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A+ Roundtable: What’s Your Relationship Kryptonite?

What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?

the team August 2, 2018 72 Comments
AF+

Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings

We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!

Riese July 30, 2018 27 Comments
AF+

The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 47, July 2018

“I DON’T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT BEING INTENSELY EMOTIONAL OR BAD WITH BOUNDARIES SOUNDS FAKE”

Riese July 26, 2018 81 Comments
AF+ Sex

For My Own Pleasure: Hiring a Sex Worker as a Queer Woman

“She kisses me. I hold on to her arms lightly, not wanting to hurt her, not wanting to weird her out, make her uncomfortable. She’s here for me: I’d hired her for exactly that, and she agreed to it, and she’s here.”

Creatrix Tiara July 24, 2018 39 Comments
AF+ Sex

A+ Monday Roundtable: Dying a Million Lesbian Bed Deaths

Have you ever experienced bed death in your relationship? If you did move past it, how? Has bed death ever signaled the end of a relationship for you? Has a fear of bed death ever made an impact on your relationships? Do you think bed death isn’t a big deal and we should stop talking about it?

the team July 9, 2018 22 Comments
AF+ Sex

A+ Sex Diary: Masturbation Challenge Accepted

In this sex diary: a single femme sets herself a masturbation challenge. New sex toys, late-night porn, learning to feel free and more.

Guest June 21, 2018 4 Comments
AF+

The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 46, May / June 2018

“a line of topless queers at the nude beach, but from the back
they’re all different sizes and shapes and abilities and it gives the impression that the entire queer community gets along and loves each other”

Riese June 19, 2018 43 Comments
AF+ Sex

A+ Sex Diary: Fucking and Napping

Welcome to A+ Sex Diaries, an A+ feature for Silver & Gold members in which we publish seven days in our sex lives. This week: A single, soft butch writer openly dating multiple people. Lesbian, 32, the American west.

Guest May 31, 2018 14 Comments
AF+

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #19

“I’m going to make a shirt that says Rachel Is Right or maybe Listen to Rachel.”

The Editors May 10, 2018 34 Comments
AF+

The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 45, April 2018

“wait there are nipples on shutterstock??”

Riese April 24, 2018 48 Comments
AF+

20 Excerpts From Gabe Dunn’s Baby Bi Stoner Diary 2001-2003

Grass lit up by flecks of sun
Feel something!
THE SLOW BURN

Gabe Dunn April 10, 2018 7 Comments
AF+

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #18

“Are you familiar with the Jughead Lesbian Style Debacle of 2018.”

The Editors March 29, 2018 62 Comments
AF+

The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 44, March 2018

“YES PUSSY IS ON THE LIST
omg”

Riese March 28, 2018 34 Comments
AF+

A+ Roundtable: The Sex We Just Can’t Get Into

Sex: it’s complicated! Some people like some things and other people like other things and some people love things other people do not like at all!

the team March 26, 2018 48 Comments
AF+

A+ Roundtable: Our First Time Watching Porn

Here’s all the good, bad and the ugly about our first time viewing porn. Remember VHS tapes? Were we ever so young?

the team March 19, 2018 22 Comments
AF+

A+ Roundtable: Internalized Homophobia and Other Endearing Forms of Low-Key Self-Hatred

Unpacking internalized homophobia (and lesbophobia, and biphobia, and transphobia, and misogyny, and MORE) is hard, but for you we did our best!

the team March 12, 2018 84 Comments
AF+

It’s Autostraddle’s 9th Birthday: Ask Us Anything!

For eight entire hours, Team Autostraddle is answering all of your questions! Advice, personal, professional, weird, normal, invasive, polite, every question!

Laneia March 9, 2018 758 Comments
AF+

The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 43, February 2018

“ok who sent me an autostraddle email address request for kristen stewart”

Riese February 26, 2018 32 Comments
AF+

VIDEO! Getting in Bed with Kristin + Reneice: You Can Cook Food!

Reneice got in my bed and we MADE COOKIES. That should be all you need to know but I will also tell you that we answered food-related advice and also some relationship-advice, all while filling my sheets with crumbs! Woot!

Kristin February 24, 2018 2 Comments
AF+

VIDEO! Getting In Bed with Rhea Butcher!

Rhea Butcher got in bed with me and said SO MANY REALLY BRILLIANT THINGS on a range of topics including turtles, gender, clothing, pronouns, and marriage. What a day.

Kristin January 30, 2018 3 Comments
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