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Here/Queer: Ann Arbor, My Bubble and Native Land

I was so lucky to grow up in Ann Arbor, but now I’m afraid I’ll never leave.

marebear March 30, 2012 32 Comments
Breakups First Person

How To Leave Your Husband (Because You’re a Lesbian)

Once upon a time I married a man, had kids, and realized I was a lesbian. Here’s what happened and what I wish somebody had told me at the time.

Laneia March 29, 2012 409 Comments
First Person Issues

Everything Happens Elsewhere: Northern Ireland in the Nineties

“Things seemed so big out there and we were just waiting for life to begin properly. I felt electric with anticipation.”

Nine March 28, 2012 40 Comments
First Person

My First Christmas As A Man In Kansas

A story of an almost implausibly perfect Christmas with extended family who hadn’t seen me since I transitioned.

Sebastian February 5, 2012 81 Comments
First Person

Texas Is Not the Only State: Confessions of a Lesbian Exile in New York

“I kept MapQuest directions to Albuquerque in the glove compartment of my car, just in case I needed to run away. When I graduated, I moved to upstate New York for college.”

Lemon November 16, 2011 86 Comments
First Person Music

My Life In Concerts, Or How I Realised I Loved Women With Guitars

“Did I mention that I saw Kylie, the Queen of the Gays, perform as a child? What chance did I have?”

Tully September 15, 2011 39 Comments
First Person Travel

60 Days in China: Where Everywhere Else Seemed Upside Down

“China is beautiful because it’s not like anything you’ve ever known before. There is nothing that reminds you of home, and when you get home, everything will remind you of China.”

Emily August 10, 2011 60 Comments
First Person

Confessions of a Post-Teenage Runagay: The Future Freaks Me Out

“While this freedom isn’t quite as sweet and lush (nor is it as free as I imagined), I don’t mind paying for my independence. For, me it’s still worth it.”

phoenix July 22, 2011 51 Comments
First Person

The Sordid Lives of Lesbian Twins

“When I was a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle for Halloween, she was a princess.”

Lindsay July 8, 2011 78 Comments
First Person

For Femmes Of Colour Who Rose Too Early & Set Too Soon

“It is possible to protest misogyny with my legs spread wide open and I am going to just that.”

bklyn boihood June 21, 2011 41 Comments
First Person

Listling Without Commentary: Rejected Liveblog Topics From My Personal Life

“A conversation I had in line at the post office about sex toys, which were in the opened-by-customs package I was picking up, and the reaction of the nice lady who handed it/them to me.”

Ryan Yates June 1, 2011 35 Comments
First Person Identity

Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About My Sexual Orientation And Were(n’t) Afraid To Ask

The eyes are all asking are you in, or are you out?

Riese June 1, 2011 295 Comments
First Person

Listicle Without Commentary: Puzzling References to Homosexuality From Journals Found in My Room While Packing to Move to San Francisco

“I was watching The L Word first season and thinking about how my heart is dead.”

Riese September 23, 2010 58 Comments
First Person Travel

Eight Honest Things About New York City

The taco truck isn’t f*cking around. What do you want? A taco? The people working in the taco truck want you to have that taco. (Eight Honest Things About New York City according to someone who was there for like, three weeks.)

Laneia July 9, 2010 81 Comments
First Person

Confessions of a Teenage Run-a-Gay or “How (Not) to Go Home for the Holidays”

In a special guest edition of the College Lesbianage, Katrina will offer advice on how to make it through winter break with the family. Except that she doesn’t really have a pantsless leg to stand on, is writing from an undisclosed location, and has no idea what she’s talking about.

phoenix December 29, 2009 55 Comments
First Person

In “Gay Friendly” Philippines, Lesbians Still Forced to Keep it in the Closet

The Philippines is widely regarded as Asia’s most gay-friendly country. So why are its lesbians forced to marry men, submerge desire and stay in the closet?

phoenix August 10, 2009 113 Comments
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