk To My Family About Harry Potter?

How do you talk to your family about JK Rowling’s transphobia? And what to do about your poly kinky friend who seems bored by your monogamous life?

the team August 1, 2025 2 Comments
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AF+ Sex

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Sex/Life July 31, 2025
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Should I Cut My Maternity Leave Short To Help My Coworkers?

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the team July 25, 2025 5 Comments
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AF+ Sex

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Sex/Life July 24, 2025
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You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Autumn Fourkiller July 23, 2025 2 Comments
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the team July 18, 2025 6 Comments
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AF+ Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

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Breaking up is hard to do, yes, but not impossible.

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the team July 11, 2025
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