Sasheer Zamata Realizes She’s As Gay as the Characters She’s Played

Hollywood Made Sasheer Zamata Gay, As Per the Agenda

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LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – JUNE 14: Actress Sasheer Zamata attends the Los Angeles Premiere of “Thelma” at The Egyptian Theatre Hollywood on June 14, 2024 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Amanda Edwards/Getty Images)

After being cast as queer in multiple shows after leaving Saturday Night Live, including Woke, The Last O.G, Home Economics and Tuca & Bertie, Sasheer Zamata came to realize she’s a “late-in-life” lesbian. Maybe not necessarily as a direct result of that, but she does tell Them.us: “I kept getting these roles. And this is before I myself was figuring out my identity. I was like, ’Whoa, what are these casting directors seeing that I’m not seeing?’”

While Zamata still wants her private life to stay private, she does want to be out publicly. Especially as she starts doing more stand-up, she doesn’t want to have to censor her dating life.

Zamata also mentioned Chappell Roan’s statements about boundaries in her them.us interview, hoping that this will apply to her after sharing this news, and I once again want to say how much I love that Chappell laid down that line and that other celebrities seem to be following suit.

When Zamata joined Saturday Night Live in 2014, she was the show’s first Black female cast member since Maya Rudolph’s departure in 2007. She left the show in 2017 and has been working steadily since, including co-hosting the very popular podcast “Best Friends”  with not-straight comic Nicole Beyer since 2019.

Sasheer Zamata also says that while her character in Agatha All Along isn’t explicitly queer, there are queer themes she connected to, which I personally am looking forward to.

And this is part of why I will never say that straight people should never play queer characters. While I think all trans characters should be played by trans people, I don’t feel the same way about “straight” actors playing queer characters. I think if a person is drawn to a queer role and a story, and wants to tell it with care and thoughtfulness, they should do it. Because how many actors have we seen start off thinking they were straight, until they played a queer character, stepped in their shoes, talked to queer fans, then realized they were queer? There are dozens, but three off the top of my head include Chyler Leigh after playing Alex Danvers in Supergirl, and Dom Provost-Chalkley and Kat Barrell after playing Waverly and Nicole in Wynonna Earp. And now Sasheer Zamata! (I do, however, think queer people should always be involved with WRITING these characters and stories.) Obviously queer characters played by queer actors hit different, but sometimes there’s a reason a person is drawn to a story, and sometimes we just need to let them cook.

Sasheer Zamata has said that in the process of coming out, her friends started noticing the positive changes in her, and I hope this revelation will bring her nothing but joy and hilarious dating stories for her stand-up act.


More pop culture stories for your day:

+ The cast of One Day at a Time will be reuniting for charity, where they will get to do table reads of episodes they never got to film, including but not limited to their series finale, giving us all much-needed closure

+ Angelina Jolie is almost 50 and embracing being an “older woman” (and is still getting standing ovations)

+ Only Murders in the Building, How I Met Your Father, The Bear, Big Mouth, and Quiz Lady (which are all either queer or have queer actors in it) are among the Creative Arts Emmy winners

+ Speaking of Only Murders in the Building, it has been renewed for a fifth season before the fourth is even over, you love to see it (now if only they’d remember Mabel is bisexual) https://tvline.com/news/only-murders-in-the-building-season-5-renewed-hulu-1235326211/

+ Sarah Paulson steps into the 1930s for horror film called Hold Your Breath

+ Floriana Lima, relevant to us here on this website page because she played iconic gay character Maggie Sawyer on Supergirl, is coming to Grey’s Anatomy

+ Kristen Stewart’s directorial debut, The Chronology of Water, turns trauma into art

+ Special Ops: Lioness comes back October 27th, here’s hoping it’s as gay as season one

+ Real Housewives star Heather Dubrow moved for her queer kids and now they are thriving

+ Dead Boy Detectives was canceled at Netflix, which means no more goth lesbian butcher for me, and yes I am sad about it

+ Melissa Etheridge did a mashup of her song “I Want To Come Over” with Chappell Roan’s “Red Wine Supernova” and a hundred lesbian angels got their wings

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33 Action Villains, Ranked by Lesbianism

We ranked action movie heroes by lesbianism, so it’s only natural we’d do villains next. Turns out that when it comes to villains, it was even more difficult to differentiate between characters we could make compelling gay arguments for and characters we’re simply horny for. Gays! We love our villains!

The same rules apply to this list that apply to the heroes list: We’re sticking to films only, so you won’t find TV characters below, and for any characters who also appear in television shows, we’re only really taking their film narratives into consideration.

We tried to remain pretty specific about the genre of action. There are a lot of great queer and queer coded villains in thrillers, horror, noir, etc. Those are not included below, so for example, Basic Instinctis not an action movie.


33. Mai and Katya, Live Free or Die Hard and Die Hard With a Vengeance)

Mai from Live Free or Die Hard
Katya from Die Hard With a Vengeance

The Die Hard franchise loves to give its main villains second-in-command girlfriends, but those girlfriends never seem as interested in their man so much as in kicking ass, doing murder, and out-maneuvering men.

32. Elektra King, The World Is Not Enough

Elektra King from The World Is Not Enough

The real dyke of this film is Dr. Christmas Jones as played by Denise Richards, but she isn’t an antagonist here. Elektra King, on the other hand, is one of the many women trying to kill Bond who Bond sleeps with before he realizes that. Anyway, a lot of the villainous Bond Girls have bisexual energy, but Elektra definitely seems 0% interested in Bond. To be fair, I think she’s only interested in oil and money. But the way she gleefully wields her control over men while completely indifferent to them makes her quite the evil power dyke in my book.

31. Elle Driver, Kill Bill

You might claim that Elle and The Bride’s obsession with each other hinges on Bill, but I, an intellectual, posit that it’s actually an extremely homoerotic mutual obsession and that Bill has nothing to do with it.

30. Minister Mason, Snowpiercer

Minister Mason from Snowpiercer

A lesbian who subscribes to violent hierarchies, but a lesbian nonetheless.

29. Ms. Gradenko, Spy Kids

Ms. Gradenko from Spy Kids

Anyone associated with Alan Cumming’s Floop is queer, including Thumb Thumbs, obviously. Teri Hatcher might not have a ton of screen-time in Spy Kids, but she delivers a deliciously campy performance as Ms. Gradenko, who has evil lesbian mommy vibes and sports what I suppose we could classify as an alternative lifestyle haircut at the end of the film.

28. Lori, Total Recall

Lori from Total Recall

The way she carries that knife in her sock? The way she fights in that POWER SUIT? Evil femme dyke vibes. And her PRETENDING to be in a relationship with Schwarzenegger? Comphet, anyone?

27. O-Ren Ishii, Kill Bill

O-Ren Ishii from Kill Bill

This list obviously had to have multiple sword lesbians on it. I think it’s easy to read some sort of past intimacy onto O-Ren’s dynamic with The Bride — if not romantic, then at least deeply platonic. The Bride reacts to killing her more emotionally than she does with others, and the two seem to have a deep respect for each other, and okay, fine, I may have read a fic that left an imprint.

26. Effie Trinket, The Hunger Games

Effie Trinket from Hunger Games

Effie Trinket is the kind of lesbian who would get gay married at Disney.

25. T-X, Terminator 3: Rise of the Machines

T-X

She’s a murderous robot, but she’s also a lesbian, which sure, there isn’t necessarily textual evidence to support, but the universe’s first Terminatrix surely has to be at least a little dyke of center.

24. Scarlet Witch, Marvel Cinematic Universe

Scarlett Witch

There are a few characters on this list who have shifted between the identities of hero and villain (queer in and of itself, if you ask me!!!), including Scarlet Witch. In the MCU, her whole arc with Vision really does have an air of sapphic tragedy to it.

23. Marissa Wiegler, Hanna

Marissa Wiegler from Hanna

Well, she’s played by the gayest straight woman alive, Cate Blanchett, let’s start there. Then let’s add she’s an evil power lesbian with a short haircut.

22. Cipher, The Fate of the Furious

Cipher from Fast and Furious franchise

Of all the many gay and gay-coded Charlize Theron characters, Cipher and her dreadlocks are the ones I’d least like to claim. Alas, lesbians aren’t all Furiosa. Some are bad people — some even have bad haircuts.

21. Dark Phoenix, X-Men: The Last Stand

Dark Phoenix

Dark Phoenix the standalone film is almost unwatchably bad, and I’m not sure there’s a super strong case for that version of Dark Phoenix to be considered queer. But Famke Janssen’s iteration of the villainous side of Jean Grey in X-Men: The Last Stand, on the other hand, has a certain repressed dyke air about her. The Last Stand isn’t great, but it is one of the most explicit X-Men movies about mutants as an overt metaphor for homosexuality.

20. Poison Ivy, Batman and Robin

Poison Ivy from Batman and Robin

Since this is movies, I’ll try not to be impacted by Harley Quinn where she’s literally in a lesbian relationship. Still, have you SEEN Batman and Robin? Sure she flirts with the boys to get her way, but she’s literally an environmentalist who fights men to protect plant life.

19. Hela, Thor: Ragnarok

Hela from Thor: Ragnarok

That’s some lesbian rage if I’ve ever seen it. Plus, her commitment to a headpiece is simply not the kind of commitment a heterosexual would make.

18. Irma Vep, Les Vampires

Irma Vep Les Vampires

Not only did she inspire a gay movie and a gay show, Musidora’s original female villain was plenty gay herself. Sure, she marries a man. But the man’s name is Venomous! That doesn’t really take away from her gay energy.

17. Doctor Octopus, Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse

Doctor Octopus

The action heroes list ranked by lesbian had one animated character, so we thought we’d include one here, too. Voiced by Kathryn Hahn, this take on Doc Ock is very gay. Before she transforms into Doc Ock, she looks like a lesbian art teacher.

16. Xenomorph, Alien

Xenomorph from Alien

A single mom who works two jobs who loves her kids and never stops going head-to-head with the dykiest person around whether that’s Ripley or… Predator.

15. Maleficent, Maleficent

Angelina Jolie in Maleficent

A misunderstood creature played by Angelina Jolie? Does mommi v. mommi in the sequel? Has wings??

14. Ravenna/Evil Queen, Snow White and the Huntsman

Ravenna with Snow Shite

I do wish the movie leaned even MORE into its overt homoeroticism, but between Ravenna draining young women of their youthful energy to her obsession with eating Snow White’s heart, that’s an evil lesbian (who you kinda want to root for?! Snow White is so boring in these, which is no fault of K.Stew!).

13. Rita Repulsa, Power Rangers

Rita Repulsa

The stunty, cunty name alone! But also remember in the live-action film when she terrorized a jewelry store? That was her saying jewelry stores are spaces that enforce and reproduce heterosexual fantasy. Rita Repulsa is basically a lesbian-feminist scholar. She’s also representation for long-nailed femmes.

