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Into the A+ Advice Box #80: GENDER FEELINGS

We have 26 whole questions on all things gender! From parenting to transition to clothing to inclusion and exclusion in queer spaces, and more!

the team March 17, 2023 24 Comments
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The March 2023 A+ Pop-Up Discord is OPEN

A+ members, let’s hang!

Nico March 16, 2023 1 Comment
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Editor’s Notes: Bubble Trouble

The queerness found in a lot of these Bubble Trouble essays isn’t necessarily surface-level fizz but something deeper in the gut.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 13, 2023 6 Comments
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A+ Crossword Is a Gay Piece, If You Think About It

Why was the pig covered in ink?

brooke March 11, 2023 9 Comments
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M. Crane Chatted with the A+ Book Club About Tragic Endings, Sports and Future Projects

“and my agent was like what the f*ck?”

Nico March 10, 2023 2 Comments
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Into the A+ Advice Box #79: Dating Women Who’ve Previously Only Been With Men

Advice for coping with your partner’s internalized fat-phobia, wedding vows, navigating social situations and friendships as an autistic person, and more!

the team March 10, 2023 47 Comments
The eight couples featured in this round of voting, all kissing: Miranda and Che, And Just Like That; Jackie and Leslie, Hightown; Candace and Lilly, Astrid & Lilly Save the World; April and Sterling, Teenage Bounty Hunters; Quinn and Isabela, Harlem; Fabiola and Eve, Never Have I Ever; Jamie and Dani, The Haunting of Bly Manor; Sabi and Olympia, Sort Of
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A+ Members: Pick the Winner of the First Four Autostraddle March Madness Match-Ups

Instead of opening up these First Four match-ups to the whole wide web, as we usually do, we’re going to start here… with the members who power this community year-round.

Natalie March 8, 2023 11 Comments
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Are You Pumped? Our 14th Birthday A+ Ask-Us-Anything IS NOW

Our fingers are ready! (To answer your questions!)

the team March 7, 2023 839 Comments
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A+ Crossword Is Going Back to Windows 95

What do you call someone who witnesses a robbery at the Apple store?

brooke March 4, 2023 9 Comments
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A+ Roundtable: The Team Secretly Told Each Other Which 3 Characters Describe Them

“Christina is, energetically, equal parts over-the-top gay man and elder straight woman.”

the team March 3, 2023 48 Comments
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The Autostraddle Insider Issue 101: February 2023

Can we open it with “The Paris Review can blow us” and then just like…not explain?

The Editors February 28, 2023 27 Comments
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Right Now – A+ Read a Fucking Book Club: I Keep My Exoskeletons to Myself

Join us for a Q&A with author M. Crane! Right now! See you there?

Nico February 27, 2023
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Behind the Scenes: The Autostraddle Black Elders Interview Project

“You and I are family.”

the team February 27, 2023 16 Comments
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A+ Crossword Is Faking It Until She Makes It

What type of music is scary for birthday balloons?

brooke February 25, 2023 9 Comments
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Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #46

I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but I dreamed that the New York Times put a paper grocery bag of 9 kittens on every doorstep to promote subscriptions.

The Editors February 24, 2023 23 Comments
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A+ Roundtable: The Weirdest Songs We’ve Fucked To

The vibes are So Off.

the team February 22, 2023 32 Comments
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A+ Crossword Is a Varsity Player

I saw a microbiologist yesterday.

Rachel February 18, 2023 12 Comments
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Into the A+ Advice Box #78: Forgiveness and Accountability

Should you forgive an abusive parent? What should you do with a conflict between your ex girlfriend and a friend? And more!

the team February 17, 2023 14 Comments
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Interview With My Fiancé: Kristen

In which we talk for a weirdly long time about who does laundry but also Yellowjackets, why a punk cover of “Mambo Italiano” is “our song,” and our sex drives.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 14, 2023 35 Comments
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A+ Crossword Is in Your Top 8

How do you make holy water?

Rachel February 11, 2023 19 Comments
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