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AF+ Relationships

I Think My Hot Girlfriend Is Gonna Leave Me For Someone Hotter

Advice for coping when your Instagram-beloved girlfriend seems too hot for you, rekindling romance after long Covid, and how to flirt — gayly.

the team April 12, 2024 1 Comment
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Prefers Tagalongs

Instagram keeps showing me videos of Clinton’s Vice President dancing.

Darby Ratliff April 6, 2024 1 Comment
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AF+ Relationships

Help! I’ve Gotten ‘The Ick’ for My Girlfriend

Advice for suddenly feeling unattracted to your girlfriend, having your first ever crush on a cis dude, and finding a sex therapist.

the team April 5, 2024 3 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is Sorry Not Sorry

How do flat-earthers travel?

Kate Hawkins March 30, 2024
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AF+ Dating

Is Refusing To Share My Location a Red Flag?

A request from a younger girlfriend has a reader wondering if her aversion to location sharing is a generational conflict. Also: how to keep a relationship sexy without sex and how to celebrate newfound queer desire and forgive our younger selves.

the team March 29, 2024 10 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Sparks Joy

I tried to watch the orchestra on tv with my kids but we had to turn it off.

Darby Ratliff March 23, 2024 3 Comments
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AF+ Relationships

I Think My Girlfriend Is Drugging My Dog

In this week’s advice box, a relationship plagued by dog problems and possible dishonesty, how to support a partner convinced they’re worthless without a job, and safe sex for poly people.

the team March 22, 2024 10 Comments
First Four Contests of the 2024 Autostraddle March Madness
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AF+ Members: Pick the Winners of the Autostraddle March Madness First Four

La Brea’s Izzy vs. Bel-Air’s Ashley Banks! Dare Me’s Beth vs. Big Shot’s Mouse! Gen V’s Marie vs Jordan! Everything Sucks’ Emaline vs. Ginny & Georgia’s Max! Are you ready to tip off this year’s edition of Autostraddle March Madness?? LFG.

Natalie March 16, 2024 4 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is Gayer Than Charlie’s Angels

You used to be able to get air for free at gas stations, but now it’s a dollar.

Rebecca Goldstein March 16, 2024
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AF+ Friendship

Help! My Friends Won’t Shut Up

Plus advice about leaving a controlling partner and getting second dates.

the team March 15, 2024 2 Comments
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AF+

The AS Insider #108: Our Big Gay 15th Birthday

Sweet birthday baby! Today is Autostraddle’s 15th birthday, and we’re celebrating!!

The Editors March 9, 2024 4 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Ordered Extra Fries

I had an appointment to see my psychic next week, but she just called to cancel.

Darby Ratliff March 9, 2024
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AF+ Relationships

Did My Partner Trick Me Into a Lifetime of Sexless Monogamy?

In today’s A+ advice box: is a miscommunication over polyamory really the issue here or is your relationship simply broken and toxic? Plus; advice about feeling insecure when texting a partner and getting into being handy!

the team March 8, 2024 3 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Has One More Thing to Tell You

To whoever stole my copy of Microsoft Office, I will find you.

Kate Hawkins March 2, 2024 3 Comments
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AF+ Gender

I’m Masculine, I Strap, I Love Being Called “Sir”… Am I Trans or a Masc Lesbian?

In this week’s AF+ Advice box: trying to figure out if you’re trans or a masculine lesbian, finding good lesbian love poems for a wedding, complicated feelings about an ex and group chat drama.

the team March 1, 2024 12 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword is Making Kkakdugi and Watching “The Prom”

I’m writing a novel about a woman with a strain in her trapezius.

Emet Ozar February 24, 2024 3 Comments
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AF+ Relationships

I Confronted My Girlfriend About Cheating On Me, She Responded By Coming Out as Poly

Is this ever an okay way for a poly relationship to begin?

the team February 23, 2024 3 Comments
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AF+ Sex

Anonymous Sex Diary: A Couple Rekindles Their Sex Life with “Intimacy Boot Camp”

We’re both trying to avoid the lesbian bed death trope, hoping to be remembered in history as lovers, not “really good friends.”

Guest February 21, 2024 4 Comments
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AF+

Editor’s Notes: Divorce Week

Being engaged, planning a wedding, being a newlywed — all welcome topics of conversation! Divorce? Not so much! 

Carmen Phillips and Nico
February 20, 2024 11 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Dreamed You Were a Poem

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Rebecca Goldstein February 17, 2024 3 Comments
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