Marrying a Divorced Person Awakened Unexpected Insecurities in Me
What if I’m bad at being a wife?
How ‘Booksmart’ Helped Me Come Out as Nonbinary
Although she was swimming, I knew she was soaring. To see her comfortable in her skin and happy with who she was at that moment was so important to me.
Untethered: How Do You Know You’re Living Where You Want To Be?
This dissolution of home presents a lot of choices — how I’ll spend my time — who I’ll visit, when, for what holidays if any.
Untethered: The Lesbians of Shinjuku Ni-chōme, Tokyo
I found a lot of comfort in a sapphic space, even on the other side of the world, and I even found some friends.
Et Tu, Laura Ingalls Wilder?
I, too, can only be what I am. And I am a hick, and a hillbilly, and a half-breed. I’m just telling you a story. It’s all I know how to do.
Every Life on This Page All at Once
I’m burdened by unlived lives, hovering within my dreams, just behind my pupils.
I’m Watching Xena: Warrior Princess for the First Time, and My Wife Is What Makes It Special
I love getting to see this show through her eyes; I don’t think I’d enjoy it half as much if I was watching it on my own without her as a guide.
I Want My Queer Representation To Be Messy — Even When it Comes to Real People
To believe in love means to believe in its failures and missteps, too.
PCOS and Queerness: A Bodily Haunting
Despite being one of, if not the, most common endocrine disorder in those classified as women by the medical system, there is barely any research on PCOS.
To Be Trans Is To Refuse Borders
In 2022, I brought my girlfriend daddy to my homeland.
Untethered: I Can Still Hear My Ex Mother-in-Law’s Voice
Last night, while out with a date, my voice pitched too high. I winced internally. There are a lot of complications around this for me.
Uncertainty and Disquiet: My Non-Consensual Childhood Circumcision as a Trans Woman
At the time, I didn’t know that I was experiencing a contentious procedure that would leave me physically scarred and emotionally wounded. I did it because I was told I should. Decades later, I learned about assent in a postgraduate research course.
I Didn’t Know Existential Therapists Were a Thing Until I Got One
“I’m an easy host, a rake, a card, I’m bejeweled, I have a gay face. I want to love and be loved. If reaching is a kind of being, it’s a reaching toward.”
I’m a Psychologist Who Didn’t See My Own Divorce Coming
Psychologists can see potential in every patient who is seeking therapy. I can’t look at my marriage without seeing all the ways we could still fix it.
Untethered: The Designated Girl-Son
I came across the concept of the “designated son” on TikTok.
They Should Have Sent A Poet
“I was around the same age as young Ellie when ‘Contact’ came out. The way she so clearly carries her childhood self with her made adulthood legible; it made time seem like less of an unknowable straight line and something more like a circle. Watching it as an adult I have that same feeling.”
Transition Is Allowed To Feel Bad Sometimes
Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.
Untethered: You Need Help
Asking for help, the kind that requires another person to set aside time for me, to exert themselves physically, feels as easy as touching a hot stove.
The Big And
If time is blurry, and I think it is, then so is everything else.
Untethered: A Great Lady
I’ve been eulogizing, just to myself, in the moments between other moments that are claimed by tasks or thoughts of the present or literally anything else.