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First Person

Finally — A Rainbow That Feels Like Home

I was in California for a conference when I heard about the Club Q shooting.

shea wesley martin December 5, 2022 5 Comments
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First Person Health

Goodbye to My Gallbladder

Happy Gallbladder Day on Autostraddle dot com! I’m glad you’re here and I’m glad my gallbladder is not.

Vanessa November 30, 2022 41 Comments
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First Person

“Dancing With the Stars” Fantasies I’ve Had About Various Phases of My Queer Life

As my opening number, I’m imaging a quickstep with JoJo Siwa. I have no explanation for this.

Em Win November 29, 2022 5 Comments
Two young girls laugh and lay close to each other in Mosquita y Mari
First Person Movie Features

Homoerotic Friendships, Mosquita Y Mari, and the Things We Never Said

My friendship with her actually ended twice.

Lily Alvarado November 25, 2022 10 Comments
A leftover Thanksgiving sandwich with cranberry sauce and turkey on it.
First Person Thanksgiving

Why I’m Craving a Thanksgiving Sandwich 364 Days a Year

It’s November 2016, and I’m lonely and missing my family a lot more than I expected. I say I can’t come home for Thanksgiving for a mix of reasons.

Julie Gentile November 24, 2022 8 Comments
Mugworts Cabin: a cute cabin with a rainbow triangle flag banner in front sits in the woods, surrounded by tall lush green trees
Community First Person

We Need QTBIPOC Land Healing Projects

We have a responsibility to care for others. In land stewardship and land healing this means prioritizing accountability to Indigenous folks.

Gabrielle Lawrence November 24, 2022 9 Comments
An empty gym equipped with a weight sled
First Person

Working Out at a Strength Gym Has Been Great, but These Exercises Make Me Want To Scream

Even though I believe in complete body liberation and fat freedom, I don’t like to talk about my “I’ve been fat my whole life” baggage.

Stef Rubino November 21, 2022 15 Comments
A woman covers her face in anxiety
First Person

My Anxiety Turns Life Into a Horror Movie

Most of my fears are around dying, maybe because I don’t understand it.

ashni November 9, 2022 3 Comments
Maya Erskine and Anna Konkle hold hands and laugh cry looking up at a screen in the final moments of Pen15.
First Person TV Feature

Slow Takes: “Pen15” and Embracing Alternate Girlhoods

Watching the first season during what I considered my second puberty was miserable. I could acknowledge its effectiveness, but I felt alienated.

Drew Burnett Gregory November 3, 2022 6 Comments
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First Person Movie Features

How it Ends

I begin to realize my relationship is over when my boyfriend starts cleaning his gun in our apartment.

Darcy October 30, 2022 12 Comments
A childhood photo of Dani Janae in a field. A childhood photo of Dani Janae blowing out the candles on an orange birthday cake. A childhood photo of Dani Janae posing with a birthday cake. A present-day photo of Dani Janae wearing a pink top and glasses.
First Person

Alone but Not Lonely at the Precipice of 30

Being 30 meant I was free. In my child mind, it was the ultimate age of adulthood. It meant that no one could hurt me anymore. 

danijanae October 30, 2022 18 Comments
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First Person

Black Girls Are Always at the Center of Horror

There is a haunting that black girls know.

A. Tony Jerome October 26, 2022 16 Comments
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First Person Movie Features

The Seduction of Aliens

When I saw a UFO, I was 18 and it was the night before prom.

Nico October 25, 2022 5 Comments
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First Person

Here’s Why You Should Get a Nude Portrait of Yourself Done

We deserve to feel like art, to feel wonderfully made. 

danijanae October 13, 2022 2 Comments
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First Person

Empty Magic: Dessert

When I set out to write this series, I was expecting to come to some shining resolution documenting my now improved relationship with food. My relationship with food has improved, but it is not perfect.

danijanae October 10, 2022 2 Comments
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First Person

I Rediscovered Fanfiction This Year and It Reconnected Me to My Inner Teen

The best version of myself wasn’t achieved through reinvention. It was achieved through acceptance.

Lily Alvarado October 7, 2022 5 Comments
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First Person

Confessions of a Ghost

Instead of disappearing from my emotional responsibility, I’ve decided to embrace the full transparency of a ghost.

Em Win October 6, 2022 1 Comment
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First Person Movie Features

Elm Street Was a Nightmare Before Freddy Made It One

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Stef Rubino October 4, 2022 6 Comments
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First Person

Empty Magic: Dinner

When you’ve reached the bottom of anything, you create a hollow.

danijanae October 3, 2022 3 Comments
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First Person Movie Features

Revisiting the Scary Movie Sleepover

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Valerie Anne October 3, 2022 6 Comments
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