12. Jen Yu, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon

Jen Yu from Crouching Tiger

Jade Fox’s mentee Jen Yu literally ran away from home so she could avoid an arranged marriage and thwarts society’s expectations of her at every turn. She cross-dresses at one point and loves nothing more than her sword. Gay!

11. Marraine, Wingwomen

Marraine from Wingwomen

Everyone in this movie feels so gay, even the characters who aren’t explicitly gay. The way Marraine won’t let Carole quit on her is giving possessive dyke.

10. Mystique, X-Men

Mystique

I am going with Rebecca Romijn’s version of the character rather than Jennifer Lawrence’s (Lawrence brings such a straight vibe to all of her roles, which is why Katniss didn’t make the heroes list). Romijn brings a certain sapphic sadness alongside her very sexy performance as Mystique. Shape-shifting and being able to embody multiple genders at once is inherently pretty queer! And Mystique and Magneto’s dynamic in those early X-Men films feels very toxic dyke/toxic fag besties who would turn on each other in a heartbeat.

9. Xenia Onatopp, GoldenEye

Xenia Onatopp

She is known…for scissoring…men to death.

8. Black Queen of Sogo, Barbarella

Black Queen of Sogo from Barbarella

I mean, even a straight woman would probably want to fuck Jane Fonda in Barbarella because her hotness defies labels, but it probably requires a lesbian to refer to her exclusively as “Pretty Pretty” while trying to do so.

7. Typhoid, Elektra

Typhoid in Elektra

A goth villain whose means of attack is a kiss? She just haaaas to kiss Jennifer Garner as part of her villainy? Come on now, doesn’t get gayer than this.

6. Harley Quinn, Birds of Prey

Harley Quinn

While it’s grappled with more in the animated series than the live action Margot Robbie iterations of the character, Birds of Prey does technically textually acknowledge the character’s bisexuality. Plus, Joker/Harley is just like textbook bi4bi chaos.

5. Roxy Richter, Scott Pilgrim vs. the World

Roxy Richter

Textually bi-furious Roxy Richter is Ramona Flower’s most fun evil ex if you ask me! She’s fueled by gay rage! Iconic!

4. The Adjudicator, John Wick: Chapter 3 – Parabellum

The Adjudicator

A (textually!) nonbinary baddie who wears the fuck out of coats, The Adjudicator as played by Asia Kate Dillon is a standout character in the third installment of the John Wick films. Plus a neck tattoo that translates from German to EMPATHY? Def a queer person who claims to be an empath.

3. Lucy Diamond, D.E.B.S.

Lucy Diamond

The best character in D.E.B.S. is its chaotic lesbian villain Lucy Diamond. Sorry to Australia.

2. Madison Lee, Charlie’s Angels: Full Throttle

Demi Moore and Cameron Diaz in Charlie's Angels: Full Throttle

I realize it’s probably a little controversial to put Madison Lee ahead of more overtly canonically queer characters, but I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: The queer subtext of Charlie’s Angels: Full Throttle is SO CLOSE to being main text. You really can’t miss it! All the Angels want to fuck her! She has sexual chemistry with every single one of them!!!

1. Jobu Tupaki, Everything Everywhere All At Once

Jobu Tupaki

Jobu Tupaki was pretty much forged by Joy’s queer identity — or, more specifically, her mother’s expectations of her as a daughter and how queerness is at odds with them. With her dildo weapons, glamorous fits, and a whole lot of queer rage, Jobu Tupaki is an iconic drag dyke.

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  1. If you’re going to put a Bond villain, why not Miranda Frost? The movie was bad, but Rosamund Pike’s fencing outfits were iconic.

    • Nebula seems like she’s been through so much physical pain that she’s probably too disconnected from her body for sexuality to come easily . . . but also has a soft spot for romantic love and probably has watched Heartstopper 3-5 times.

  2. Musidora herself was def bi – she had an affair with Colette when they were acting in music Hall together- Colette’s husband ended up being so jealous he put guards outside her dressing room.
    Musidora was a real pioneer & had a pretty interesting life- Colette’s letters to her are a good read, sadly only in French.

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TIFF 2024: ‘On Swift Horses’ Is Worthy of Its Jacob Elordi and Daisy Edgar-Jones Gay Sex Scenes

Drew Burnett Gregory is back at TIFF, reporting daily with queer movie reviews from one of the world’s most prestigious film festivals. Follow along for her coverage of the best in LGBTQ+ cinema and beyond.


First queer love is all about projection. We’ve seen this in many a gay movie. A character, previously closeted to the world and even themself, meets someone, falls in love, and through this person emerges anew. Sometimes the love itself is easy to believe in. Desert Hearts for one. But often, the love was never the point. Call Me By Your Name, Pariah, classics like Lianna — it’s not about the romance, it’s about what the romance reveals.

On Swift Horses is an unconventional queer love story. The person Muriel (Daisy Edgar-Jones) first meets is not a lover, it’s not even a woman — it’s her soon-to-be brother-in-law Julius (Jacob Elordi). She’s drawn to him and doesn’t know why. She’s so drawn to him she finally agrees to marry his brother Lee (Will Poulter) just to remain in Julius’ life.

Shifting in time across the 1950s and in place from rural Kansas to San Diego, Las Vegas to Tijuana, this is a movie with many threads. Muriel’s journey shares equal weight with Julius’ own love story with a fellow gambler named Henry (Diego Calva). As Julius strives to finally find identity outside himself, Muriel strives for the opposite. They’re on parallel journeys but at very different points in a queer life.

This doesn’t mean Muriel’s queerness remains theoretical. She has meaningful encounters with a woman at the horse track (Kat Cunning) who invites her to a queer bar and with her neighbor Sandra (Sasha Calle) who has a vibrant queer community. True to the time, queerness may be in the shadows, but in the darkness it is plentiful.

And yet neither of these potential romances for Muriel are as telling as the moment when she pulls her hair back and tries to style it like Julius. It’s not projecting transness on the character to say her connection to Julius is not just based in their shared queerness but in her gender envy of his masculine queer aesthetic.

And oh what an aesthetic that is! Jacob Elordi has never looked better and never been better. The camera looks at him with a gaze that is both Henry’s lust and Muriel’s envy. Julius is given a tender heartthrob portrayal more akin to the images of the decade the film takes place than what we usually see on-screen in our current era.

It’s not an insult to the movie itself to say it will have a second life on the internet once the talented young gays online get their fan edit fingers on it. The film is as unruly as queer discovery but its many moments are sublime. Elordi will be the focus, but Daisy Edgar-Jones, Diego Calva, Sasha Calle, and Kat Cunning will receive plenty of deserved love as well.

There is a polish to the film for a story that could maybe have used a bit more grit. But the commitment to sincerity and melodrama works because of the performers. The world of the film feels more pastiche of the 1950s than an actual window, and it works for this romantic fantasy.

Throughout the film, parallels are made between gambling and living an out queer life. At one point a character states this parallel outright. This is a film determined to show that in this gamble the rewards far outweigh the risks.

On Swift Horses leans toward the wholesome and hopeful. But that doesn’t mean a lack of complexity. This is a very queer film about very queer experiences. While the plotting is neat, the emotions remain wild.

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  1. So a gay guy and a slowly transitioning bi trans man both got gay hots for Jacob Elordi? Lol. He’s beloved in the gay community DEF NOW

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TIFF 2024: ‘Rez Ball’ Is an Indigenous Sports Movie About a Queer High School Basketball Coach

Drew Burnett Gregory is back at TIFF, reporting daily with queer movie reviews from one of the world’s most prestigious film festivals. Follow along for her coverage of the best in LGBTQ+ cinema and beyond.


“They might be stars on the court, but they’re still just kids.”

Former WNBA player and struggling high school basketball coach Heather Hobbs (Jessica Matten) says this line when trying to convince her mentor to come on as assistant coach. She’s emphasizing the fragility of her team in the wake of an immense loss, but their status as “just kids” is also what can make high school and college sports so enthralling. Because of their youth, these athletes are even more unpredictable. They lack the polish of pros, more impacted by circumstance, less consistent in their gameplay. It makes for great sporting events, and, even more so, it makes for a great sports movie.

Sydney Freeland’s Rez Ball is about a group of kids underestimated by everyone but themselves. Inspired by the book Canyon Dreams: A Basketball Season on the Navajo Nation, the film follows the Chuska Warriors, led by Coach Hobbs and team captain Jimmy Holiday (Kauchani Bratt), as they attempt to win a championship after losing their star player. While the film hits the expected genre beats, it also doesn’t soften the problems faced by teenagers — especially Indigenous teenagers living in the U.S. This is a basketball movie, but it’s a basketball movie that deals with suicide, alcoholism, and generational grief.

While, at first, the film is a tad easy in its exposition — we learn Coach Hobbs is breaking up with her girlfriend due to a brief text that appears on the screen — once the plot gets going, Freeland and co-writer Sterlin Harjo balance the tone and various characters. Its portrayal of grief experienced by youths may lack the sharp subtlety of Harjo’s Reservation Dogs (on which Freeland worked as a writer and director), but there’s simply going to be a different approach between an FX dramedy series and the tighter, more commercial format of a Netflix sports movie.

However, what this movie does share with that series is impeccable craft and exceptional casting. Since her debut Drunktown’s Finest, Freeland has built a stellar body of work. She directed beloved web series Her Story, the underrated feature Diedra and Laney Rob a Train, and a bunch of television including P-Valley and Echo. Freeland’s skill and experience are on full display here, especially during the basketball sequences. Whether the Warriors are winning or losing, Freeland makes us feel like we’re on the court. Creed III editor Jessica Baclesse and longtime Queen Sugar cinematographer Kira Kelly help create a visual language that combines action with poetry.

Beyond the film’s form, Freeland’s talent as a director is felt in the performances she gets from her cast. From seasoned performers to young newcomers, everyone in this film is excellent and excellent with each other. Chemistry goes beyond romance and the whole cast has chemistry whether that’s as mother/son, coach/player, or teammates. (Also Bratt and Zoey Reyes as Jimmy’s coworker/Navajo tutor/love interest Krista do have plenty of romantic chemistry.) Throughout the film, Jimmy has to learn that a player is only as good as their team, and that’s on full display in how these actors work with one another.

While I wish Coach Hobbs got a love interest beyond the specter of her ex, Jessica Matten does an excellent job embodying a competitive dyke nursing the wounds of her breakup by throwing herself into her career. She’s the heart of the film, alongside Bratt and Julia Jones as Jimmy’s mother, a character who could have merely occupied the archetype of bad mom, but due to Jones’ performance instead feels like a complicated woman haunted by reality.

Rez Ball reminds me of the sports movies I watched over and over again as a kid. Except none of those movies had a queer coach and featured a montage set to Lil Nas X. None of those movies had the craft of Sydney Freeland.

