The Need for Trans Girl Trash
If media that’s traditionally targeted at women, whether they are queer or not, isn’t making a space for the girls like me, then where exactly are we expected to look for entertainment that keeps us in mind?
In “A Recipe for More,” Sara Elise Asks: Who Do You Want To Become?
“We do not have to do anything more to be worthy; we are worthy just because we are.”
It’s Time To Face Facts: I’ll Never Be a Lipstick Femme
Being a lipstick girlie doesn’t leave you; sometimes, it just has to evolve.
A Lesbian Reflects on Lesbian Visibility (Sort Of)
I have started and stopped writing this so many times.
Calling Myself a Lesbian Has Been a Lesson in Self Acceptance
I think this is always who I’ve been, and the other words were the ones I was trying on to see if they fit.
Ranking The National Songs by How Much I’ve Cried to Them
Trying to get sober was like pulling teeth.
At the Passover Table, New Traditions Will Be Born
This year feels like the first of many years where I begin to truly incorporate my partner’s cultural traditions into our family.
The Yeses that Surprise You: Organizing Across the Lines of Cis and Trans
Building power across the lines of cis and trans teaches me that there are many people who will fight alongside trans people to win a better world.
Let Me Be in My Queer Italianx Feelings for a Minute
It was a simple post. So simple and, in the grand scheme of it all, not super meaningful, and yet, I teared up.
Send Me to Low Femme Paradise
The problem of having to have a body in the world again.
Thank You, Ex: For (1) Set of Ghost Hands
I don’t like to think about the endings, which is probably why I’m always haunted, always clinging to things that return even when I should pretend I do not see them.
I’ve Done This 500 Times
But there are still days when I feel like I’m bad at it.
The Soft Butch That Couldn’t (Or: I Got COVID-19 in March 2020 and Never Got Better)
Is a soft butch a soft butch if she can barely hold even herself together? Is a soft butch a soft butch without her swagger?
Cherry Coke Triptych
Giving up caffeinated soda was one of the hardest parts of being pregnant.
On 2018’s Britney Spears Diet Pepsi Cans and the Most Intense Gaslighting of My Career
I used to love grocery shopping after my divorce. I would buy things that only I liked.
Coca-Cola Used To Be Fifty Cents and We Used To Be Close
(Stop writing about the Coke when what you’re really trying to write about is the end of a friendship and then another and then another.)
Grind Culture Made Fizzy Energy Drinks My Toxic Writing Partner
This is not a cautionary tale or a poignant anecdote about finding myself amid waves of imposter syndrome
Seltzer Tastes Like Punishment
There are so many good songs about drinking but none about seltzer, have you noticed that?
Beers I Drank From Ages 14 to 20 That Made Me the ‘Man’ I Am Today
Every punk party — whether it was in Ft. Lauderdale or Lake Worth or North Miami — had the exact same drink options. Either you were drinking Mickey’s or you were doing shots of Jack Daniels.
My Hysterectomy and Early Menopause Reshaped My Sexuality — So My Queerness Found New Spaces to Inhabit
Where once my sexuality flourished in the spaces of the unknown, it is now content to be still.