“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your gender from a different angle. What makes you feel affirmed?”
“I am 12. I have never thought of the idea of being gay. I am the only one being called gay at school, that I know of, and I am learning very quickly that it is the worst thing one could possibly be. It feels contagious, like I’m walking into school every day with a giant, hideous cloak of gay-ness, and everyone knows it.”
Timothée Chalamet inspired haircuts, the origins of camp, non-binary inclusive workspaces, and more!
Some essays and stories about our Dads — the good, the bad, and the very complicated.
The new rules of dating? Don’t be an asshole. Plus: How to explore bisexuality, how to talk about good sex so you can have it, what the Desiree Conference cancellation means for sex workers and more.
A Pride reminder.
Working at Autostraddle has been my dream job and it’s been my dream community, but it’s time for the next phase in my life, so I need to say goodbye.
“I really think Lane Bryant is missing an opportunity to reclaim ‘Come To My Window’ from Applebee’s by not offering Reneice a million dollars for that one photo. You know the one I mean.”
I find myself preemptively mourning the transgenerational communities and cliques and cults and clubs and covens of girls like me that could be and may not be.
Books with ace homo/bi/panromantic women characters do exist! Here’s a list of eight of these very real and awesome books in genres like romance, fantasy, YA and more!
Lying in bed, she asked why I thought she’d be into women, and I tried to explain that Indian norms are full of moments Americans consider to be flirting. “Holding hands doesn’t mean anything,” she said. “It must be so sad to not touch your friends.”
The BJ Dildo is designed for strap-on blow jobs. And I really, really wanted to love it.
Inside The Black Triangle is a photo series intending to highlight the struggles, joy, heartbreak, confusion, and diverse experiences of queer women living in a heteronormative world, and the artist behind the project is hosting an Autostraddle Meet-Up at Denver Pride this weekend!
Plus: Vida has been renewed; new trailers for G.L.O.W., OITNB, and Anne With an E, Alia Shawkat opens up about that NYT interview, Lena Waithe is everywhere this Pride, and so much more.
“There are so many baby queers who depend on us to give them representation,” they said. “There’s so much in this world telling you to be something different and that’s so detrimental. I’d rather have kids see something and go, ‘It’s okay to be me.'”
“I know the difference between a party that’s celebrating me and a party that’s exploiting me.”
I’m honestly just spending this week deciding which celebrities are big spoons and little spoons and nothing you say is going to change my mind.
‘Tis the season for various companies to throw rainbows on their products in exchange for our hard-earned gay cash! Who’s making cute stuff? Who’s donating to LGBTQ+ non-profits and how much? Who partnered with actual LGBTQ+ people to promote their wares? Let’s rank.
“Rose Colored Glasses” bites off way more than it can chew.
You’ve got your harness. You’ve got a dildo to use with it. So what happens next?