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  1. “Jessica Matten does an excellent job embodying a competitive dyke nursing the wounds of her breakup by throwing herself into her career” – highly relatable content i will be eagerly anticipating the release of this movie

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TIFF 2024: A Queer and Trans Festival Recap (LIVE UPDATES)

I’m back at TIFF for the third year in a row! The Toronto International Film Festival is one of the most celebrated and prestigious film festivals for a reason. But while many note its ability to predict Oscar nominees, I’ve found over the years that the real strength is in the breadth of programming. There are over 200 titles each year and that means a wide variety of big name films and plenty of hidden gems.

This year, I’ll be continuing a practice I started with this past Sundance, where every morning this piece will be updated with the new films I’ve watched or the new films that have had their press embargoes lifted. In addition to these mini capsule reviews, at least one full review will also publish.

The films here will include queer titles I didn’t want to write a lot about, but it will also include everything I watch. I love writing about queer cinema, but I also think there’s a lot of value in queer people analyzing art that may not be explicitly for us.


Mistress Dispeller (dir. Elizabeth Lo)

Mistress Dispeller is a miracle of documentary filmmaking. It is a film with footage that could only be captured by deception, yet only released after an ethical approach to permission.

The film follows Teacher Wang, a woman who works as a “mistress dispeller,” hired by wives who are being cheated on to intervene and break up their husbands’ affairs. But as manipulative as this may appear, Wang’s approach has a surprising sense of empathy. Rather than view the mistresses as an enemy, Wang views them as lonely and misguided.

That’s certainly the case in the central love triangle of the film. Elizabeth Lo had the wife’s permission from the beginning, but the husband and mistress were told they were simply part of a documentary about modern love in China. With a reserved and accomplished formal technoque, Lo captures the relationships on-screen with a lack of judgment fitting for Wang. All of the subjects are vulnerable and wise, and the kindness and skill of everyone involved might explain why the husband and mistress agreed to the film after being told the truth.

On-screen and in life, we want relationships and conflicts to have heroes and villains. But in this film and in Teacher Wang’s work, we’re all just human.

A Sisters’ Tale (dir. Leila Amini)

Leila Amini’s sister Nasreen dreams of being a singer despite Iran’s laws against women singing in public. Her desire to sing is both literal and an apt metaphor for her deeper desire. She wants her freedom — freedom to sing, freedom from her loveless marriage, freedom to look out for herself without hurting her loved ones.

By having the sort of access granted by making a documentary about one’s own family, Amini is able to deepen her film beyond its against-all-odds inspirational story. The best moments of the film are when Nasreen’s children — especially her son — are struggling with the repercussions of Nasreen’s goals. Real sacrifice is required, by Nasreen and those around her. But Nasreen rightfully believes to be the best mother possible she can’t raise her kids in an unhappy home, she can’t model for them someone who is passive. It’s a bold and powerful statement for her to value a life beyond survival. And it makes for a compelling documentary filled with nuance and love.

Went Up the Hill (dir. Samuel Van Grisen)

Full review.

The Substance (dir. Coralie Fargeat)

Coralie Fargeat’s The Substance succeeds in doing what it sets out to do exceptionally well. Unfortunately, I hated what it was doing.

Demi Moore plays Elisabeth Sparkle, an Oscar winner now workout TV show personality who has just turned 50. When she gets booted by a grotesque exec (Dennis Quaid, presumably playing himself), she is tempted into taking an experimental treatment called The Substance. This drug will unlock another self — a younger, more perfect self played by Margaret Qualley — but the rule is seven days on, seven days off. They each must adhere to this schedule otherwise there will be disastrous side effects.

In fact, there is no each. They are one. This is reiterated again and again by the mysterious creators of the drug/experience. It’s here where the film finds its most interesting threads. Watching these two different yet the same women navigate their symbiotic connection is fascinating and frightening.

Where the film is less successful is in its satire. From the beginning, the world of the film is given an unreality by the suggestion that it snows in LA. And so, The Industry here is played entirely in archetypes. Like the concert in Trap having multiple intermissions, we’re supposed to accept that the hottest show on TV is a workout video simply because men like to ogle breasts. Fair enough. I don’t mind a heightening. The problem is the heightening here hits such easy targets. The commentary about male gaze and Hollywood’s value of youth is shallow and tired. It’s not inaccurate; it’s just not particularly clever or interesting. If the feminism in Barbie felt 101, this is an Instagram infographic for people too lazy to sign up for the introductory course.

Maybe that’s the point. Maybe Fargeat is emphasizing the the boredom of this sexism. (Although at a film festival where Demi Moore is joined by performers like Nicole Kidman in Babygirl, one might question if skinny white actresses in their 50s still face the limitations of a decade ago.) The problem with this simple feminism other than its boredom is the film undermines its own perspective. 50-year-olds who look like Demi Moore are celebrated, but the film finds much of its horror in the grotesquery of even older bodies, as well as deformities. Elisabeth Sparkle should learn to love herself, yes, but what about women who look more like the film’s monsters?

The film makes allusions to Old Hollywood monster movies like Frankenstein and Freaks and it’s possible we’re supposed to feel conflicted about the horror inspired by what’s on-screen — even if my audience did not. But I’m sure audiences in the 30s reacted with the same disgust, so that is not something I can necessarily blame on filmmaking that is, to be fair, trying to hold up a mirror to society.

The Substance plays out its narrative to its ultimate conclusion and then takes it four steps further. As a work of body horror and formal relentlessness, it’s an accomplished film. But for a movie that won Best Screenplay at Cannes, it relies too much on its performances and that style to make up for writing that, well, lacks in substance.

TIFF 2024: Demi Moore stares into a mirror in The Substance

Demi Moore in The Substance

Paying For It (dir. Sook-Yin Lee)

There are limits to a film that aims to destigmatize sex work without focusing on the sex workers themselves. But that’s why Sook-Yin Lee’s wisest choice in adapting her ex-partner and close friend Chester Brown’s graphic novel Paying For It is in making herself a bigger character. Instead of feeling like a portrait of a john, it ends up being a portrait of Chester and “Sonny,” two lonely people who love each other but still yearn for deeper intimacy.

While Sonny searches for this intimacy by jumping from one bad boyfriend to the next, Chester gives up on romance altogether opting instead to begin seeing sex workers with an almost clinical remove. Chester’s crew of comic artist friends and Sonny’s wise lesbian bestie have questions and judgments about each approach, but the film itself does not. Sonny and Chester are presented just as they are, their desires and choices all too human.

Lee creates a portrait of late 90s/early 00s Toronto that has an artful flatness well-suited for its source material. Each romantic and/or sexual pairing is presented as another chapter, another era in life for these characters and their city. Daniel Beirne as Chester and Emily Lê as Sonny ground their pointedly frustrating characters with very strong performances. Both Chester and Sonny could appear cruel in their occasional coldness, and yet Beirne and Lê keep them charming — and human — even in their worst moments.

I’m not sure this is a successful film about sex work, but it is a successful film about intimacy, loneliness, and unlikely romance.

Do I Know You From Somewhere? (dir. Arianna Martinez)

I really wanted to like this film that is like if a Charlie Kauffman movie was about a bisexual woman rather than the dopey man she’s dating. But where the film succeeds in tone and structure, it fails in specificity.

On the day Olive (Caroline Bell) and Benny (Ian Ottis Goff) are set to celebrate their anniversary, both begin to experience strange occurrences. Olive can’t find — or remember — the gift she got him and Benny is seeing numerical fridge magnets appear out of nowhere. There seem to be cracks in the multiverse and as Olive and Benny jump back and forth in time and timeline, we do the same.

The problem is even Olive and Benny’s meet cute at a wedding feels copy-pasted from any number of middling romcoms. They have a mundane chemistry that’s fitting for where they’re at in their relationship, but there are no details to either character or to their dynamic to make them feel grounded as real people. As a result, the film feels like it’s about a Bisexual Woman, Her Boyfriend, and The Woman She Could Have Dated rather than about Olive specifically. Every character is an archetype and this may have worked had the film leaned into a stylization a la Last Year at Marienbad — alas it opts instead for a standard indie dramedy script.

Only Mallory Amirault as Olive’s alternate life girlfriend manages to give her character some depth. By the time we finally see her and Olive together, there’s no doubt which timeline is preferable. Some queer audiences might relish this outcome, but in a movie primarily focusing on the relationship between Olive and Benny, I wanted to feel the pain of their separation. Instead, I just felt relief.

Bonjour Tristesse (dir. Durga Chew-Bose)

Full review.

Hard Truths (dir. Mike Leigh)

For decades, Mike Leigh has been one of our great humanists, granting empathy to every person who appears on his screen.

His method is in itself an act of empathy. Rather than provide his actors with a traditional script or rely on them to improvise, he’s developed a two-part process that begins with improvisation to inspire his writing. This results in films that feel like true collaborations, the characters brought to life through multiple sources, but with thought and structure.

While Hard Truths finds Mike Leigh reuniting with Secrets and Lies lead Marianne Jean-Baptiste, this film has more in common with Leigh’s Happy-Go-Lucky. While that film focused on the ultimate optimist, here Jean-Baptiste plays the ultimate pessimist — a woman angry and terrified at the world.

Jean-Baptiste is remarkable as she oscillates between hilarity and heartbreak. Her character is exhausting, but the film makes it clear it’s more accurate to say she’s exhausted. This is a difficult film, but one that moved me immensely, and made me want to extend kindness to those incapable to do so.

Marianne Jean-Baptiste talks on the phone in Hard Truths

Marianne Jean-Baptiste in Hard Truths

The Room Next Door (dir. Pedro Almodóvar)

Full review.

Blue Road: The Edna O’Brien Story (dir. Sinéad O’Shea)

Portrait documentaries about artists often have two audiences: people who are fans and people for whom the film is their first introduction. Watching Sinéad O’Shea’s well-constructed film about Irish writer Edna O’Brien, I was the latter. The name was familiar, but I’ve read none of her books and seen none of the movies they inspired.

It speaks to the success of the film that I left wanting to read them all. While conventional in its approach, the film provides a thorough portrait of O’Brien’s life and work, balancing interviews with her family and admirers, interviews with the author herself, archival footage, and her memoir as read by Jessie Buckley. I’m not sure how the film will play for big fans of O’Brien, but as a newcomer I felt like I received an understanding of who she was both as a person and an artist.

O’Brien died earlier this summer and her interviews hold an honesty of someone nearing the end of their life. There’s a mix of melancholy and pride from this woman who achieved so much in a life that had both glamor and struggle. It’s these interviews that elevate the film beyond its conventions.

