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A person with an egg for a head and a person with toast for a head hug within a heart and are surrounded by pancakes, waffles, eggs, and bacon
First Person

This Diner Is Where My Relationships Begin — And End

My recent breakup the first week of June wasn’t one I wanted or expected, but it was one I had to initiate anyway.

Yashwina August 14, 2022 10 Comments
a rolling green hillside with kebabs, cuts of meat, and a dessert roll, and a vintage car
First Person

Always End Cuts

My wife and I were speeding through the hills of southern Vermont when I proposed a special date night.

shea wesley martin August 13, 2022 3 Comments
A bunch of toy dinosaurs, chicken tenders, french fries, and ketchup
First Person

At Diners, You Don’t Have To Grow Up

Diners are places of unreality where I can get my food and not worry about being stared at or made fun of.

A. Tony Jerome August 12, 2022 5 Comments
The South Florida chain Flaingan's, surrounded by curly fries, fingers with shrimp on them, fish, citrus, and biscuits.
First Person

Meet Me at Flanigan’s

When I think of what the diner experience is in South Florida, I think of Flanigan’s.

Stef Rubino August 11, 2022 14 Comments
hot dogs on a grill top, sea creatures, lemon wedges, a fly, a spatula flipping a burger, and ice cream in a cone.
First Person

Burgers, Bodies, and Off-Menu Bisexual Swagger

This is about a high school job.

Nico August 11, 2022 23 Comments
Images of Black people smiling and drinking milkshakes from straws as well as glass bottle Coca-Colas, with ice in the background.
First Person

The Place for Smiles

Back in those days, I thought drinking was the most interesting thing about me.

danijanae August 10, 2022 6 Comments
A table and Coca-Cola chairs sit on a floating chunk of ice in the ocean. The table is set with burgers, fries, napkins, and a flag.
First Person

No Matter How Much Changes, These Diners Stay The Same

If Staten Island has anything, it’s an abundance of delicious diners, and so many have left their mark on my heart.

Sa'iyda Shabazz August 9, 2022 12 Comments
Sliced bread, eggs, pancakes, and bacon, accompanied with photos of people hanging out in Standee's in Chicago around 2009.
First Person

Take Me Back to Standee’s

For many of us, Standee’s was one of the first public spaces where we could openly and comfortably share our most authentic gender expression.

Ro White August 9, 2022 11 Comments
Two bodies with cherries for heads embrace in a cup of Coke. Bacon soars behind them.
First Person

High School and Everything After

You can’t be gay in 1999. But I’m not, so that’s just fine.

Darcy August 8, 2022 23 Comments
A plate of french toast with strawberries, surrounded by a bunch of eyes.
First Person

Opening Up at a North Country Diner

I never got used to the cold, North Country weather.

Lily Alvarado August 8, 2022 9 Comments
a plate of red sauced ravioli. a pair of legs are emerging from one of the ravioli with a pair of crutches. there's also a mobility cane and a set of legs with a leg brace and crutches.
First Person

Scenes From a Jersey Diner

This is what it means to be from New Jersey. The roughness around the edges isn’t hidden away or sugar-coated.

Katie August 7, 2022 26 Comments
An old television screen shows an image of eggs and bacon. Behind it are planets and rock formations. There is a meatball with red onion for its rings, looking like Saturn. A hand holds a remote.
First Person

Welcome to Diner Week — What Are You Having?

Welcome to Diner Week, a 12-part series of essays by Autostraddle writers and editors set in diners.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 7, 2022 15 Comments
A figure is reclining on the ground against a purple, watery background
First Person

Here’s How Our Lives Have Improved Since Quitting Drinking: A Candid Conversation Between Sober Queers

“I love that sober sex is so much better for me. Even masturbating is better.”

danijanae, Analyssa and Tracy Levesque
August 5, 2022 11 Comments
Photo 1: A group of kids on a little league baseball team gather around their coaches. Photo 2: The writer, Drew, as a young child stands on a baseball field wearing a Mets uniform, a baseball hat, and a baseball glove. Photo 3: Drew holds a bat and wears a 2 jersey and baseball hat while smiling at the camera. Photo 4: Drew swings at a baseball (and is clearly going to miss). Photo 5: Drew wears a 22 jersey and baseball hat and is standing over the plate with a bat, ready to swing.
First Person Sports

An Interview With My Dad About Baseball

And about being the parent of a trans kid.

Drew Burnett Gregory August 4, 2022 19 Comments
Abstract human figures in purple hues are clustered together
First Person

On Staying Sober and What TV Gets Right and Wrong About Alcohol

“I feel like being the only sober person in a group is so much pressure.”

danijanae, Analyssa and Tracy Levesque
July 29, 2022 7 Comments
A water coloring of two divers under the water
First Person

“When I Got Sober So Many Relationships Just Ended”: Sober Queers on Friendships and Community

“I came to realize I am a terrible parent when I’m drunk.”

danijanae, Analyssa and Tracy Levesque
July 22, 2022 14 Comments
a watercoloring in purple hues of a figure at the end of a tunnel of light
First Person

Three Sober Queers on Their First Drinks and Workplace Drinking Culture

“It’s funny, much like coming out, I always look back on these moments and think ‘Ah that’s when I should have known I had a problem’.”

Tracy Levesque, danijanae and Analyssa
July 15, 2022 7 Comments
a bidet with water shooting up out of it
First Person

My Girlfriend Installed My Bidet While I Cheered Her On: A Love Story

After the powerful stream of water was done ricocheting off my asshole, I turned the bidet off and gave my girlfriend a standing ovation. 

Vanessa July 9, 2022 13 Comments
Against a white tiled background, a white person's hand holds up a cardboard sign that reads, "MY BODY MY CHOICE."
First Person Queer Pregnancy

I’m Trans, I’m Trying to Get Pregnant and I’m More Pro-Choice Than Ever

Roe v. Wade has been overturned, today, as I lie here praying that I’m pregnant. And I have never been more pro-choice than I am in this moment.

R/B Mertz July 8, 2022 13 Comments
Rachel, Hina, and Krissi sit in the 12 Dates of Christmas cabin surrounded by Christmas light-covered trees during the gift ceremony. Rachel is wearing a black dress. Krissi is wearing a red dress. Hina is sitting on a chair that's elevated and they're wearing a dark purple suit.
First Person TV Feature

Slow Takes: “12 Dates of Christmas” and When Transphobia Makes You a Chaos Demon

If you want to live in a reality show, go ahead and sow chaos, but if you’d rather have a romcom, you have to let go.

Drew Burnett Gregory July 7, 2022 4 Comments
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