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AF+

Things I’ve Never Asked My Brothers About Growing Up in an Abusive Household, Being Adopted, and My Writing

“We were doing rap battles and Dani was writing all the stuff because she was better at it. You remember that?”

danijanae August 9, 2022 11 Comments
a nonbinary Black person smiles a small smile against a colorful glass artwork backdrop. text reads Into the A+ Advice Box
AF+

Into the A+ Advice Box #65: So You Think You Might Be Gender Fluid

Advice on studying with ADHD, envying they/them pronouns, finding the best outfits to match glamorous heels, masturbation, and more!

the team August 5, 2022 26 Comments
a collage of Chris Belcher sitting on a stool looking awesome in a black tee and black jeans. They have long brown hair. Chris is a white person with hands folded on her lap. Sandwiched between her two identical portraits is an image of the cover of her book, Pretty Baby: a Memoir which features an abstract artwork in which a leg peeking through a curtain is visible
AF+

Chris Belcher Talked With the A+ Book Club About Academia, Memory and More!

“LOL yeah, I lusted for those spencers sex toys so bad”

Nico August 3, 2022 4 Comments
a painted bear touches a cowering, or sleeping, line drawing of a woman lying on her side. The background is blood red streaked with black. Underneath the woman run reports of mass shootings and deaths, in text that is collaged and barely visible. The entire effect is extremely ominous.
AF+

It Could Be Anything

“I don’t know when the bear thought came to me. I wish I had a distinct memory of when I first had the thought.”

danijanae August 2, 2022 9 Comments
Across, left to right: Carmen, a Black woman, sits against a concrete block graffitied with the word, "chula." She is wearing coral pants, birkenstocks and a black tee. Her hair is parted and curly and she is wearing hoop earrings and sunglasses. Viv, an Asian person, frowns at the camera with the sun behind them. They have green, buzzed hair and are wearing a black tank top. Drew, a white woman, takes a bathroom mirror selfie. She is wearing a short crop top revealing her stomach and is looking at the camera in a devastatingly mean manner. Her hair is long and curly. Shelli Nicole, a Black woman, poses for the camera, looking hot. She is wearing an orange tank and gold neckaces and hoop earrings and nose ring. She has a bag slung over her shoulder.
AF+

The Autostraddle Insider Issue 94: July 2022

“We were just kissing ON THE MOUTH and you wanna know if we are SISTERS?!”

The Editors July 31, 2022 13 Comments
a collage of the same photo of shea and their wife Jane holding each other and smiling hugely on a field of bright green grass. shea is a Black nonbinary human with short hair and glasses. Jane is a white woman with a jellyfish tattoo on her arm and blonde shoulder length hair.
AF+

Interview With My Wife: Jane

“No one can put up a tent by themselves or if you do, please let me know. Put a YouTube tutorial up.”

shea wesley martin July 27, 2022 14 Comments
A+ Read a Fucking Book Club, Live virtual Q&A with Chris Belcher, Tuesday July 26, 5-6:30[m PST A+ Pop-Up discord. This graphic has a palm tree in the background and also features the A+ logo and the cover of Pretty Baby: a Memoir by Chris Belcher
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A+ Read a Fucking Book Club Q&A With Chris Belcher, Happening Now!

Now’s your chance to ask Chris your questions and chat with fellow A+ members about “Pretty Baby: A Memoir”!

Nico July 26, 2022 3 Comments
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AF+

Member2Member Advice: Home Reno, Household Fixes and Repairs

Need advice or have advice to give on all things fixing, repairing, renovating or otherwise altering things in your home — whatever and wherever that may be? This is the place to exchange advice with your fellow members!

