Play Parties Let Me Explore My Asexuality
Maybe I didn’t always know I was ace, but I can’t say there weren’t signs.
Twenty Years Later, Still Haunted by ‘Super Size Me’
Super Size Me really fucked me up as a kid. I am a fat, bummed out person who was a fat, bummed out child, and my mother was worried.
Toward a Definition of Fat Fetish
I look at my body in the mirror. Fat, yes. But desire is a crooked hook down my throat I cannot articulate.
The Gayest Thing I Ever Did Was Become a Florist
The art of floral design is beautifully queer-coded, and floristry is an art run and cultivated by the gays.
I’ve Always Loved Deception
As I begin my career as a therapist, I have to hide parts of myself.
I’m Going To Keep On Cruising at the Men’s Only Club
I’ve always been struck by the mostly silent language of cruising.
‘Inception’ Gave Me a Way To Dream
According to my memory, I saw Inception a total of six times in theaters.
When Passing Isn’t Impossible Anymore
What happens when you start to pass? And what happens when you decide that’s not the end-all-be-all anymore?
I Don’t Love Gay Marriage but I’m Officiating My Friends’ Gay Wedding
Oh, I love attending weddings. Yes, yes. Flirting with a bridesmaid is like a Top 10 activity for me. But marriage does not fit snugly into my personal definition of queerness.
Growing Up Queer With a Narcissistic Mother Was Its Own Special Hell
The twisted protagonist’s mommy issues in Elle Nash’s ‘Deliver Me’ were far too relatable for comfort.
I Had an Affair With My College Dean
We told ourselves she was teaching me how to love myself, how to act on my desires. This is what love looks like, we said, and I became adept at anticipating her desires—which I fulfilled, eagerly. She was my audience; I was her secret star.
I’ve Spent a Lot of Time Pretending Not To Know What I Want
“There I was, gay at a gay club, not wanting to be gay, with my best friend / drunken lover who identified as hetero despite her not-that-hetero choices.”
Untethered: Between the Mobile Dungeon and the Infamous Adult Store, Longing for a Safe Third Space
“The way someone takes responsibility for or shares a space can say a lot about them.”
One Year Being Out as a Trans Woman in Texas
Everything’s bigger in Texas. That includes the resilience of our trans community.
Untethered: Visiting Other Peoples’ Families and Unhinged Horse Lesbians
She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.
How I Listen to True Crime After Knowing a Murderer
Media makes it convenient to think of murder as an act that starts with a body and ends with a verdict. Murder is a crime with a long tail.
What Drag Has Taught Me
Every time I have gotten the opportunity to do mediocre drag as a beginner, I have had some of the most fun a person can have.
Untethered: I Can’t Stop Talking About Money
It feels like everyone talks and does not talk about money, especially now, especially while we wade knee-deep through inflation that I believe is not so much inflation but rather price-gouging.
As a Trans Woman Getting Into Stand-Up Comedy, Can I Avoid Jokes About My Identity?
My greatest fear in doing comedy is being a hack.
Five Years Ago, Lesbian Visibility Day Was the Best Day of My Life
I presented my lesbianism to the cis world like a child showing her parents a new drawing.