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Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

“Women are so socialized — successfully or not — to be objects of desire, not subjects of desire, on a sexual marketplace.”

Riese May 15, 2025 5 Comments
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The Mid-30s Divorcées Who Once Built a Sex Throne

From the friend zone to the throne room, a tale as old as time.

Sex/Life May 13, 2025
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What Do Dreams About Snake Bites Mean?

Plus, dreams about owls, exes (always), and some words of wisdom for your week.

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AF+ Crossword Has Joined a Fantasy League

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May 10, 2025 1 Comment
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Please Stop Telling My Older Girlfriend Not to Date Me

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the team May 9, 2025 4 Comments
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I Tried To Watch Every Lesbian Movie Ever

By the time I’d been out for two years, I’d seen more movies about cis lesbians than any of the cis lesbians I was meeting.

Drew Burnett Gregory May 8, 2025 2 Comments
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Our Best Memories With Our Worst Exes

Even bad relationships contain good memories.

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May 6, 2025 6 Comments
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Cowboy Clairvoyant answers your questions for the tarot and provides a ritual for joy.

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AF+ Crossword Is So Back

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May 3, 2025 10 Comments
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She dumped you after finding out you cheated on a past girlfriend! Also, how can you interact with straight women without seeming like a man-hating lesbian?

the team May 2, 2025
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Riese May 1, 2025 26 Comments
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Learn all about Black Moon Lilith, the part of your birth chart that chooses freedom over conformity.

G Weaver April 30, 2025 4 Comments
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Sex/Life April 29, 2025
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AF+ Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

What Does It Mean To Dream About Alien Abduction?

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the team April 25, 2025 4 Comments
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Out the Movies: Times I’ve Been Wrong

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Drew Burnett Gregory April 24, 2025 3 Comments
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Drew Burnett Gregory April 23, 2025 3 Comments
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AF+ Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

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Autumn Fourkiller April 21, 2025 1 Comment
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AF+ Breakups

Literally Dreaming About Sex With My Ex

The sex you’re having now is fine, but the sex with her was incredible (unfortunately). Also we help a reader whose girlfriend won’t stop singing show tunes!

the team April 18, 2025 3 Comments
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AF+ First Person

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The Parlour is a new weekly newsletter and column for paid members that invites you into a space for unfiltered, of-the-moment queer slice-of-life writing. Think of it like a diary passed between your favorite queer writers!

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