Nico July 22, 2022 54 Comments
Against a black backdrop are collaged two crossed tennis rackets, with a pair of sneakers hovering above them. Each corner is occupied by a basketball or a soccer ball, two of each.
AF+

A+ Roundtable: Our Sports Stories

“I mean, my first AIM screen name was SprtsFreek1224.”

the team July 19, 2022 5 Comments
an interracial lesbian couple gets into a verbal fight in a kitchen. a redheaded white woman speaks in an exasperated and angry manner. A Black woman with long gold braids puts her palm to her forehead and looks down. On top of the image reads the text: Into the A+ Advice Box.
AF+

Into the A+ Advice Box #64: BREAKING UP

Breaking up with a queer anti-choice friend, your partner isn’t over their ex, and more!

the team July 15, 2022 1 Comment
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A+ Roundtable: Coping with Climate Change

“Corrupt politicians and leaders want to destroy our spirit. We can’t let them.”

the team July 8, 2022 10 Comments
a person leans against a doorframe and cries, her hand up to her lips, a tissue grapsed in her hand. on top of the image reads the text "into the A+ advice box"
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Into the A+ Advice Box #63: What If Other People Think You’re “A Lot”?

How do you stop comparing yourself to your girlfriend’s nesting partner, have big life conversations with your partner, deal with feeling your friends don’t love you as much as you love them, and more?

the team July 1, 2022 21 Comments
a collage made up of as team members living their best lives this june. this features katie, anya and her mom, carmen, vanessa, tracy, drew, viv, and himani
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The Autostraddle Insider Issue 93: June 2022

“i just think patty melt IS a gender tbh”

The Editors June 30, 2022 19 Comments
Feature for Wait Is This a Date Submit to our mailbag episodes! Season 2! Features fun and lighthearted emojis over a pink background with a little photo cutout featuring a photo of two queer people laughing and smiling together over something on a phone.
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A+ Members Can Submit to the Wait Is This a Date Mailbag!

Imagine hearing your own voice on WITAD. Personally, I think it sounds thrilling.

Nico June 29, 2022 2 Comments
A tweet from @KaylaKumari that reads: watching all these mainstream publications do their 2-3 token pride pieces that are mostly just seo grabs and meanwhile we're out here at @autostraddle with a dynamic pride package with TWENTY FIVE pieces planned even tho we're queer all fucking year and not corporate-backed. The tweet is against a floral backdrop.
AF+ LGBT Pride

Editor’s Notes: On Pride 2022

As Pride increasingly becomes co-opted, soured by capitalism, and diluted from its original organizing and protest roots, it’s easy to become exhausted every June.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya June 29, 2022 12 Comments
Anya, Riese, Carmen, Laneia, Kayla, Heather and Nicole are all floating heads behind laptops in this graphic
AF+

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #42

“Thanks for listening to my lesbian soccer rant!”

the team June 28, 2022 13 Comments
Sa'iyda clasps her fiancee's face in her hands and looks at her lovingly. They stand beneath a rainbow umbrella. Sa'iyda is a Black woman who is wearing blue glasses and a leather jacket and has short hair. Beth, her fiancee, is a white woman with curly short brown hair and black glasses who is wearing a gray jean jacket. An engagement ring is conspicuously visibile on Sa'iyda's hand!
AF+

Interview with My Fiancee: Beth

“Give me a human, I’ll keep it alive. Give me a plant, it’ll last a week.”

Sa'iyda Shabazz June 27, 2022 10 Comments
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AF+

A+ Sex Diary: So This Is What It’s Like To Live With Your Girlfriend

“When we get home I beg to go down on her — I know you’re tired, I say, I know it’s a work night, but please…”

Guest June 24, 2022 5 Comments
Roundtable: Enemies - an Angry Sphynx or hairless cat glowers at the viewer against a black background
AF+

A+ Roundtable: Dealing With Our Enemies

“Is it even possible to be from New Jersey and not have enemies?”

the team June 22, 2022 6 Comments
Text reads Into the A+ Advice Box in front of a stock photo of two women. A Black woman in a mustard turtleneck leans back on a couch laughing while a white woman with red hair lies in her lap. They touch each other affectionately.
AF+

Into the A+ Advice Box #62: WELLBEING

The team responds to questions about seeking ADHD diagnosis, routines and self-care, getting the most out of therapy, being the emotional support friend but never the emotional support recipient, and more!

the team June 17, 2022 50 Comments
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