Winter in Sokcho (dir. Koya Kamura)

You’ve heard the story before. A melancholy man travels somewhere far from home and meets a young woman who reinvigorates his lust for life. It’s a story graphic novelist Yan Kerrand (Roschdy Zem) has seemingly written again. But this is not his film. For once, Yan is the supporting character in someone else’s story.

Koya Kamura’s film, based on the novel of the same name by Elisa Shua Dusapin, is about Soo-ha (Bella Kim), a young woman who works at the small hotel in Sokcho where Yan decides to stay. Soo-ha took French in college as a way of connecting with her absent French father so she becomes a de facto guide for Yan. She’s drawn to him, a confused mix of lust and paternal yearning. He’s happy to use her interest as long as it remains on his terms.

This is a quiet film, anchored by Kamura’s confident filmmaking and Kim’s layered performance. There are few if any major revelations — Kim and Zem look very different, as if to squelch any speculation their relation is where the film is headed — opting instead to examine Soo-ha at this stagnant moment in her life. She is trying to figure out her desires with a block she blames on not knowing her father.

In one of Yan’s books and many other films of this nature, Soo-ha might work through this block due to some heightened circumstance. But often in life, we work through these moments with self-reflection and smaller encouragements. Some may leave the film wanting more, but I felt fulfilled getting to spend time in this story on Soo-ha’s terms.

Diciannove (dir. Giovanni Tortorici)

First time filmmaker Giovanni Tortorici previously worked on two Luca Guadagnino projects before the famed director came onto this as a producer. Guadagnino’s influence is felt with the film at its best feeling like if Call Me By Your Name was shot like Challengers. Like his mentor, Tortorici isn’t afraid to make bold directorial choices and it leads to exciting cinema.

Unfortunately, Tortorici’s story is not as exciting as his craft. A semi-autobiographical portrait of a closeted 19-year-old who reacts to his shame by being arrogant and isolated does not make for a particularly interesting movie. There are sequences like whenever the protagonist is dissociating through partying that are compelling to watch or, the opposite, when Tortorici is capturing the character’s loneliness. But the film gets too weighed down by the character’s interest in pre-20th century (especially 14th century) Italian literature including one sequence where we are literally just watching this boy study.

It’s true that some queer people hide that queerness by leaning into gender performance in a way that’s off-putting. I just need a movie to do more with that than force me to spend time around the behavior.

I’m looking forward to seeing what Tortorici does next. His talent is worthy of Guadagnino. He just needs more interesting stories to tell.

Tata (dir. Lina Vdovîi, Radu Ciorniciuc)

Throughout Lina Vdovîi and Radu Ciorniciuc’s personal and powerful documentary, Vdovîi’s father never changes. He listens — or tries to listen — as Vdovîi expresses how painful his abuse was on her and her sisters and their mother, but he returns to how much better he was than his own father. He returns to the teachings of his church and the teachings of his culture. He returns to the teachings of patriarchy.

The film is split between Vdovîi’s quest to excavate her personal history alongside her partner Ciorniciuc as they prepare to have their first child, and Vdovîi’s attempt to save her complicated father from abusive work conditions in Italy. Vdovîi equips him with hidden cameras and hidden microphones, uses her connections as a journalist to find him legal counsel, and tries to help him as a way of forgiveness.

These two parts are not disparate, but rather create a portrait of the intrinsic nature of the violence in our world. Vdovîi’s father blames his aggression on his desire to survive. He provided for his family — is that not enough? He can’t understand Vdovîi’s plea for other means of support. It’s not just about food on the table. It’s also about expressions of love, kindness, and no violence rather than just less.

While this is not an easy film to watch, there is a real sense of hope in Vdovîi and Ciorniciuc’s desire to create a different kind of home for their own child. Maybe all we can do is improve things little by little with each generation until someone has the upbringing we all deserve.

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TIFF 2024: ‘The Room Next Door’ Is Almodóvar’s Tribute to Life Through Death

Drew Burnett Gregory is back at TIFF, reporting daily with queer movie reviews from one of the world’s most prestigious film festivals. Follow along for her coverage of the best in LGBTQ+ cinema and beyond.


Five years ago — despite his protests — many called Pain and Glory a swan song for Pedro Almodóvar. It wasn’t an unfounded conclusion. After all, it was an autobiographical work about illness starring a long time collaborator that seemed to reflect on an entire life. Even if it wasn’t his last, many wonder what Almodóvar could do next. What does an artist do after that sort of career capping masterpiece?

So far, Almodóvar’s answer has been to play and to expand. He made two English language short films — an adaptation of a play he’d long-referenced and his sensual take on a western — and he made Parallel Mothers, his most political work in years. Having dealt with his personal demons, Almodóvar seemed ready to experiment and to confront the broader demons of past, present, and future.

Those modes combine in The Room Next Door, his first full-length film in English. Julianne Moore plays Ingrid Parker, a writer whose latest book confronts her fear of death. At a signing, one young reader asks her to write the inscription to her girlfriend with the note: It won’t happen again. Ingrid obliges and says, “I hope it doesn’t,” with the melancholy tone of someone who knows it will. Death arrives again for Ingrid when an old friend at the signing tells her that their mutual friend, Martha (Tilda Swinton), is in the hospital with cancer. Ingrid visits her and the two rekindle a close friendship that culminates in Martha requesting Ingrid’s presence when she takes her own life. The title refers to this request, Ingrid wanting no witnesses but someone nearby. The title is said multiple times, each time increasing in stylized intensity.

When a celebrated filmmaker makes their first film in English, people are quick to judge whether or not their style translates. Many will observe the heavy-handed script and decide it does not. This is a mistake. Almodóvar’s dialogue has always been stylized — American audiences are just quicker to accept this when a film is foreign. In fact, Almodóvar is in total control here both in moments that are grounded and moments that exaggerate for melodrama or comedy.

He has also found two English-speaking actresses wholly equipped to embody his words. Tilda Swinton — the star of Almodóvar’s short The Human Voice — was an obvious choice. But so was Julianne Moore, an actress whose best performances were with another gay auteur with a unique style. Both actresses are exceptional, balancing the various tones and portraying a deep intimacy with ease.

The film is explicitly in support of euthanasia. It’s also explicitly anti-cop, anti-fascist, and anti-neo liberal. Ingrid and Martha’s shared ex (John Turturro, also perfectly cast) is a climate scientist and in his doomsday speeches, Almodóvar’s own anger and frustrations can be felt. This is a film about a dying woman — it’s also a film about a dying world. How should someone spend their final days? How should the human race? What does hope look like when it’s not just a tool to evade the realities of mortality?

Like the writing, the formal style is also undoubtedly Almodóvar. New York has never looked like this. His signature colors and attention to design are on full display. And yet it doesn’t feel like a pastiche of old work. He seems inspired by this new setting, managing to mix the old with the new to achieve a stunning craft that’s both personal and fresh.

Before her illness, Martha worked as a war photographer. The Vietnam War and the Bosnian Genocide are mentioned, the War in Iraq is even shown in one of the film’s brief, sporadic flashbacks. This is the most unruly aspect of the film, but the reach is appreciated. How could a film about death and the consequences of human action leave out humankind’s most destructive impulse? This is a film brimming with questions and ideas, a desperate attempt to draw connections between the personal and the global.

By leaving his home country of Spain, Almodóvar has not just made a movie with famous English-speaking actors. He’s also challenged himself to expand beyond the world he knows. If Pain and Glory was a reckoning with self and Parallel Mothers a reckoning with Spain, The Room Next Door is a reckoning with the entire world.

There is so much suffering endured and witnessed by us all. But there’s also the sound of birds singing, passages of literature that remain like memories, late night movies with friends, and, of course, fucking. Almodóvar isn’t ready to give up on the world quite yet. For a movie about death, his latest is full of life.

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  1. Thank you for this review Drew, and all the festival coverage. I seem to have stopped watching (many) movies but I still enjoy a good review.

  2. So…..no lesbians in this movie? Surprising, I could’ve sworn from the trailer Tilda and Moore would be a couple. Not sure why it’s being reviewed on Autostraddle if there’s no sign of queerness

  3. I’m so unbelievably excited for this film, I’ve been waiting for your review specifically and this fantastic piece is even better than I could have imagined. Teared up reading your take on the themes of the film, what a brilliant filmmaker — I will be sat day one!

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Quiz: Which Pizza Topping Best Represents Your Topping Style?

Tops! They’re just like toppings! They come in so many varieties and can really guide the vibe of the pizza. I think the pizza in this convoluted metaphor is sex? I’m not sure! I pitched this quiz mostly as a joke and my coworkers were like “no, do that.” So here we are! I expect to be hearing from my wife who is going to be like “why are you, as a bottom, making a quiz for tops?” And I do not have an answer for that. Enjoy!


Which Pizza Topping Best Represents Your Topping Style?

What’s your favorite pizza topping?(Required)
Choose an unconventional pizza topping:(Required)
Do you consider yourself a top?(Required)
Pick a top:(Required)
Pick another kind of top:(Required)
Pick someone to split a pizza with:(Required)
Choose a beverage to have with your pizza:(Required)
Pick a song title with the word Top in it:(Required)
Which type of pizza sauce do you prefer?(Required)
Pick a famous white man:(Required)

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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, short stories, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. She is the assistant managing editor of TriQuarterly, and her short stories appear or are forthcoming in McSweeney's Quarterly Concern, Joyland, Catapult, The Offing, and more. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A.V. Club, Vulture, The Cut, and others. You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website.

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  1. Quiz invalid as mushrooms weren’t available in the list of favorite toppings. :(

    Spicy honey? Hmmm, I think being a dom would require more confidence (and experience) than I’ve got in the sexual realm ( 0 and 0).

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Reine #64: Show Me How You Do That Trick

the comic Reine by Ren Strapp. This installment is about the "boob scoop"

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TIFF 2024: In ‘Bonjour Tristesse’ the Men Have Never Mattered

Drew Burnett Gregory is back at TIFF, reporting daily with queer movie reviews from one of the world’s most prestigious film festivals. Follow along for her coverage of the best in LGBTQ+ cinema and beyond.


If I may begin my review of a French literary adaptation with some musings on brat summer.

Brat is an album about being a woman, about comparing oneself to other women, about mirroring other women and resenting other women and — whether sexual or not — desiring other women. At a time when out queer women are dominating the music industry, I feel like we now have permission to analyze the queerness of straight musicians anew. We can bypass our projections or speculations and focus instead on the gaze of their art.

Bi-vibes-but-not-bi Charli xcx is obsessed with women. Olivia Rodrigo is obsessed with women. Sabrina Carpenter is so obsessed with women her song about that obsession has a music video where she makes out with one of them. This isn’t a new perspective — see Dolly Parton’s “Jolene” for a decades-old example. Straight women have long given as much thought to their boyfriends’ exes as their boyfriends; analyzed the bodies, the eroticism, of women more than the men they fuck; formed closer bonds with female friends than male lovers.

