I Don’t Love Gay Marriage but I’m Officiating My Friends’ Gay Wedding
Oh, I love attending weddings. Yes, yes. Flirting with a bridesmaid is like a Top 10 activity for me. But marriage does not fit snugly into my personal definition of queerness.
Growing Up Queer With a Narcissistic Mother Was Its Own Special Hell
The twisted protagonist’s mommy issues in Elle Nash’s ‘Deliver Me’ were far too relatable for comfort.
I Had an Affair With My College Dean
We told ourselves she was teaching me how to love myself, how to act on my desires. This is what love looks like, we said, and I became adept at anticipating her desires—which I fulfilled, eagerly. She was my audience; I was her secret star.
I’ve Spent a Lot of Time Pretending Not To Know What I Want
“There I was, gay at a gay club, not wanting to be gay, with my best friend / drunken lover who identified as hetero despite her not-that-hetero choices.”
Untethered: Between the Mobile Dungeon and the Infamous Adult Store, Longing for a Safe Third Space
“The way someone takes responsibility for or shares a space can say a lot about them.”
One Year Being Out as a Trans Woman in Texas
Everything’s bigger in Texas. That includes the resilience of our trans community.
Untethered: Visiting Other Peoples’ Families and Unhinged Horse Lesbians
She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.
How I Listen to True Crime After Knowing a Murderer
Media makes it convenient to think of murder as an act that starts with a body and ends with a verdict. Murder is a crime with a long tail.
What Drag Has Taught Me
Every time I have gotten the opportunity to do mediocre drag as a beginner, I have had some of the most fun a person can have.
Untethered: I Can’t Stop Talking About Money
It feels like everyone talks and does not talk about money, especially now, especially while we wade knee-deep through inflation that I believe is not so much inflation but rather price-gouging.
As a Trans Woman Getting Into Stand-Up Comedy, Can I Avoid Jokes About My Identity?
My greatest fear in doing comedy is being a hack.
Five Years Ago, Lesbian Visibility Day Was the Best Day of My Life
I presented my lesbianism to the cis world like a child showing her parents a new drawing.
Marrying a Divorced Person Awakened Unexpected Insecurities in Me
What if I’m bad at being a wife?
How ‘Booksmart’ Helped Me Come Out as Nonbinary
Although she was swimming, I knew she was soaring. To see her comfortable in her skin and happy with who she was at that moment was so important to me.
Untethered: How Do You Know You’re Living Where You Want To Be?
This dissolution of home presents a lot of choices — how I’ll spend my time — who I’ll visit, when, for what holidays if any.
Untethered: The Lesbians of Shinjuku Ni-chōme, Tokyo
I found a lot of comfort in a sapphic space, even on the other side of the world, and I even found some friends.
Et Tu, Laura Ingalls Wilder?
I, too, can only be what I am. And I am a hick, and a hillbilly, and a half-breed. I’m just telling you a story. It’s all I know how to do.
Every Life on This Page All at Once
I’m burdened by unlived lives, hovering within my dreams, just behind my pupils.
I’m Watching Xena: Warrior Princess for the First Time, and My Wife Is What Makes It Special
I love getting to see this show through her eyes; I don’t think I’d enjoy it half as much if I was watching it on my own without her as a guide.
I Want My Queer Representation To Be Messy — Even When it Comes to Real People
To believe in love means to believe in its failures and missteps, too.