What If It’s a Woman?
“We spoke up. Hell, this was post-#MeToo era. We were heroes. I was… a hero. So, why did I feel so much shame when, a year later, a woman sexually assaulted me?”
“We spoke up. Hell, this was post-#MeToo era. We were heroes. I was… a hero. So, why did I feel so much shame when, a year later, a woman sexually assaulted me?”
“My partner and I have an open relationship. While we used to be really honest about things, when I met someone I actually liked, E, they decided they didnt want to know about it.”
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What do you call an everyday potato?
Advice on supporting a partner rejected by their family, non-competitive boardgames, period depression…and more!
Did you hear the one about the kid who started a shoelace-tying business?
Because time is a flat circle and we are, if anything, cyclical beings.
“Po’Chop asks us to list adjectives we associate with masculinity. I think of men I want to emulate — Stanley Tucci, Mandy Patinkin, my dad. We pace and pose with these adjectives in mind, cheer each other on through acting out these poses. It’s the most I have thought about existing in my body in a long time, and the awkwardness starts to give way to appreciation, and even a bit of confidence.”
What do you call a number that can’t keep still?
How do you build chosen family? Should you consider pursuing romantic connection when your friends have become more distant? And do we have ideas for your anniversary celebration? (We do!)
50% off is kind of a lot!
“Today I am 28. It is 2023. In Nigeria, it is illegal to do the things I did freely at the beaches in Toronto; watch my queer friends kiss under the eyes of a cloudy sun, hold hands with a woman on a rain-less night intoxicated by wine and wishfulness. I lie to a taxi driver, tell him that I have a fiancé. I show him a picture, a man. My cousin doesn’t know how often his image has saved me from lecherous men. Here, fiction can be a raft in a sea…”
What can a publication do that tries to center trans people all-year-round?
I’m a big fan of whiteboards.
“Legislators pass laws enabling families to control children and defund social services that support them, all in the name of protecting the wealthy, white, girl body. These policies, which are part of the theater of stranger danger discourse, endanger children by isolating them in their homes, where Lego fortresses can become wine cellars, tombs. JonBenét as a symbol becomes the sacrifice used to sustain this system. Her story becomes a dark illustration of the consumption of the violence and abuse inflicted on girls and women.”
“I’ve always loved the water. Before top surgery, when my discomfort with my body was at an all time high, swimming was the one thing I could do that gave me a sense of freedom. It felt safe to connect to my body in an environment where I could be weightless and enjoy moving with ease. I could be held by something when I was too self conscious to be touched by other people. I learned to swim in the pool at a hotel gym near the house I grew up in. My father taught me…”
“A while ago, my gender friend and I realized we had both searched “power bottom” on Autostraddle, within the same week.” This week’s writer takes us to a leather play party for women and trans people and more!
What do you call a fish wearing a bowtie?
How to stand up to straight people wedding expectations, deal with disappointment around a potential sperm donor, decide whether or not to cut off given family, know whether you should ask your ex-boss out, and more!
“I drove so fast away from her, that house, that man, that job, those lost friends, those queer dance parties, that supportive church, the community I created, without a single sound.”