On Saying No
Saying yes almost destroyed me, but I was still afraid to say no.
Top 25 Most Egregious Acts of Queerbaiting on TV
“They murdered someone together which was sex. I don’t understand what’s confusing here.”
VOTE NOW! Bette Porter 2020? Or One of These Other Fictional LA Gays? (Round 1)
Is this just an excuse to keep saying “Govern Me, Mommi”? Let’s put Bette Porter 2020 to an actual vote!
Also.Also.Also: Online Boundaries! Get Some!
Queer women in crime fiction, a queer take on “A Different World”, YouTube, online boundaries, and more!
“Frozen 2” Review: Elsa Gets Mommy Issues Instead of a Girlfriend
If Disney wasn’t ready to explicitly represent a fifth of its young audience, they could’ve at least given Elsa a gal pal. I don’t need to see Elsa make out with the mysterious voice calling her to the next chapter of queer life, but lord did it have to be her mother?
Finding Personal Power and Magic in Tarot
Church leaders wielded the idea of “the will of the Lord” in ways that forced me to surrender power and agency — but when I started reading tarot, I found a new way to move through the world.
Autostraddle’s Ultimate Team Holigay Gift Guide 2019: We’re So Tired, Will These Things Make Us Less Tired?
Here’s a brief glimpse into the deepest materialistic desires of Team Autostraddle – these are all the things we want besides a very long nap!
“To L and Back” L Word Podcast Episode 304: Light My Fire With Cerise Castle
This week on the “To L and Back” podcast we discuss “Light My Fire,” a fascinating journey through tennis matches, spaghetti on the floor, skateboarding parties and Senator Grisham’s art collection!
Sunday Funday Would Rather Not Choose Between Lena Waithe and Young M.A
Happy Sunday, we’ve got chihuahuas, Cincinnati, King Princess, astrology queers and more!!
NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday’s Dog Ate Her Sex Toys
Pets! Sometimes they eat your sex toys or underwear or bondage rope or whatever. Has this happened to you? Let’s discuss.
Femme Brûlée: Almond Butter Apple and Pomegranate Toast
I stan this toast. Join me in that endeavor and add it to your rotation this week!
Grease Bats: Three Concise Witty Sentences
“May all the anonymous hookups of the early 2000’s R.I.P.”
Boobs on Your Tube: It’s Unofficial Date Night on “How to Get Away with Murder”
Plus updates on All American, Legacies, Almost Family, Black Lightning, and This Is Us.
Join Autostraddle and REI for an #OptOutside Gathering in NYC on Black Friday
Come join us for some hot chocolate and cider, REI swag, and a chance to hang out with other queer and trans folks on a weekend when a lot of us aren’t able to go home to our birth family for the holidays.
The Comment Awards Are Selling Their Soul for That Jasika Nicole Hallmark Christmas Movie
“I gotta say, if you wanna have sex in six minutes, you should not spend the first 4.5 minutes unbuttoning all the buttons in both of your dresses!”
“To L and Back” Live in L.A. With The L Word®: Generation Q Cast: an Autostraddle x SHOWTIME® Event
On December 4th, “To L and Back” is doing a live recording in Los Angeles with the cast of “The L Word: Generation Q” and we’d love to see you there!
A+ Members! We Have Tickets for the “To L and Back” event just for you!
On December 4th, “To L and Back” is doing a live recording in Los Angeles with the cast of “The L Word: Generation Q” and we’d love to see you there!
Things I Read That I Love #302: Cosmo Tutorials On How to Come Didn’t Make Much Of a Crack In The Bell Jar
Topics include the founding of Patreon, the founding of Poo-Pourri, the writer as influencer, housing discrimination, TurboTax, feminist performance art, disassociating, the Park Slope food co-op, the Zodiac Killer and more!
Queer Tarotscopes: Sagittarius Season Calls You to Go After What You Want
After multiple seasons of refining our goals and releasing what is no longer needed, Sagittarius gives us the energy and agency to go after everything we want, to reach for those big dreams and find ways to create the kind of magic we’ve been craving.
Democratic Debate #5 Recap: It’s Kamala Harris and Cory Booker’s Time to Shine
In most primary campaigns, staffers and consultants tell candidates not to do what Kamala Harris did last night — but I think she edged out Cory Booker for winner of the debate.