The (Over)Thinker: On How To Be A Human With Another Human
I wrote a letter to myself about over thinking in a relationship. Maybe I wrote this letter to you as well.
25 Things I Do To Make My Body Dysphoria Feel Smaller and Quieter
Everything’s gonna be super duper.
Declaring Something New: How I Learned To Leave My Afro And Love My Queercut
I regret nothing.
Coming Out: Yet Another Roundtable
“Coming out never ends, and for some of you it hasn’t even begun.”
Disowned: When Coming Out Doesn’t Go As Planned
“The truth is that it does bother me that my parents are pretending that I’m dead—probably more than I’ve been willing to admit.”
Holding People Up: How An All-Female Acrobat Troupe Saved Me
“There is no better feeling than knowing you can’t do something, just knowing it to the core, and then surprising yourself because you can.”
You Are Not Alone: On Being A Queer Survivor
“I called it sexual assault at first. Sexual assault seemed less damning, less permanent.”
It’s Not Me, It’s Them: On Wanting To Break Up With Facebook
Facebook has locked me out of my account for being a part of a peaceful, compliant, and legal protest in Washington, DC.
Femmes: Beyond Lipstick (and Heels and Dresses)
Sometimes you just want a role model.
How The South Made Me A Queer Feminist
In the rural South, the word “tomboy” is basically a euphemism for “She’s genderqueer, and she may or may not grow out of it. Hell if we know.”
On Loving My Republican Brother Who Loves Me
What can we reasonably expect from our relatives when it comes to voting?
On Making Rape Jokes
“Since the nuances of personal responsibility seem to escape so many people, let’s go through it. Let’s figure out rape jokes.”
True Confessions of a Queer Lisa Frank Enthusiast
“I’m all about Lisa Frank right now because of what she means to my understanding of gender, sexuality, and the fluid nature of both.”
When Discrimination Is Up In The Air
On unchecked discrimination, privilege and ignorance. How do you begin to change a world that thinks it’s already changed?
Estranged: How I Fell In Love With A Girl And Lost My Family
“When they see you happy, they’ll accept it,” someone told me once. When there are tears about something unchangeable, people can only be optimistic. It’s the only thing that is left.
Carmen’s Concert Diary: Drake In DC
I have a lot of feelings about Drake. And now that I’ve seen him live, I have about a million more.
Experiments In Sobriety or “This Is When I Admit That I Have A Drinking Problem”
“It’s like I’ve got an internal switch that flips and not everyone has it, and if you don’t it’s almost impossible to explain.”
A Poem: A Guide To Words
“It’s like diet-cunt, because cunt is the Queen Bitch.”
I Was A Baby Queer at Bible Camp
“The summer after I turned thirteen, I decided that exactly two things needed to happen in order for my life to matter: I needed Rosie Collins to like me, and I needed my parents to send me to Bible Camp.”
Rock n’ Roll Camp for Girls: Role Models, Riot Grrrls and Revolutions
“I wanted this camp to turn me into a rock star.”