In Françoise Sagan’s novel Bonjour Tristesse, the central relationship appears to be between teenage girl Cécile and her father Raymond. But through the lens of Durga Chew-Bose’s phenomenal new adaptation a deeper truth is revealed: the central relationship — romance even — is between Cécile and Anne.

Anne (Chloë Sevigny) is a woman spoken about before we meet her. Cécile (a star-making role for Lily McInerny) is on the French seaside for the summer with Raymond (Claes Bang) and his younger girlfriend Elsa (Nailia Harzoune). Their days are spent languishing by the water, reading literature, and eating delicious food. Raymond and Elsa have a sort of puppy love, an energy akin to Cécile’s with neighbor boy Cyril (Aliocha Schneider). Raymond casually mentions that he’s invited Anne, an old friend of his and Cécile’s late mother, to stay with them. Elsa immediately starts criticizing Anne. Her work as a fashion designer, her uptight nature, her lack of a smile. Then she questions this reaction. After all, she’s never even met Anne.

When Anne does finally show up, she does not disappoint. The casting of Chloë Sevigny is inspired, because she’s a stellar performer and because she brings with her a gravitas from decades of persona. There’s a moment when she eats an apple alongside Cécile and Elsa. As the other two chomp into their own fruit, Anne cuts hers with a paring knife, elegantly sliding the knife and apple slice into her mouth. Elsa watches Anne. Cécile watches Anne and Elsa watching Anne. We watch all three.

Despite updating it to near present day, Chew-Bose follows the plot beats of the novel to an almost exact amount. And yet within these beats, she’s invented rich scenes of subtle character development and grounded dialogue. The film recalls the work of Éric Rohmer, not just in its lush French aesthetic, but in the compelling nature of every conversation on-screen.

And so the plot does not really matter, nor the fact that the plot revolves around two men. While Raymond and Cyril are just as grounded and clear, the women themselves view them more as a vibrator or a pet store kitten. They are to provide pleasure, they are to be cuddled, and they are to be envied when in the arms of another woman. The connections themselves are secondary. They want these men, because other women want them, or because of what being desired by these men would say about them.

This is communicated through dialogue, but it is communicated even more through the film’s images and sounds. Chew-Bose does not rest on the ease of her scenery. There is a formal confidence, exciting from a first-time filmmaker, a deep understanding of cinema as a craft and all it can accomplish beyond the page.

In a movie where women and girls watch each other and themselves — one of whom is a fashion designer — the clothes and accessories and hair is given the utmost attention. Commented upon or just present is also their postures, how they walk, how they smile, how they fuck, and, yes, how they eat.

This film has a sumptuousness that some may mistake for vapidity. But the style of the characters and the style of the filmmaking is what tells the story. As many women know, often the substance is in the style.

I started this review with Charli xcx and now I’ll end it with Bob the Drag Queen. “I think I’ve landed on the hottest of my hot takes,” he said recently on comedian Caleb Hearon’s podcast. “Straight people don’t exist… I think that most straight women will acknowledge that women are sexy. They will acknowledge it and they might even lickety splits every once in a while. A couple of Coronas.”

Sans Coronas, how do straight women usually acknowledge this sexiness? Through jealousy, through envy, through admiration. Is this always sexual? I’m not sure. But it is always desire.

Before straight society became concerned about lesbianism, girls used to have crushes on girls and women and this was seen as normal. Maybe queer desire is a natural part of everyone’s coming-of-age. Maybe it’s how we figure out who we want to be.

Durga Chew-Bose’s take on Bonjour Tristesse is a rich film. There are individual lines of dialogue that hold essays within them. But, on a first viewing, I was most taken by this desire. Cécile is trying to choose between turning into Elsa or turning into Anne. The harshest truth of growing up is she can only be Cécile.

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  1. I just want to express how much I loved this review! Not only because the author clearly enjoyed the film, but also because her unique and spot-on perspective, in my view at least, is the most refreshing take I’ve read on this remake yet.

  2. Omg, I’m so happy to see this article! I’m compiling an anthology of lesser known examples of wlw lit fic, mainly foreign. I got definite lesbian vibes from Bonjour Tristesse when I first read it (Cecile actually denies the possible reader suspicion that’s she has a ‘morbid passion’ for Anne) and there is some critical commentary on this aspect, though not enough.
    Sagan herself was either bi or les; definitely her key relationships were w women. (She had 2 brief marriages when young, one to her much older publisher, then one to a gay man. She did have one later bf, but he was also gay). Her great love was Peggy Roche, her son has written v movingly about them. She also had a long affair w the French Playboy journo Annick Geille, who’s written a book.

  3. Francoise Mallet-Joris wrote a similar bk around the same time, Les Remparts de Beguines (translated as The Illusionist), but in this the teenage girl and the mistress have, disturbingly, an actual affair. She also had ltrs with women. I haven’t yet read it, but Terry Castle introduced the new translation & recommends it highly.

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TIFF 2024: ‘Went Up the Hill’ Is a Queer Ghost Story With Serious Mommy Issues

Drew Burnett Gregory is back at TIFF, reporting daily with queer movie reviews from one of the world’s most prestigious film festivals. Follow along for her coverage of the best in LGBTQ+ cinema and beyond.


An estranged queer person returns home due to an illness or a death. This is probably the most common gay film trope right after “doomed romance where one or both are straight married.” But Samuel Van Grisen’s Went Up the Hill approaches this narrative in a way we’ve never seen before — and not just because there’s a ghost.

Jack (Dacre Montgomery) barely remembers his mother, Elizabeth, who gave him up at a young age. But when he gets a call from his mother’s recent widow (Vicky Krieps) inviting him to the funeral, he travels to their remote New Zealand town to attend. Except once he arrives, the widow claims to not have invited him — to not even know he existed.

Jill allows Jack to stay out of what appears to be a sense of obligation — and curiosity. Then, on the first night they’re both in the house, the hauntings begin. Elizabeth starts to appear, desperate for something from both Jack and Jill before moving on in death. As our nursery rhyme pair navigates these encounters, they grow closer and begin to reveal exactly the kind of person Elizabeth was as a mother and a wife.

Immediately, expectations are subverted by the mother’s queerness. When Jack first arrives, it seems possible his estrangement is due to his queerness thanks to a confrontational aunt (Sarah Peirse who gives a standout performance in her short scenes). But Jill’s own queerness and knowledge of Elizabeth’s queerness shifts the usual dynamic.

As the film continues, Elizabeth begins to appear less Casper, more Conjuring. Her behavior in life was violent and her behavior in death continues this abuse. It’s rare to get a movie that honestly engages with an abusive queer person, and it’s especially sharp to see an instance where the person’s victims are also queer. Queer people often face abuse from one another, but in an attempt to push back on stereotypes, this has rarely been shown on-screen. It’s especially exciting to see it portrayed with nuance and formal risk-taking. There are moments in this film that are genuinely terrifying — the story oscillating between quiet drama and horror movie.

This is a humorless film. While there are moments of absurdity, everything is approached with total sincerity and a dour tone. At times, this can make the film exhausting. Once it’s revealed that the film is about abuse, this exhaustion feels pointed. But it still makes this a difficult watch.

The cinematography is gorgeous and the sound design and score are deeply effective. It’s the pacing — especially the drawn out ending and some unnecessary flashbacks — that weaken what is otherwise a fascinating work of queer art.

Still, I found myself excited by the film as a whole. Despite its imperfections, it’s portraying queer narratives we don’t often see and doing so with unique storytelling and a confident style.

When most movies about queer people reuniting with estranged family still hit the expected beats, it’s a relief to watch a movie where a young man is possessed by the horny ghost of his mother.

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Top 10 Things We Hope To See in the New ‘Wynonna Earp’ Special

It has been over three years since we last set foot in Purgatory, but it seems like Wynonna Earp fandom never died down, whether fans were calling for more Earp, or celebrating what already existed by way of Earp-specific cons, fanart, fanfiction, or general online shenanigans. That energy was rewarded earlier this year when Tubi announced a 90-minute special titled Wynonna Earp: Vengeance. And after weeks of a vague “this fall” timeline, yesterday we learned that we’re getting Vengeance next week, on Friday the 13th. Which is extremely on brand.

In the past, there have been shows that switched networks, either for a wrap-up movie, or a few extra seasons, and sometimes the difference is more obvious than others. Major characters are missing, the setting had to change, or the general vibes are just off. Luckily, from what we’ve seen so far of Wynonna Earp: Vengeance, it’s going to be more of the same Earp we know and love, so Nic and I got together to discuss ten of the things we hope to see in this 90-minute special.

(Side note: While Dom Provost-Chalkley, who plays Waverly, uses they/them pronouns, in San Diego Comic Con interviews, they have said that Waverly still uses she/her pronouns.)


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Let’s Earpin’ GO.

10. Canadian goodness

Valerie: TAKE ME BACK TO CALGARY. I’ve missed those sweeping views and confusing temperatures and playing Canadian Bingo with random actors who keep showing up in all our favorite shows from the north. I’m ready to see the Homestead again!

Nic: Yes!! You already know Canadian Bingo is my favorite game, and I can’t wait to play again.

9. Hot baddies we love to hate

Valerie: I don’t know who exactly this new villain is (is it Eve? Is it Vengeance incarnate?) but I do know she is played by Karen Knox, creator and star of such queer gems as Barbelle and Slo Pitch, so I know it’s gonna be fun.

Nic: Wait, I kind of love the idea of Vengeance being a PERSON! Either way, one of my favorite things is making “but their face!” justifications for baddies so LFG!

8. Stairs???

Nic: Because I am but a simple gay who loves a bit, my first answer to what I’m hoping to see in Vengeance was “stairs!” Hilarious, right?! We’ve joked about how many stories the Homestead is on the outside vs. the inside; we’ve seen spooky forest stairs; and obviously there’s the WayHaught Stair Sex™. It’s that last thing that unintentionally hit me in the gut while I was trying to make a joke, because yeah it was Hot, but it also reminded me of how Dom and Kat felt so safe in that scene because this cast takes care of each other. They are open and vulnerable because their Earp set family keeps them safe, in the same way the on-screen Earp family keeps each other safe. Yet another instance of art imitating life, you know? Every time stairs show up on this show, there’s an element of trust and safety involved, whether it’s making sure you don’t get a splinter in your bum, or deciding how wise it is to climb creepy forest stairs that may or may not still be there. Did I just wax poetic about STAIRS? We really must be back!

Valerie: See this is why I love Earpers. We love a bit, but also it’s more than that. Like, sure, “YOU. ARE. ARCHITECTURE.” but also it’s representative of what we really love about this show, and that’s the people who make it and the love and care that goes into it.

