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AF+ Money + Work Relationships

I Want My Girlfriend To Quit Acting and Get a Job

Are you the asshole for asking your girlfriend to give up her acting dreams and get a real job? Also, we help a reader decide if it’s time to break up.

the team August 16, 2024 2 Comments
4 down / 5 letters / "___ Kelly" (2002 Hillary Duff banger featuring a fabulous extended dance duet in military dress with ribbons and a lot of girl-on-girl tension)
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Mini Crossword Has Flames on the Side of Its Face

It was the mini crossword in the study with the candlestick!

Kate Hawkins August 16, 2024 1 Comment
1 across / 5 letters / ___PadSeries.com (LGBTQ+ porn site)
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Mini Crossword Is a Poet

And boy does Mini Crossword know it.

Emet Ozar August 14, 2024
15 down / 3 letters / "___ vs. Carole" (film staring Kate McKinnon as Carole Baskin)
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is Into Show Tunes

This puzzle is for you, musical theater lovers.

Kate Hawkins August 10, 2024
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AF+ Breakups

I Thought The Breakup Would Make Me Feel Better — But I’ve Never Felt Worse

Just wondering if anyone else has an ex who is a good and wonderful person who they feel crazy for breaking up with? And also what kinds of plants should a curious cat owner buy?

the team August 9, 2024 2 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Mini Crossword Just Loves TV So Much

Specifically, Mini Crossword is currently on a Buffy kick. This is not a spoiler, it’s just a confession.

Emet Ozar August 9, 2024
4 across / 3 letters / Genre for Megan Thee Stallion
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Mini Crossword Knows the Italian Word for ‘Handsome’

Bet you weren’t expecting a pop quiz on Italian vocabulary!

Rebecca Goldstein August 7, 2024
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AF+ Relationships

I Think My Girlfriend Is Cheating On Me With Her Work Wife

The knowing glances, the closeness, the fact that she’s your girlfriend’s type…??? Also, can you transition from exes to friends with a longterm gf if you’re still really mad?

the team August 2, 2024
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AF+ Relationships

I Read My Girlfriend’s Diary and Now I’m Using It To My Advantage

The intel you gathered has improved your relationship, but can you come back from this sin? Plus advice for gender expansive workplace dialogue!

the team July 26, 2024 3 Comments
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AF+ Gender Relationships

Is My Butchness Ruining Our Relationship?

Your style is leaning more masculine these days, and compliments from your girlfriend have dried up. Also we share reading recs on the topic of gender and desire!

the team July 19, 2024 3 Comments
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AF+ Friendship

My Friend Expects Me To Hate Their Ex. I Just Can’t Do It.

A breakup within the friend group has spawned a lil’ ethics crisis! Plus, what the f*ck do you do when everything’s changed and you don’t know what you want anymore?

the team July 12, 2024 5 Comments
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AF+ Relationships

I Moved In With My Girlfriend and Now I Don’t Like Them Anymore

You moved in with your girlfriend and now she’s annoying the f*ck out of you. Also; some major small-town poly drama!

the team July 5, 2024 1 Comment
AF+ Crossword Is Looking For a Beach Read
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is Looking For a Beach Read

If you are also looking for a beach read, we’ve got a few recs in this puzzle!

Emet Ozar June 29, 2024 2 Comments
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AF+ Relationships

I Hate That I Want My Girlfriend To Stop Posting Sexy Pics Of Herself On Social Media

A girlfriend’s sex-positivity is crossing a line — but it’s a line you don’t even want to have. Also, a reader outed a cheater and now it’s just Drama City!

the team June 28, 2024
11 across / 3 letters / "___ Last Stop" (Casey McQuiston novel)
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is Having Girl Dinner

😋

Darby Ratliff June 22, 2024 1 Comment
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AF+ Dating

Am I Being Biphobic Or Just Setting Boundaries?

You bonded over a lesbian identity but now she’s exploring bisexuality, and you’re poly and you really don’t want a cis man in the mix. Plus advice for transitioning from LDR to IRL LIVING 2GETHER.

the team June 21, 2024 9 Comments
4 across / 3 letters / "Yellowjackets" network, for short
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is a Hat Gay

But the kind that appreciates that there are non-hat gays out there.

Kate Hawkins June 15, 2024
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AF+ Parenting & Family

My Family’s Mad at Me For Refusing To Go on a Homophobic Vacation

Your sister-in-law is being blatantly homophobic — IN JUNE — and your family’s mad that you’re mad about it. Also, we settle a debate for the ages: blinds open or closed for TV time?

the team June 14, 2024 6 Comments
18 down / 4 letters / Equipment for the Rockford Peaches
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is Working Up an Appetite

This puzzle may leave you feeling a bit peckish.

Emet Ozar June 8, 2024 2 Comments
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AF+ Parenting & Family

Is It Crazy To Ask My Brother To Change His Daughter’s Name For Me?

Everybody in your family knew you were gonna name your kid after your Mom — but your brother beat you to it. What now? Also, a lesbian cat lover struggles with the possibility of a dog in the home.

the team June 7, 2024 5 Comments
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