The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 80, May 2021
Remember Tila Tequila?
Remember Tila Tequila?
To exist as a queer/trans Asian/Pacific Islander means to put your stakes in the ground and to say, “I am all of these identities, and I exist, so therefore these identities are me. They must be.”
I lifted up your floral skirt / and with a smile, began to flirt / lightly ‘round your pussy lips / engaging with my fingertips / the outside of your dripping wet crevasse.
For the first themed A+ Advice Box in our new themed series, you asked questions about dating yourself after having a kid, dating your partner after lockdown, using dating apps when you are tired of screens in general, getting into casual dating, dating again after time periods ranging from 7 months to 4 years, whether love is a lie, and more!
It was her. Her thighs, her stomach, her chin, her eyes, her balls, her lips, her long fingers. Her breasts like year-long tear drops hanging against a backdrop of soft white clouds in the sky. She sat down on the stone facade and her thighs spread like water.
The AS team tackles advice for entering your 30’s (and we’d love to see yours in the comments), as well as advice for a member who’s found their sex drive has disappeared shortly after moving in with a partner, advice on coming out and labels, untangling trauma while exploring sex with your partner, finding boots that don’t make your feet hurt, and more!
This month we have pleasure coach and experienced workshop leader Luna Matatas to teach you everything you need to know about how to have great gay sex for the first time.
How Well Do You Really Know Your Sex Bench? Take This Quiz to Find Out.
Why are there so many TV shows about high school kids who don’t act like high school kids at all?
We answer questions from A+ members about disclosing PTSD while dating, coping with siblings who judge others for choosing to have children, healthy boundaries with partners, body acceptance and more!
“Sometimes winning the switch fight meant kind of losing. When you were both switches, though, everybody won no matter the outcome. It all came down to pride and play.”
The team offers advice to A+ members who asked whether a relationship can make it if you don’t feel you’re sexually compatible, what to do when falling hard for a queer coworker, and more!
Spiritually, we’re all making candles with Queen Latifah.
This month, Archie Bongiovanni is bringing you their years of experience at Minneapolis indie sex shop Smitten Kitten to talk you through everything about choosing, buying and using sex toys as a queer person.
It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who still doesn’t feel okay when you’re grieving and dealing with mental health challenges in a culture that doesn’t know how to make space for either; we wanted to take this time to be honest about what we’re struggling with most at this point so at least you know you aren’t alone.
Breaking your roommates’ Covid precaution agreement, long-distance relationship panic, formalwear, should you break up with your partner when they’re going through a rough time, and more!
After the year we’ve had, we deserve the joy of debating which lesbian couple is better and who should’ve been seeded where. So we’re bringing back March Madness this year… and we’re exploring new ways to make the experience more fun and interactive for our readers!
“I had a kind of dirty dream about you. Do you want to hear about it?” You laugh, and fuck, that sound twists itself inside my chest like a fist. I want to make you laugh more. Your voice drops, somewhere between a whisper and a quake. “It started with me kissing you.”
sometime this year you are going to steal your first pack of cigarettes from *redacted*’s mom: please don’t ? you will like them far too much and also will feel bad forever for stealing
Truly the sky is the limit! Ask about anything!