7. Good music

Valerie: One thing Wynonna Earp was great at was a needle drop. The episodes were all named after songs, and each episode contained at least one banger; there are so many playlists about it. And of course, the theme song! I’m not sure if we’ll be able to hear “Tell That Devil” specifically (it’s a 90 minute special, not a TV episode, after all), but Veronica Mars worked their theme song into their movie (a busker was singing it!), so it’s not out of the question.

Nic: I didn’t actually consider that we might not get “Tell That Devil” because of the format of the special, but I love the idea of possibly hearing those slowed down intro notes incorporated in a new way. But goddess, the music on this show has always been sublime! To this day there are songs that pop up on shuffle that immediately transport me to the scene where it appears. (Looking at you, “Breathless.”) My kingdom for a little Chappell Roan needle drop for Nicole Haught, specifically though.

Valerie: I bet Waves would be really good at the “HOT-TO-GO” dance, as a former cheerleader.

6. Familiar faces

Valerie: From the trailers, we know we’ll be getting our core five back: Wynonna, Waverly, Nicole, Doc, and Jeremy. Plus, we’ve seen glimpses of Nedley and Mercedes. I do hope Valdez and Rosita turn up, but the jury’s still out on them. But the trailer also says that every demon Wynonna has killed so far is coming back for the titular vengeance. Does this mean we could see long dead villains like Mercedes’ sister Beth, THE Bobo Del Ray, or even Willa Earp? Who would you want to see come back? I know she was the worst of the worst, but I wouldn’t hate seeing Jolene’s face again… And I know she wasn’t a villain in the end, but I wouldn’t be mad about Savannah Basley’s Cleo Clanton showing up.

Nic: I wouldn’t hate seeing Jolene again either! The thing about Jolene is that she has Zoie Palmer’s face, which makes it impossible not to want to see her again. I’m so with you on wanting Valdez and Rosita back as well. If we’re just talking about the demons Wyn’s sent to the fiery Hells though, what about Levi and Fish?? They were never able to live out and in love while they were alive, sounds like a reason to want some vengeance to me! My absolute dream return though, would be Chantel Riley’s Kate. Where’d you go on that train, girl? (By the way, did you just call Willa a villain?!)

Valerie: I SAID WHAT I SAID.

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5. Earp Sister Feels

Valerie: I know we here at this website focus a lot on the WayHaught of it all (and rightly so; it’s some of the best representation we’ve ever had), and we’ll talk about that more in a minute, but one of the core relationships of the show has always been the relationship between Wynonna and Waverly. Their bond is strained at times but ultimately unbreakable, the heir and her angel, and I can’t wait to see more of the sibling chemistry between Melanie Scrofano and Dom Provost-Chalkley.

Nic: Ditto. The relationship between Wynonna and Waverly has always been right up there with WayHaught for me. I don’t have a sister, so I can’t personally speak to the representation, but what’s always been clear is that while the disagreements feel more intense with a sibling, the love is also that much deeper. And I just know I’m absolutely going to melt at the first “baby girl.”

4. Melanie Scrofano doing her thing

Valerie: No matter how many times I watch this show, I will never, ever be over how mega-talented Melanie Scrofano is. Whether she’s delivering quips that make us belly laugh, breaking our heart with some serious dialogue, or just pulling the perfect face at the perfect moment, she’s always such a star and a joy to watch. We’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, but Scrofano elevates every project she’s in, and she will always be the reason for the season. The Earp season, that is.

Nic: You hit it right on the head. She is a POWERHOUSE. And sometimes Melanie even goes FULL Scrofano and makes us laugh while simultaneously breaking our hearts. I don’t know how she does it, but she has the audacity to be that talented and also the sweetest sweetheart in the world. My heart is so full just knowing our Wynonna is back.

3. Found family

Valerie: Even though Wynonna and Waverly are sisters, they came from a chaotic and broken family, and so they decided to build their own. Season by season, person by person, they created their own little chosen family, and it was beautiful to watch. It’s especially great to watch as a show with a large queer following, because more often than not, we find ourselves making our own little found families, so it’s always a delight to see that reflected on screen. For example, I sometimes forget Jeremy wasn’t in the first season, because of how important he became by the end of the series. It’s even hard to imagine there was tension between Nicole and Wynonna at first, because now they’re the best of friends, even separate from Nicole being Wynonna’s sister-in-law.

Nic: As always, I completely agree with you. I also think what adds to the beauty of this particular found family is that for every new non-Earp member they’ve added, we’ve gotten a glimpse at parts of their past that show just how special it is for them to be accepted in the unconditional way this family loves. “Everything good I have in my life is because I came back to the Ghost River Triangle.”

Wynonna Earp Vengeance Waverly and Nicole

Homo Sweet Homestead, INDEED.

2. Domestic WayHaught

Nic: I’ve been reading a lot of cozy fantasy lately, and I can’t help but picture Nicole and Waverly running a little B&B in Purgatory, having playful spats over what kind of pastries to serve that day or what puns to add to the chalkboard in the entryway. Our girls have been busy fighting demons since they got together, and while I don’t anticipate a ton of “down time” in these precious 90 minutes, I would LOVE a few moments where they just get to be married and in love and just exist together in this home they’re creating.

Valerie: Honestly just the fact that they have a sign that says “Homo Sweet Homestead” makes me wanna puke rainbows. So precious. I’m really excited to see Kat Barrell and Dom Provost-Chalkley back at it; I feel like they’ve both grown as actors and people since we first met them in Season 1, and I’m excited to see how that is reflected on Nicole and Waverly as a married couple.

1. Just all-around Earpy, snarky goodness

Nic: I started my rewatch a few days ago, motivated by Covid cabin fever and was immediately smiling from ear to ear and reciting lines and quips from every character, cackling like it was the first time I’d heard them. (“All of the town!”) The writing on Wynonna Earp is always top shelf, but it’s the unexpected one-liners and delivery that have me spitting out my whiskey time and time again. I can’t wait to hear what new snark will inevitably turn into a fun new Earper call-and-response.

Valerie: I totally agree, the writing combined with the delivery are always so perfect, and there are so many jokes crammed in that I swear I hear a new one every time I rewatch. There’s something so unique about this show that despite having written thousands of words about it at this point in my career, I don’t think I could succinctly describe it.

I think, ultimately, even though we were super spoiled by an absolutely perfect series finale with the end of Season 4, I’m just glad we are getting MORE Earp. More laughing, more crying, more loving, more snarking. More Earping.


Wynonna Earp: Vengeance drops on Tubi on Friday, September 13th. Let us know what YOU’RE excited about and join us as we wait in buzzy anticipation for Vengeance. We ride at dawn-ish!

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  1. So excited for this! (Also nervous, but I feel like there’s heart behind the effort, so even if it doesn’t hit in every way, it won’t be as terrible and cynical as some reboots / add ons have been)

  2. All of the above, for sure. I think it would be amazing to see Alice Michelle! And if that came with Aunt Gus and Mama Earp somehow to round out the whole family, even better!

    No matter what, I absolutely can’t wait!

      • Ok I definitely hope for some rosita and Mercedes and Kate were interactions I never had but truly needed. But if I could get 1 question answered…. WHAT IS JEREMYS DEAL?! … like what’s the crotch thing? Is he a human or what?

  3. I literally can’t stand the Nicole character and the whole disgusting gay agenda bs they push. We’re all sick of it!

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Why Can’t I Share a King Bed With My Ex?

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A New Biography Transforms Our Understanding of Audre Lorde and the Genre Itself

