First Person

Please Don’t Thank Me for Loving My Wife

My transgender wife and I are both people with a lot of serious challenges to face, and we chose to confront those challenges as a team. That’s not heroism. It’s love.

First Person

Dear Queer Diary, Today We Found the Perfect Journal

“Whether you write a page-long treatise on your love of Jolly Ranchers or a meditation on the cultural currency of the alternative lifestyle haircut, you’re claiming a space on the page for yourself.”

First Person

Fear and Loathing (as a 21-Year Old Queer) in Singapore

“I am afraid help will come too late to someone in my life. I am afraid that closets become coffins.”

First Person

Recruiting All Homos: One Small Step for Boxer Briefs, One Giant Leap for Butch Kind

“I start unbuttoning my shirt, but can’t really decide on a way to make getting undressed in this space any less uncomfortable, so I just drop my pants.”

First Person

This One Time At Queer Writing Camp: All About the 2013 Lambda Literary Retreat

What I learned from a week on a hilltop with 50 queer writers.

First Person

Recruiting All Homos: Everything You’ve Ever Done, Ever

“So we sit down and I pull out my life’s timeline and Officially Official Documents like WAH-BOOM! How you like them apples??”

First Person

This Is a Love Letter With an Ending Just For You [UPDATED]

An Autostraddle first.

First Person

Recruiting All Homos: Now That We’re Asking And Telling, I’m Enlisting

“Will I have to leave my boxer briefs at home in lieu of high-waisted, thin, cotton lady panties under my kick ass uniform during Basic Training?”

First Person Gender

The Army Taught Me That I Can Change My Body (And It Will Still Be Mine)

Here’s the deal: I both like and am my body. I am a girl, ergo I have a girl’s body. It’s neat. You know what I think helped me to be comfortable with my body more than anything else? The US Army.

First Person

A Prairie Homo Does New York: Moving at the Speed of New York

Some may call this need for speed insanity, others call it energy. I’m not sure how I feel because…feelings? Who has time for feelings?

First Person

Misadventures in Queer Lady Dating While Disabled: It’s Not Me, It’s You

“Given the message of acceptance and sex positivity that the queer community so openly espouses, I was hopeful that I had finally found a niche where my sexuality would be respected and validated. To my dismay, passive discrimination was alive and well.”

First Person

Top Ten Things In New York that Don’t Exist in the Canadian Prairies

There was a time I wanted kids; but there’s nothing like Midtown to put the rust on the hands of my biological clock. Why would anybody want to bring yet MORE humans into the world?

First Person

Kelsey’s College Lesbianage: They Assume I Know What I’m Doing

I can’t wait to go back to Bryn Mawr, but I’m trying to make the most of these months away and, so far, I think I’m doing pretty well.

First Person

Butch Please: Butch is a Hairy Man-Hating Lesbian

I’m a hairy short-haired sonuffabitch in plaid and denim that by that boy’s definition, and so many other definitions I’ve heard, is considered by society to be one of “those ugly lesbians”. And honestly, I ain’t even mad.

First Person

A Prairie Homo Does New York: Wooooh, Dyke March!

“When you’re surrounded by so many queers celebrating queer, you feel normal by default.”

First Person

This Happens: Sexual Assault Between Queer Women

Poet Leah Horlick comes out about her search for healing and answers after surviving lesbian sexual assault.

First Person

A Prairie Homo Does New York: Homeward Trouble

I thought, “Hey New York, just cause you wear these cool designer bridges across your rivers and you’ve got some graffiti on your interesting architecture, doesn’t mean I have to like you, okay?” But I do like New York in spite of myself.