A+ members get their personal advice questions answered by Autostraddle writers, twice a month in the A+ Advice Box! This week Autostraddle team answers A+ member questions about biphobia, struggling to text friends back, dealing with gender feelings and weight gain, tips for hot strap-on sex, finding that perfect masc-of-center scent and more!
“I hope Elvira is as excited about my queerness as I am about hers.”
A Countess challenges her newest trans maid to make a sopping wet gamble. “The Countess said she could use whatever means necessary, and Myra had assumed she meant some form of corporal punishment. But the Countess was going to pee on her.”
From frustrating job searches, to toxic leadership, from vaccine mandates to extreme nonprofit overwork, from coming out to a coworker to finding ways to actually enjoying downtime — the Autostraddle team addresses your questions about getting by in the workplace, being queer in your career, and making it through the day while surviving capitalism.
A young trans woman moves to Severton Manor to serve a Countess with sexual favors. “‘Ahhhh!’ the Countess cried, rubbing her lips on the maid’s face like a boot stomping out a cigarette.”
The Autostraddle team offers A+ members advice on topics from changing your name, to working as one of the only out queer teachers at a middle school, feeling pulled between different causes, maybe finally taking a break from a draining friendship, feeling like you don’t fit into queer community, and so much more!
“I passive aggressively liked it.”
“Heather Hogan’s misandry gives me LIFE.” Welcome to Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us: in which the Autostraddle senior team answers q’s A+ members send in, freaks out with you over exciting news and responds to your all-consuming need to share various things!
Our narrator learns that their girlfriend is actually a lobster in a human suit. “I looked up at her — my lover, my lobster — and she leaned down and embraced my lips with her mandible.”
How do you make adult friends? The A+ team approaches this question from so many different angles to offer up advice on making adult friends while sober, making adult friends in a new city, making friends when you’re in a long-term relationship, finding potential new friends using Lex, meeting cool people with Instagram, deepening friendships that started through fandom, and more! “…that’s the beauty of the A+ Advice Box — you get a sampling of all our brains and then you get to make your own choices!”
“More and more of my life feels permanent instead of temporary and it’s freaking me all the way out.”
You think, I would let her drink me dry, and shudder into obedience when she kisses you again.
“i’m going to take a shower and see if it [amy lee voice] wakes me up inside”
The team tackles so many topics in this one! We cover questions about queer haircuts, crushing on unavailable people, dealing with rejection, feeling like you’re not built for casual dating, embracing media you like without shame, a partner blaming your body for his anxieties around sex, the truths behind an emotional affair…two completely different questions that reference Rachel Maddow…and a whole lot more!
one time someone said they hoped i got absolutely railed before a date and it meant a lot to me, wanted to just share that love and support.
The Autostraddle team tackles questions from asking your girlfriend to move in, decorating a new space after a divorce, healing after homelessness, decorating with a partner, making a space with roommates feel like your own, to carving out space for yourself on your commute, and more in this special Spaces & Places edition of Into the A+ Advice Box!
“If I see that He’s hard, I drop everything,” Nix said. “My mind goes blank. I stop what I’m doing. Strip. Fall to my knees. Mouth open, arms behind me. Ready for Him to fuck me in the face.”
Jumpsuits at weddings, overalls, office wear, thrifting and tailoring and more! The Autostraddle team talks FASHION, specifically your fashion, in this special themed A+ Advice Box!
The ways that we allow ourselves to take up space, to make our homes comfortable and reflective of who we are, are gifts that we give to ourselves.
A+ Members! Have a space you want to fix up, but aren’t sure how? Fighting over space with someone else? Struggling to find the kind of space you’ve always dreamed of? Let us help you!