Ranking The National Songs by How Much I’ve Cried to Them
Trying to get sober was like pulling teeth.
At the Passover Table, New Traditions Will Be Born
This year feels like the first of many years where I begin to truly incorporate my partner’s cultural traditions into our family.
The Yeses that Surprise You: Organizing Across the Lines of Cis and Trans
Building power across the lines of cis and trans teaches me that there are many people who will fight alongside trans people to win a better world.
Let Me Be in My Queer Italianx Feelings for a Minute
It was a simple post. So simple and, in the grand scheme of it all, not super meaningful, and yet, I teared up.
Send Me to Low Femme Paradise
The problem of having to have a body in the world again.
Thank You, Ex: For (1) Set of Ghost Hands
I don’t like to think about the endings, which is probably why I’m always haunted, always clinging to things that return even when I should pretend I do not see them.
I’ve Done This 500 Times
But there are still days when I feel like I’m bad at it.
The Soft Butch That Couldn’t (Or: I Got COVID-19 in March 2020 and Never Got Better)
Is a soft butch a soft butch if she can barely hold even herself together? Is a soft butch a soft butch without her swagger?
Cherry Coke Triptych
Giving up caffeinated soda was one of the hardest parts of being pregnant.
On 2018’s Britney Spears Diet Pepsi Cans and the Most Intense Gaslighting of My Career
I used to love grocery shopping after my divorce. I would buy things that only I liked.
Coca-Cola Used To Be Fifty Cents and We Used To Be Close
(Stop writing about the Coke when what you’re really trying to write about is the end of a friendship and then another and then another.)
Grind Culture Made Fizzy Energy Drinks My Toxic Writing Partner
This is not a cautionary tale or a poignant anecdote about finding myself amid waves of imposter syndrome
Seltzer Tastes Like Punishment
There are so many good songs about drinking but none about seltzer, have you noticed that?
Beers I Drank From Ages 14 to 20 That Made Me the ‘Man’ I Am Today
Every punk party — whether it was in Ft. Lauderdale or Lake Worth or North Miami — had the exact same drink options. Either you were drinking Mickey’s or you were doing shots of Jack Daniels.
My Hysterectomy and Early Menopause Reshaped My Sexuality — So My Queerness Found New Spaces to Inhabit
Where once my sexuality flourished in the spaces of the unknown, it is now content to be still.
My Seltzer, My Self
Do you remember the first time you stumbled upon a satisfaction you tried to make entirely your own?
An Incomplete List of Things I Wish My Mother Would Do
46. Look at the menu beforehand.
A Transmasc’s Guide to Developing a Healthier Masculine Sexuality
There are some lessons we don’t have to learn the hard way when people have already done the work to teach us.
The System Operates As Designed
Burnout is not simple tiredness. It is malaise and unexplained pain. It is a theft of spirit and the creative body.
I’m a Cool Rock Lesbian
By which I mean I am a lesbian who likes to look at and hold cool rocks — not that I am a lesbian into cool rock ‘n roll, but I’m sure those lesbians are great.