feature image photo by Jack Mitchell/Getty Images “Biographies normativize people,” Dr. Alexis Pauline Gumbs tells me. “It’s like: this is a person, they were born, they died, their life is linear, they’re only one person. My queer approach doesn’t necessarily agree with any of those things. Does our life begin when we’re born? Does it end after we die? Are we ever one person? Those are questions of queer critique that I live inside of.” Dr. Gumbs and I are speaking about her transformative new biography Survival is a Promise: The Eternal Life of Audre Lorde, a wide-ranging exploration of the many lives of the legendary Black lesbian feminist poet, essayist, educator, and activist. Survival is a Promise is not a traditional biography that traces the facts of Lorde’s life from birth to death. Instead, Gumbs offers us what she calls a “cosmic biography,” a luminous deep-dive into various moments throughout Lorde’s life and relationships in a series of 58 poetic, non-linear chapters. “I did need to queer the form and be as queer as I am in relationship to Audre, who has made us all more queerly possible,” Gumbs shares when we speak in August. Gumbs, a queer Black troublemaker, Black feminist love evangelist, and an aspirational cousin to all sentient beings, is a prolific writer and community builder. She is the author of a number of books that engage deeply with Black feminist theory in its many forms. Her writing experiments with genre, poetry, and prose, shifting our understanding of theory itself. Survival is a Promise follows in this tradition, opening up new ways for us to encounter, think, and feel with Audre Lorde’s life and work. Gumbs does discuss the typical beats of a biography, including Audre Lorde’s childhood and family life in Harlem in the 1930s and ’40s, her years teaching at various institutions in New York City, her romantic relationships, her family life, her anti-racist, feminist, queer, and decolonial activist work, and her long-term illness from cancer. But Gumbs interweaves this biographical material with meditations on Lorde’s poetry and prose, as well as with her own experience immersing herself in Lorde’s archives, expanding the scope of the work. “I’m constantly in the archive,” Gumbs says, as she discusses how she began research for this project. While she was initially hesitant about the normative tendencies of biography as a genre, she came to understand how good of a fit she was for the work of biographying Lorde’s life. “People pointed out very rightly that, having been the first person to visit and research in Audre Lorde’s archives, and having written about and taught about her work for so many years, and having so much access to the people in her life who have mentored me, that I would be a good person to write a biography,” Gumbs says. “As I started to study the form of biography, I got excited about what kind of in-depth ceremony and intimacy and time with and space with Audre Lorde could be potentially possible through a big long biography.” She describes her time in the archives as a process of “energy exchange.” “I have to know, but I’m never gonna know, so that curiosity and that engagement is a way of being in relationship,” she explains. In one chapter of the book, “naturally,” she describes opening a box labeled “ephemera” and finding it “full of Audre’s silver locks.” She goes on to meditate on this experience and the intimate Black feminist politics of hair:
“What is hair? The afterlife of skin. The cells that keep on growing even after we die. The body’s process of transforming and leaving a trail. Hair is evidence. A hiding place for seeds across the Middle Passage and other displacements. An intergenerational interface of touch and twist and tie and comb and burn and grease. Hair is a canvas that moves with you. A frame for a face. A reshaped head. A tapestry woven into your scalp. A mesh for hands. Antennae for hearing behind your back.
In racialized capitalism, hair is a secondary race characteristic. A place to look for a weapon. A barrier. A landscape to be tamed, tied down. 
And in the magic of the folk, hair is the ingredient you need to cast a spell or work a root on someone.” 
The pages of Survival is a Promise are filled with Gumbs’ poetic wonderment at the biological, geological, and meteorological phenomena that make up human and non-human universes around us. This is in part because Lorde’s poetry deeply engages these same subjects. Gumbs hopes this book helps to re-center Lorde’s poetry in her legacy, where it has often been overlooked in favor of her field-defining essays. “It was the most important thing to her…[poetry] was her primary practice,” Gumbs tells me. “My relationship with her work was first through her poetry. That was where I found my kinship with her. That was where I really felt the expansive possibilities that she was opening…That’s the infinite part, that’s the eternal part. I think that if we want to honor Audre Lorde for what she’s made possible in our discourse and in our movements, we absolutely do have to look at her prose. But if we want to engage the eternal life of Lorde, some kind of cosmic eternal possibility, we need her poetry…Where she’s going in her poetry, it’s a whole ‘nother technology. It’s not just for a particular moment, it’s not just for a particular audience. It’s like, it’s for earth. It’s for whatever the energy of life force that flows through, it’s for that. And that exceeds everything, it exceeds time, and exceeds space, it exceeds any institution, it exceeds language itself.” In addition to excerpting and closely reading Lorde’s writing alongside her life story, Gumbs is deeply attuned to the expansive ecology of friendships and intimate relationships that enriched Lorde’s everyday life. Many of these are close friendships and collaborations with other legendary feminist writers. Barbara Smith, June Jordan, and Adrienne Rich, among many others, all figure prominently here. Chapters follow the origins of the Black lesbian socialist feminist Combahee River Collective, as well as the founding of the Kitchen Table Press, a feminist press dedicated to publishing work by women of color. Chapters also trace Lorde’s romantic partners, including long-time partners Francis Clayton and Gloria Joseph. To recreate these relationships, Gumbs spent time in multiple Black feminist and queer archives and interviewed many of Audre Lorde’s friends, colleagues, and family members. “Audre says we do not survive as individuals, and I think that that’s true,” Gumbs says. “That’s part of a queer approach to biography: it isn’t really a biography of one person, because we’re not one person at a time. So what’s the ecological approach to understanding this energy that Audre Lorde was moving forward? It was always in conversation. It was sometimes like, as part of a forest.” “She really lived in conversation, she really lived in relationship,” Gumbs continues. “If we go to meet Audre Lorde, we mostly have to go meet her there, we’re not meeting her alone.” Reading Survival is a Promise feels like time traveling. Particular chapters focus on specific conferences, talks, or panel presentations where Lorde spoke. Gumbs offers such detailed descriptions — day by day or month by month accounts of the correspondence between these women — that I could really picture what it was like to be present for their field-defining conversations and (occasionally) disagreements. “I constantly fantasize about being in these spaces where these Black feminists were together,” Gumbs says. “I am in spaces with Black feminists together in my own lifetime, but I’ve always time traveling. What would it have been to be at those black feminist retreats, or to be at that conference, or to be in that conversation, or to be in that classroom? I felt like I was creating the time machine for myself so we can be there, we could be there and feel that.” I was particularly moved by one chapter, “a litany for survival,” composed entirely of quotes from Audre Lorde’s students during the years she taught poetry at Hunter College, recreating what it might have been like to be in Lorde’s classroom. While the quotes are all presented anonymously, in their own poetic formation, if you flip to the Notes section at the end of the book (and the Notes section in Survival is a Promise is a feat in and of itself, chock full of extraordinary detail about Lorde’s life, displaying just how much research went into this manuscript), you will find a number of influential feminist writers and thinkers — Sarah Schulman, Jewelle Gomez, and even Elizabeth Lorde-Rollins, Audre’s daughter — among the students quoted. Even as Gumbs meticulously reproduces Lorde’s conversations, relationships, and the sociopolitical contexts she engaged with throughout the 20th century, she maintains a sense of curiosity and humility about Lorde’s life. Many of her chapters include a series of unanswerable questions about Lorde’s thoughts and feelings. By continually pointing both to what she can and cannot know, Gumbs rejects the objective, omniscient perspective many biographies strive for. “I have no pretense to objectivity around Audre Lorde,” Gumbs tells me. “The other thing is that, inside of that pretense of objectivity — which I don’t believe, because I don’t think people write biographies of anyone that they’re objective about, it takes too much work and too much time! — there’s this form of expertise that seeks to be definitive. And in that pursuit of being definitive, it closes something down, like ‘this is the last word.’ And I don’t want there to ever be a last word on Lorde. I think that the thing that I love about Audre Lorde, and definitely what characterizes my relationship with Audre Lorde, is that, certainly her poetry, but also her life, it really opens things up and it makes us wonder and it offers more questions.” This curiosity and compassion is tangible in Gumbs’ writing. When Gumbs considers some of the conflicts that shaped Lorde’s relationships — two chapters follow her political disagreements with June Jordan, in part over debates around Zionism and antisemitism in the feminist movement — she stays curious. “How do sisters disagree? Can they come back from mutually perceived betrayals?” Gumbs asks in the book. These are contemporary questions, to be sure. Gumbs follows the archival records here, sharing with us Lorde’s and Jordan’s letters to each other, as well as noting significant archival absences. Her work conveys that it might be impossible for us to ever know everything about what someone thought or felt. When I ask Gumbs how she approached writing about these conflicts, she replies, “We have to learn to deal with conflict better. I think about how to present [these relationships] in a way that allows those lessons to emerge and for us to be able to still relate to the people.” “Just like the earth is still in process, everybody who we could possibly write about was in a process,” she continues. “I also try not to define them by just one single moment or one single decision. It’s complicated, but it’s the same thing we have to do with each other. It’s the same thing that we have to do in real time, is to understand, I might be dealing with somebody who’s doing something that is harmful. I don’t think they should be doing it. I profoundly disagree with it. But it still is not the totality of who they are. They still are in a process.” Throughout Survival is a Promise, Gumbs shows us how Audre Lorde’s life was and still is in process, ever-evolving as the lives of those she influenced continue to evolve in the present moment and will continue to evolve into the future. Gumbs is now contemplating a project about the life and legacy of Augusta Baker, a prominent Black librarian who shaped Lorde’s childhood and transformed the field of children’s literature. Gumbs is also currently writing a book about June Jordan and her relationship with civil rights icon Fannie Lou Hamer, titled Love is a Life Force. (“It’s gonna be a lot shorter!” she jokes.) After we end our conversation, I think about the first time I encountered Audre Lorde’s work in my Introduction to Women’s and Gender Studies class in college. I remember sitting around a seminar table, discussing and debating what Lorde might have meant when she wrote “The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House.” Now as a professor of Gender and Sexualtiy Studies myself, I teach Lorde’s essays from Sister Outsider every semester, continually in conversation with my students about the multiple meanings of Lorde’s poetic and profound writing. I first encountered Alexis Pauline Gumbs work as a college student, too. When she spoke on my campus about sexual violence, survivorship, and her own experiences at Columbia University, our shared alma mater, her words deeply resonated with me. Years later, when I was a graduate student at Northwestern University, Gumbs visited campus to speak about how she honors the legacies of foundational Black feminist writers in her work. I sat in the audience, moved and inspired by her career as an independent scholar and her spiritual commitment to her craft. Like Lorde, Gumbs has influenced a new generation of feminists and academics striving to reimagine the way we write, think, feel, and exist in relationship with one another. “Audre Lorde lived on the planet only fifty-eight years. But don’t we feel her impact everywhere?” Gumbs asks toward the end of the book. Indeed, we do. With Survival is a Promise, Gumbs continues to shape the afterlives of Lorde’s legacy. Gumbs also cements her own legacy as a Black feminist visionary writer, who, like Lorde, uses her work to make all of us more queerly possible. May we continue to feel her impact, everywhere.

Survival is a Promise: The Eternal Life of Audre Lorde by Dr. Alexis Pauline Gumbs is out now.

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  1. Thank you for writing about the work of Alexis Pauline Gumbs. They are one of my favourite writers and a trailblazer!

  2. Woah I’m so excited for this book. I’m going to buy it after this comment. Thank you thank you for sharing this; Dr. Gumbs is smart and expansive. Audre Lorde is wowow an icon. Thank you again!! What an amazing conversation.

    Also hello fellow Columbians :)

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The Top Lesbian Moments on ‘I Kissed a Girl’

This piece about I Kissed a Girl was originally written when the show aired on the BBC. It’s being republished now that the show is streaming on Hulu.


I can’t believe we’ve already come to the finale of the UK’s first all-girl reality dating show, I Kissed a Girl, or, as I like to think of it, a battle of attrition between a weary group of TV producers and the lesbian urge to merge.

For ten episodes, our couples were inundated with waves of queer women to tempt them from their matches. There was angst, there was consensual wife-swapping, there was a whole lot of nothing to do except dissect everyone’s relationship and maybe some light weightlifting.

While I loved the first few episodes, I did find the season sagged a little in the middle. By the time the third batch of fresh queers arrived I guess it wasn’t so surprising any more, and you really feel like if they wanted to disrupt the couples that much, they could just ask them to assemble some IKEA furniture together.

Fortunately, things really picked up again towards the end, as the remaining pairings were put through their paces when it came to considering whether they had what it takes to keep things going outside The Masseria. The final “chemistry test” asked everyone increasingly challenging questions around trust, relocating, and, pointedly, whether they were falling in love!

The reason things were amping up? The finale brought the most pressure dilemma of all: Would the couples turn and kiss — this time in front of their families! — to declare their intention to take things further? Bringing the cast’s friends and families over was a great way to inject a bit of reality reality into this TV reality, with them all bringing their own opinions of their loved ones’ matches. Of course, the gay panic cuts both ways when you’re preparing to snog in front of your folks — as Priya gleefully said: “Who’s ready to traumatise our parents?”

There were so many great moments throughout the season, I’ve picked out a few of my faves, many that I feel exemplified the totally lesbian behaviour of the show’s cast, regardless of whether they were gay, bi, queer or otherwise identifying. Let me know in the comments what pairings and predicaments you loved best!


Fiorenza is too late to make a move for Amy

A close up of a sad masc with their head lowered.

Watching Fiorenza’s smooth maneuvering from girl to girl was a highlight for much of the season: from Demi to Meg, to maybe-wanting-Amy, to Beth, to really-wanting-Amy. That flightiness really came back to bite her when new girl Hannah caught Amy’s attention just as Fiorenza got a grip on her own feelings for Amy.

After Amy’s several rejections, it was no surprise that Hannah’s single-minded pursuit of her really appealed, but the agony on Amy’s face was clear when she realised she was going to have to send her closest friend home in order to give things a go with Hannah.

Unsurprisingly, Fiorenza landed on her feet and reported in the reunion show that she’s now happily in a LTR. Plus — in a total lesbian move — she set up her best friend with the very first girl on the show she kissed (and dumped), Demi!

