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Kim and Lindsay from Freaks & Geeks stand with their mouths slightly open. Their eyes are covered by black bars. Behind them are a bunch of scissors and green toxic sludge.
First Person

That Time I Binged “Freaks and Geeks” While My Stalker Ex Held Me Captive

Kim and Lindsay’s friendship is the real love story of this series. I want them to end up as friends like everyone wants the leads to end up together in a romantic comedy. I shake with it.

Nico July 5, 2022 40 Comments
Photo 1: a Black woman in a navy blue mask leaning into a little boy in a mask wearing a striped shirt holding a puppy with a white woman in a mask standing behind. Photo 2: a Black woman in glasses holding a small puppy, a white woman in glasses, a young boy in a black tee shirt. Photo 3: a Black woman in a navy blue mask leaning into a little boy in a mask wearing a striped shirt holding a puppy with a white woman in a mask standing behind.
First Person Parenting & Family

Are All the Queer Moms Hanging Out Without Me?

As we start to shift the narrative about raw honesty online about motherhood, I wish that queer moms opened up more about how hard it is to create their inner circle. 

Sa'iyda Shabazz June 30, 2022 34 Comments
A broken heart with the words Best Friends inside it, surrounded by flowers.
First Person LGBT Pride

A Letter to My Ex-Best Friend This Pride

I will always love you, and I know you will always love me. Sometimes love isn’t enough.

Em Win June 28, 2022 11 Comments
A dashboard with flowers resting on it. Through the windshield, there's an open road lined with trees.
First Person LGBT Pride

This Pride, I Want To Be Left Alone

A too rarely understood or acknowledged privilege, especially when so much LGBTQ+ discourse is about the power and importance of visibility, is the pleasure of invisibility.

Abbie Jones June 24, 2022 12 Comments
Bikini Kill performs on stage with purple and green light
First Person Music

Seeing Bikini Kill Made Me Feel Like I Was 16 Again

Bikini Kill opened a door for me, a door that has stayed open ever since.

Stef Rubino June 23, 2022 4 Comments
A surreal concept of a regular aluminium ladder pushing through a fluffy cloud on a peach sky background
First Person

How To Leave a Life

Leaving always compels you to look back, a final glimpse, a glance at what exactly you are leaving before you make the jump to part.

danijanae June 20, 2022 11 Comments
A black long sleeved crop top against a background of brightly colored patterned fabrics
First Person Queer Fashion

Crop Tops, Saris, and Unlearning Gendered Fashion

I’d avoided saris all my life. It was during the pandemic, when crop tops brought me a sense of freedom and gender euphoria, that I realized saris weren’t too far off.

P June 20, 2022 17 Comments
People hold protest signs with phrases like "Protect Trans Kids" and "It's OK To Say Gay" and "We Are Permanent" written on them against a background of a Welcome to Florida sign and a palm tree
First Person LGBT Pride

I Thought About Leaving Florida — Learning About Our Queer History Convinced Me To Stay

The truth is, as hard as I ride for it now, there was a time when I couldn’t imagine living here anymore, too.

Stef Rubino June 16, 2022 9 Comments
Two images of a brown tarantula
First Person Pets & Animals

Give It Time, Delphine

To really love anything, I think, is to run the risk of it not loving you back.

danijanae June 16, 2022 19 Comments
A subway car's door is open, and inside it is a pixelated image of Nevada by Imogen Binnie
First Person

“Nevada” and the Multiverse of Sadness

This is how it feels to come to art too late. It’s no longer an experience of immediate connection, but one of processing, of rewriting.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 10, 2022 21 Comments
a white person's legs are seen walking down a set of old stairs, and she is wearing sneakers and holding a pink cane and wearing black leggings. there are two red flower stickers on the image
First Person LGBT Pride

I Have To Choose Between Being Disabled and Queer

In queer spaces, I cannot be disabled. In disability spaces, people ask if my spouse is my sister. I hope that someday I don’t have to choose.

Katie June 9, 2022 21 Comments
an original watercolor by Wallace May featuring Gabrielle, a blond woman, sleeping with her small white dog Kimberly on top of her
First Person Pets & Animals

What To Know Before You Get a Dog

When you first meet her, scared and sick and alone, you’ll know that if you don’t take her with you she’ll probably die. Of course, she’s going to die either way. Better to have a life with you first, you’ll decide. You’ll make it nice for her. You’ll try your best, at least.

Gabrielle Korn June 2, 2022 19 Comments
A screenshot from The Foundation for AIDS Research's "Scenes from Angels in America" fundraiser. Vella Lovell as Harper is superimposed above Andrew Rannells as Prior. The backdrop is a mix of a starry sky over a building and a staircase with candles leading from the bottom of the frame to the top. Lovell wears a black nightie and Rannells wears a turquoise robe and makeup.
First Person Theater

Slow Takes: A Tribute to Zoom Theatre

The story of how I joined theatre is like if the Disney Channel was dark and gay.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 2, 2022 8 Comments
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya, a brown lesbian with brown hair and eyes, throughout her twenties
First Person

The Gayest Things I Did in My Twenties

I’m 23, and I’m not sure if I’m on a date (I’m not).

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya May 30, 2022 22 Comments
A set of Scrabble tiles spell out GAME ON
First Person

I Beat My Girlfriend at Scrabble and We Never Played Again

Scrabble has always been an exciting way to show that my English degree might have meant something.

Julie Gentile May 27, 2022 1 Comment
An illustration of a brown woman with long dark hair pulling a string out of her brain
First Person

Measuring My Queerness By Different Therapists I’ve Had

If I had a dollar for every therapist I’ve had, I’d probably have enough money to buy a relatively decent meal at a nearby bodega.

Lily Alvarado May 26, 2022 8 Comments
A curvy Black woman with long braids pulled back into a pony tail rests her chin on the edge of a white bathtub underneath her hands. She's wearing air pods. A brown, wood wall and a stack of white towels are visible to her left. The bathtub is filled with bubbles.
First Person

When I Stopped Apologizing for My Fatness, I Started to Heal

I had to figure out what it meant to reconnect with a body I’d always been afraid of.

Simone Person May 17, 2022 7 Comments
A white, curvy person is lying in bed on beige sheets. Only their toros and thighs are visible. They're wearing a cream-colored crocheted top and cream-colored underwear. Their hands rest on their abdomen. They wear a silver ring on the middle finger of their right hand.
First Person

How Masturbation Helped Me Accept Myself as an Intersex Lesbian

I finally understood that the “normal” I was seeking was mythical and that my body was beautiful and precious the way it was.

Guest May 16, 2022 6 Comments
An illustrated woman sits at a laptop, and geometric shapes emerge from it
First Person

How Fertility Treatments Got Me Back in Touch With My Queerness

I never imagined I’d have to get an IUI, or that there would be a silver lining.

Chloe Caldwell May 16, 2022 18 Comments
Repeated three times: An abstract etching print in black ink on white paper. A central, looming abstract figure sits in the upper two-thirds of the paper. It twists with fabric or muscle-like fibers around in an upside-down "U" shape, with several pieces of the main shape curling off to the side and one extending well beneath the shape and hooking to the left like the bottom of a lower-case "G". In the center of the abstract shape is a kind of webbing that unevenly unites the "U" shape. The bottom of the page features a marbling effect that fades in from darker black at the corner to lighter grays in the center, giving the central abstract figure a glowing appearance.
First Person

Pay Attention to the Light Source

When I was 12, men started to ask me for my number at the mall.

Nico May 12, 2022 30 Comments
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