Two images of the author, Aisha — a brown, tattooed person with short, blue hair that's parted down the middle — appear side by side. On the left, Aisha wears a pink medical gown, a white N95 mask, white socks, and black sneakers with teal laces. They lean against a table in a doctor's office. On the right, Aisha wears a blue medical gown while sitting in a chair in a hospital. They look down at their chest and hold it in their hands.

First Person

Top Surgery, Magnolia Trees, and the Trans Art of Letting Go

What’s transness if not a long lesson in choosing which beautiful things are meant for you?

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First Person

10 Things I Spend My Money on Now That Isn’t Drugs or Alcohol

When I got sober, I also thought I would be saving so much money. What happened instead is that I found different ways to spend my money.

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First Person

I Still Pray After I Masturbate

Erasing decades of religious trauma doesn’t happen overnight.

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First Person

Old Gal, New Tricks: Queer Menopause and Masturbation

This is what we don’t talk about when we (don’t) talk about menopause…and masturbation.

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First Person

The Need for Trans Girl Trash

If media that’s traditionally targeted at women, whether they are queer or not, isn’t making a space for the girls like me, then where exactly are we expected to look for entertainment that keeps us in mind?

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Book Features First Person

In “A Recipe for More,” Sara Elise Asks: Who Do You Want To Become?

“We do not have to do anything more to be worthy; we are worthy just because we are.”

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First Person

It’s Time To Face Facts: I’ll Never Be a Lipstick Femme

Being a lipstick girlie doesn’t leave you; sometimes, it just has to evolve.

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First Person

A Lesbian Reflects on Lesbian Visibility (Sort Of)

I have started and stopped writing this so many times.

Sai, a Black lesbian, wears glasses and a sparkly track jacket over a black tee and pink pants and has her hands on her hips. next to her, there are pink and purple distorted flowers

First Person

Calling Myself a Lesbian Has Been a Lesson in Self Acceptance

I think this is always who I’ve been, and the other words were the ones I was trying on to see if they fit.

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First Person Music

Ranking The National Songs by How Much I’ve Cried to Them

Trying to get sober was like pulling teeth.

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First Person Jewish Holidays

At the Passover Table, New Traditions Will Be Born

This year feels like the first of many years where I begin to truly incorporate my partner’s cultural traditions into our family.

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First Person Politics + Activism

The Yeses that Surprise You: Organizing Across the Lines of Cis and Trans

Building power across the lines of cis and trans teaches me that there are many people who will fight alongside trans people to win a better world.

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First Person

Let Me Be in My Queer Italianx Feelings for a Minute

It was a simple post. So simple and, in the grand scheme of it all, not super meaningful, and yet, I teared up.

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Book Features First Person

Send Me to Low Femme Paradise

The problem of having to have a body in the world again.

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Breakups First Person

Thank You, Ex: For (1) Set of Ghost Hands

I don’t like to think about the endings, which is probably why I’m always haunted, always clinging to things that return even when I should pretend I do not see them.