Butch Please: Butch Buys A Drink
“If I wear my heart on my sleeve – and I do these days, much to the shock and dismay of a butch gone prematurely tender – then the sleeve itself is my masculinity.”
Sister, Sister: Creating Queer Spaces In Greek Life
Perhaps you picture fraternities and sororities like Animal House or the House Bunny, but here’s a life lesson: life and movies often do not resemble one another.
The Ones We Left Behind: On Being An Ally To Small Town Queers
“If you’re reading this and are currently in love with a tiny place that hasn’t loved you back yet, I want you to know that this is okay.”
Coming Out As An Amorphous Weirdo
“It wasn’t until I kissed the second girl that even my therapist at the time laughed at me and told me maybe it was time to accept that my sexuality was not as cut-and-dry as I’d always imagined.”
The (Over)Thinker: On How To Be A Human With Another Human
I wrote a letter to myself about over thinking in a relationship. Maybe I wrote this letter to you as well.
25 Things I Do To Make My Body Dysphoria Feel Smaller and Quieter
Everything’s gonna be super duper.
Declaring Something New: How I Learned To Leave My Afro And Love My Queercut
I regret nothing.
Coming Out: Yet Another Roundtable
“Coming out never ends, and for some of you it hasn’t even begun.”
Disowned: When Coming Out Doesn’t Go As Planned
“The truth is that it does bother me that my parents are pretending that I’m dead—probably more than I’ve been willing to admit.”
Holding People Up: How An All-Female Acrobat Troupe Saved Me
“There is no better feeling than knowing you can’t do something, just knowing it to the core, and then surprising yourself because you can.”
You Are Not Alone: On Being A Queer Survivor
“I called it sexual assault at first. Sexual assault seemed less damning, less permanent.”
It’s Not Me, It’s Them: On Wanting To Break Up With Facebook
Facebook has locked me out of my account for being a part of a peaceful, compliant, and legal protest in Washington, DC.
Femmes: Beyond Lipstick (and Heels and Dresses)
Sometimes you just want a role model.
How The South Made Me A Queer Feminist
In the rural South, the word “tomboy” is basically a euphemism for “She’s genderqueer, and she may or may not grow out of it. Hell if we know.”
On Loving My Republican Brother Who Loves Me
What can we reasonably expect from our relatives when it comes to voting?
On Making Rape Jokes
“Since the nuances of personal responsibility seem to escape so many people, let’s go through it. Let’s figure out rape jokes.”
True Confessions of a Queer Lisa Frank Enthusiast
“I’m all about Lisa Frank right now because of what she means to my understanding of gender, sexuality, and the fluid nature of both.”
When Discrimination Is Up In The Air
On unchecked discrimination, privilege and ignorance. How do you begin to change a world that thinks it’s already changed?
Estranged: How I Fell In Love With A Girl And Lost My Family
“When they see you happy, they’ll accept it,” someone told me once. When there are tears about something unchangeable, people can only be optimistic. It’s the only thing that is left.
Carmen’s Concert Diary: Drake In DC
I have a lot of feelings about Drake. And now that I’ve seen him live, I have about a million more.