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Into the A+ Advice Box #91: Why Do Your Dates Always Turn Into “Just Friends”?

How social media is a lie, how to dress for a Catholic wedding, and is that girl who’s currently in a relationship into you?

The Editors October 27, 2023 5 Comments
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Anonymous Sex Diary: Horny and Hooking Up at Divinity School

I texted my best friends, “I think studying religion is making me horny,” because I’ve been wanting to jump everyone’s bones (respectfully). A young queer woman chronicles a week in her sex life while studying religion at an Ivy League school.

Guest October 24, 2023
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A+ Crossword Is Queer as Fuck

Did you hear the rumor about butter?

Rebecca Goldstein October 21, 2023 3 Comments
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The Group Chat: Our Embarrassing TikTok Fascinations

“I think maybe TikTok thinks I am a gay man.”

The Editors October 20, 2023 1 Comment
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Anonymous Sex Diary: I’m Putting My Career At Risk To Have Sex With My Boss

“But I’d risk it all for her.” A young trans man in Johannesburg is sleeping with his straight boss in secret, and falling more deeply for her every day.

Guest October 17, 2023
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A+ Crossword Has Seen Barbie Three Times (So Far)

I learned an important lesson on how to paint dogs.

Rebecca Goldstein October 14, 2023 4 Comments
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Into the A+ Advice Box #90: Queer Sex and Desire with Sex Educator Luna Matatas

“So many people struggle with getting out of their head and into their body during sex.”

Luna Matatas October 13, 2023 8 Comments
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Anonymous Sex Diary: Don’t Be Scared to Touch Me

A nonbinary person finally receives an endometriosis diagnosis that explains their pain. As ey begin exploring treatment options that mitigate the pain, ey and their partner decide to try having sex again.

Guest October 10, 2023
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A+ Crossword Is Celebrating a Few Days Early

My therapist suggested I was incapable of describing my feelings.

Rachel October 7, 2023 1 Comment
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A+ Crossword Is a Sign of Things To Come

Did you hear about the aquatic sea mammals that escaped from the zoo?

Rebecca Goldstein September 30, 2023 1 Comment
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Autostraddle Insider Issue #104: Goodbye Heather Edition

Heather knows, she knows, how to connect with people through stories and writing, she knows how to make you feel seen, buoyed, valued, special, important, remarkable.

Riese and The Editors
September 27, 2023 8 Comments
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Anonymous Sex Diary: Happy Bisexual Awareness Week

“My friend in the red shirt says that she thinks you’re really attractive.” A bisexual takes us through a week of polyamorous dating, sex and a little bit of drama.

Guest September 23, 2023 3 Comments
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A+ Crossword Is a Little Gem Too

Did you hear the joke about experiencing déjà vu?

Kate Hawkins September 23, 2023 2 Comments
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A+ Crossword Can Name All Five Spice Girls

My credit card company keeps sending me compliments in the mail.

Rebecca Goldstein September 16, 2023 4 Comments
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A+ Crossword Likes to Go Down (And Across)

When does a joke become a dad joke?

Rachel September 9, 2023 4 Comments
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Member Meet and Greet With Our New CEO Kylo Freeman: Transcript and Recording

Thank you for being members!

The Editors September 8, 2023 18 Comments
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Into the A+ Advice Box #89: Your Date’s Always Late, Should You Break Up?

Getting out there after separating from your cishet husband, mixing masculine and feminine style, asking people at the bar to kiss you on your birthday, and more!

The Editors September 8, 2023 13 Comments
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A+ Crossword Keeps Ridiculously Long Receipts

We all know about Murphy’s Law: Anything that can go wrong will go wrong. But have you heard of Cole’s Law?

Rebecca Goldstein September 2, 2023 7 Comments
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I’ll Never Walk Away: Writing About Motherhood From Imperfect Circumstances

“In the summer of 2021, right after a trip to visit him and my mom, my dad called me. He sounded weird.”

Sa'iyda Shabazz August 29, 2023 14 Comments
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A+ Crossword’s Gender is Garchomp, Thanks For Asking

I used to believe all things must pass.

Rachel August 26, 2023 7 Comments
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