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Issues

On Saying No

Saying yes almost destroyed me, but I was still afraid to say no.

Jen Bates November 26, 2019 4 Comments
TV Lists

Top 25 Most Egregious Acts of Queerbaiting on TV

“They murdered someone together which was sex. I don’t understand what’s confusing here.”

Heather Hogan November 25, 2019 105 Comments
TV Feature

VOTE NOW! Bette Porter 2020? Or One of These Other Fictional LA Gays? (Round 1)

Is this just an excuse to keep saying “Govern Me, Mommi”? Let’s put Bette Porter 2020 to an actual vote!

The TV Team November 25, 2019 15 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Online Boundaries! Get Some!

Queer women in crime fiction, a queer take on “A Different World”, YouTube, online boundaries, and more!

Laneia November 25, 2019 39 Comments
Movie Reviews

“Frozen 2” Review: Elsa Gets Mommy Issues Instead of a Girlfriend

If Disney wasn’t ready to explicitly represent a fifth of its young audience, they could’ve at least given Elsa a gal pal. I don’t need to see Elsa make out with the mysterious voice calling her to the next chapter of queer life, but lord did it have to be her mother?

Drew Burnett Gregory November 25, 2019 21 Comments
Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft Issues

Finding Personal Power and Magic in Tarot

Church leaders wielded the idea of “the will of the Lord” in ways that forced me to surrender power and agency — but when I started reading tarot, I found a new way to move through the world.

meg November 25, 2019 7 Comments
Holigays

Autostraddle’s Ultimate Team Holigay Gift Guide 2019: We’re So Tired, Will These Things Make Us Less Tired?

Here’s a brief glimpse into the deepest materialistic desires of Team Autostraddle – these are all the things we want besides a very long nap!

Vanessa November 25, 2019 42 Comments
Podcasts The L Word

“To L and Back” L Word Podcast Episode 304: Light My Fire With Cerise Castle

This week on the “To L and Back” podcast we discuss “Light My Fire,” a fascinating journey through tennis matches, spaghetti on the floor, skateboarding parties and Senator Grisham’s art collection!

Riese November 25, 2019 4 Comments
Society + Culture

Sunday Funday Would Rather Not Choose Between Lena Waithe and Young M.A

Happy Sunday, we’ve got chihuahuas, Cincinnati, King Princess, astrology queers and more!!

Ari November 24, 2019 12 Comments
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NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday’s Dog Ate Her Sex Toys

Pets! Sometimes they eat your sex toys or underwear or bondage rope or whatever. Has this happened to you? Let’s discuss.

Ryan Yates November 24, 2019 21 Comments
Recipes

Femme Brûlée: Almond Butter Apple and Pomegranate Toast

I stan this toast. Join me in that endeavor and add it to your rotation this week!

Reneice Charles November 23, 2019 5 Comments
Webcomics

Grease Bats: Three Concise Witty Sentences 

“May all the anonymous hookups of the early 2000’s R.I.P.”

Archie November 23, 2019 38 Comments
TV Show Recaps

Boobs on Your Tube: It’s Unofficial Date Night on “How to Get Away with Murder”

Plus updates on All American, Legacies, Almost Family, Black Lightning, and This Is Us.

The TV Team November 22, 2019 9 Comments
OPT TO ACT / #OptOutside / 11.29/19
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Join Autostraddle and REI for an #OptOutside Gathering in NYC on Black Friday

Come join us for some hot chocolate and cider, REI swag, and a chance to hang out with other queer and trans folks on a weekend when a lot of us aren’t able to go home to our birth family for the holidays.

Heather Hogan November 22, 2019 3 Comments
Straddleverse

The Comment Awards Are Selling Their Soul for That Jasika Nicole Hallmark Christmas Movie

“I gotta say, if you wanna have sex in six minutes, you should not spend the first 4.5 minutes unbuttoning all the buttons in both of your dresses!”

Darcy November 22, 2019 102 Comments
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“To L and Back” Live in L.A. With The L Word®: Generation Q Cast: an Autostraddle x SHOWTIME® Event

On December 4th, “To L and Back” is doing a live recording in Los Angeles with the cast of “The L Word: Generation Q” and we’d love to see you there!

Riese November 22, 2019 5 Comments
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A+ Members! We Have Tickets for the “To L and Back” event just for you!

On December 4th, “To L and Back” is doing a live recording in Los Angeles with the cast of “The L Word: Generation Q” and we’d love to see you there!

Sarah November 22, 2019 18 Comments
Literature

Things I Read That I Love #302: Cosmo Tutorials On How to Come Didn’t Make Much Of a Crack In The Bell Jar

Topics include the founding of Patreon, the founding of Poo-Pourri, the writer as influencer, housing discrimination, TurboTax, feminist performance art, disassociating, the Park Slope food co-op, the Zodiac Killer and more!

Riese November 22, 2019 4 Comments
Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Queer Tarotscopes: Sagittarius Season Calls You to Go After What You Want

After multiple seasons of refining our goals and releasing what is no longer needed, Sagittarius gives us the energy and agency to go after everything we want, to reach for those big dreams and find ways to create the kind of magic we’ve been craving.

meg November 22, 2019 10 Comments
Politics + Activism

Democratic Debate #5 Recap: It’s Kamala Harris and Cory Booker’s Time to Shine

In most primary campaigns, staffers and consultants tell candidates not to do what Kamala Harris did last night — but I think she edged out Cory Booker for winner of the debate.

Natalie November 21, 2019 10 Comments
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