Amy turns around; Hannah doesn’t

A blonde femme stands with her back to a redhead femme

As the couple with the shortest runway for the finale, it was always going to be dicey as to whether Amy and Hannah had the time to work out where they really stood. Their chemistry test was more of an experiment in awkwardness as it was clear they weren’t on the same page about pretty much anything!

However, I suspected that Amy would be well up for continuing their relationship because, well, why not! They basically lived next door to each other in London! Hannah on the other hand was too busy second guessing Amy’s feelings and fearing rejection to really think about what she wanted, and missed the golden opportunity to find out.

Meg declares her love for Eva

I Kissed a Girl finale: A blonde femme with tattoos cries

Another standout moment in the final chemistry test was Meg getting totally swept up in her feelings for Eva and admitting she was falling in love with her, only for Eva to meekly state the opposite. They had a nice chat about it afterwards, with Eva claiming she appreciated how vulnerable Meg was, but you could tell that she was totally spooked and not ready to go there. It was well-signaled (to us at least) that Eva wasn’t going to turn during the final kiss-off, but that made it no less gutting for Meg!

Things worked out OK for Meg though, quickly sliding into Leilah’s DMs after the show ended, with the couple totally loved up on the reunion show sofa!!

Cara and Georgia fail to process and fail to survive

I Kissed a Girl finale: two women stand with their backs to each other while another woman stands between

I was both dismayed and baffled as to where things went wrong for this OG couple! After appearing to be inseparable for most of the show, we had some tension injected into Cara and Georgia’s relationship around their lack of communication. It seemed like one of those situations that mostly existed to manufacture some drama for us, and there was no doubt they’d stick with each other in the final kiss-off. But in the reunion show, Cara brought a gorgeous new hairdo…but no Georgia! The pro footballer was at a cup final match, which is on brand, and makes you wonder if her sporting priorities got the better of them? Who knows? Boooo!

Lisha & Abby are voted off by Priya and Naee

A femme and a masc both are looking down, disappointed.

Another OG couple thwarted by alleged communication issues, Lisha and Abby got a raw deal when a minor tiff led to them shockingly getting voted off for having the weakest connection, despite the fact several other couples had been together only a handful of hours!

Pretty sweet revenge then that Lisha and Abby defiantly declared that they’re still going strong eight months later! They joked about kids and marriage! But also were very real about what the next steps were for them, and generally came across like a great pair keeping things steady. Love may not be a lie after all!

Of course, there’s bountiful irony here, because not only are Abby and Lisha the only OG couple that actually stayed together after the show, it was allegedly the couple with the strongest connection that voted them off, which leads us to…

Priya leaves The Masseria and immediately gets married…TO HER EX

I Kissed a Girl finale: a masc and a femme sit on a couch and both talk with their hands

Did any of us think the Chekhov’s gun planted right back in episode one would come back with such a bang? Priya brought up her previous relationship at the start of the show, as an example of extremely gay behaviour: meeting online and getting engaged to a woman in a different country after two months without ever having met in person. Pretty standard, right?

When Priya and Naee sat down on the reunion show sofa you could tell things were a bit off with the two of them, and Naee rushed to grumpily tell us why: After spending some time with each other after the show, Priya suddenly checked out of the relationship, flew off to the US to meet her ex-GF, then two weeks later got married!!!

This really did leave me open-mouthed that things soured so incredibly quickly for the show’s golden couple. As miffed as I was on Naee’s behalf, I was mostly worried about Naee’s mum who deserves only happiness! Moral of the story: Never underestimate ex-appeal!

The inevitable group chat

The entire cast of I Kissed a Girl sits together at the reunion

Throughout the show, it was clear that most of the girls were getting on far better as friends than anything more. (Remember the chemistry test where they just kept picking their mates to stare into each others’ eyes?!) So it should be no surprise that despite their many romantic configurations, the bunch of them are now swapping dating dramas on the group chat. Am I disappointed we didn’t get a few more true shots from Cupid’s arrow? Maybe a little, but seeing a group of queer women live, laugh, love, and lesbian their way to the end was a reward in itself. And here’s hoping it’s back soon for another season!


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  1. Love this list and I loved this show. We, too, were GAGGED at Priya and Naee’s outcome and, yes to protecting Naee’s sweet mum at all costs! What a treat to have this show on the BBC :)

  2. Do not take a drink every time they say masseria or you will die. Really enjoyed this show! You totally nailed the best moments!

  3. Loved this list and loved the show. When Priya was explaining what happened I was yelling at the screen “after you met Naee’s lovely mum!?”

  4. Priya is the absolute worst!!! I was very with her haha. She was so high and mighty on the show and loved to tell other people what they were doing wrong, and then turned out to be a complete love Rat. Which naturally made for a memorable end to the season. Nae and Nae’s mum, you are both darlings and better off without her.

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Doechii’s Sweaty, Swampy ‘Alligator Bites’ Is Florida as F*ck

If the title of her new mixtape, Alligator Bites Never Heal, wasn’t enough to prove it, Doechii’s newest and first full-length project is dragging us with her back into swamp.

Breaking onto the scene in 2020 with her Oh The Places You’ll Go EP, her playful viral hit “Yucky Blucky Fruitcake” helped Doechii secure a precarious but potentially rewarding spot in the cultural landscape. The self-proclaimed “Swamp Princess’s” success landed her a deal with Kendrick Lamar’s Top Dawg Entertainment, where she subsequently released 2022’s she/her/black bitch EP to more acclaim. From the beginning, Doechii’s braggadocious flow combined with her witty wordplay and clever production choices proved she was an artist who not only understood the importance of her influences and acts who came before her but also knew how to use them to her advantage.

On Alligator Bites Never Heal, the next phase of Doechii’s evolution seems to be well on its way to completion. The album is thick with thematic humidity, touching on everything from Doechii’s struggles with her newfound fame and betrayal by lovers and friends, to difficulties with drugs and alcohol and the inability to balance her public and private lives, to trying to figure out who she is as artist when others around her are trying to pull her in different directions. One of the standout tracks, “Denial is a River” — written as a frank conversation between Doechii and her therapist alter ego — features Doechii fake hyperventilating at the end of the track as if breathing through the changes and problems can’t help her because she’s literally gasping for air. It’s her most vulnerable work yet, but she’s not wading through these murky waters on her own.

Her old school cadence, nostalgic production choices, the callbacks to boom bap and Miami jook, and her adoption of the 1990s and 2000s Southern rap lyrical style of just calling it like it is without hiding behind ornate metaphor feel brand new and newly mastered in Doechii’s hands. You can see shades of so many Florida rappers — most notably Trina, though many seem strangely hesitant to mention their names together — and musicians, but you can also see the sprinkling of so many genres that surrounded her growing up: gospel, R&B, alternative rock, and synth-heavy EDM. Doechii plays with it all on Alligator Bites and cements her place as a singular talent. She doesn’t try to pretend like she’s gotten here all by herself. Instead, she leans in, paying the best kind of homage to them by reworking them entirely.

Those familiar with Doechii’s online presence will recognize some of the tracks on the mixtape — specifically “Catfish,” “Bullfrog,” “Boom Bap,” and “Nissan Altima” — from Doechii’s Swamp Sessions where she challenged herself to write and produce a new song in an hour, shoot a video, and post it directly to YouTube. These songs, along with “Boiled Peanuts,” “Death Roll,” and “Skipp,” feature what most have come to love and appreciate from Doechii: hard-hitting lyrics presented with a comical flair and production that feels less radio- and TikTok-ready and more appropriate for bouncing to while taking a late night drive on I-75. As some of the song titles point to, many of these songs feel particularly heavy with the weight of the swampy humidity and unrelenting heat of Florida’s musical past. The warbling production of “Bullfrog” and the jazzy drums of “Boiled Peanuts” slog by as Doechii raps about trying to be herself and make the kind of art she wants to make in the face of people who keep trying to box her in. The chopped and screwed production of “Skipp” and the raunchy confidence of “Nissan Altima” pulsate with the energy of Miami’s hip hop scene in the early 2000s as she assures listeners that she’s one of the best to ever do it and isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. On “Catfish,” Doechii employs a rough snarl to her delivery that helps demonstrate she’s the “tough guy” she claimed to be on “Bullfrog.”

Other tracks on the album — such as “Beverly Hills,” “Wait,” and “Bloom” — provide a little break in between all of the sweat and bravado. Although these tracks play with R&B, bossa nova, and smoother synth grooves, Doechii is still just as playful in her delivery and in her genre-mashing as she is anywhere on else on the album. These tracks provide a reprieve for both her and listeners. She gets to show the softer side of her talents, weave some singing in among all of the rapping, and tell us straight up how much she’s been struggling and how much she’s trying to regain her solid footing through all the storms she’s faced so far. For us, we get to bask in the versatility of a multi-hyphenate talent who is truly coming into her own.

The album ends with the groovy, guitar-driven, psychedelia-tinged title track, “Alligator Bites Never Heal,” but instead of bringing us to full closure, Doechii opens yet another door. This finale, combined with the rest of the work on the album, presents a clear message about who Doechii is as an artist. She believes she can do anything she wants and her work here more than proves it. She’s going to keep experimenting, keep playing, keep pushing her work and hip hop beyond the boundaries of where people think it can or should go. The Swamp Princess isn’t done with herself or with us yet. She has so much more to say and so many more places to go, and she’s bringing Tampa with her wherever she goes.

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Twenty Years Later, Still Haunted by ‘Super Size Me’

Super Size Me really fucked me up as a kid. I am a fat, bummed out person who was a fat, bummed out child, and my mother was worried.

Some of you may be familiar with this story: the trips to the nutritionist, the measured surveillance of food, the panicky love that turns every meal into a catalog of trespasses that becomes part of your body. When you open the box of Honey Nut Cheerios and find its sweet-but-not-too-sweet contents divided into single serving plastic baggies that have been piled back inside of it like segregated organs, your suspicions are confirmed whether you realize it or not. You are the worst version of yourself, your own abject conclusion. You cannot be trusted to care for the trillions of cells you have to pilot every day, and as such, you are not made to eat for your own nourishment, but the nourishment of your future perfect form. The person they feed is not the person you are, but the person they believe you can become.

I was eight when my family rented Super Size Me from the video store cum tanning salon up the street from our house, the one with the porn tapes hidden behind a shower curtain that never ratted me out by crinkling when I went to commune with the impossibly thin women wearing nothing but spiky TOO HOT FOR TV stickers. It’s clear to me now that my parents rented the movie as part of their healthy eating crusade, that my horrified response was, in some ways, part of the plan. But at the time, I just thought it was cool that someone made a whole movie about eating McDonald’s.

I was fascinated by the movie and terrified of it. I had nightmares for months afterward, my first experience with the kind of fear that keeps you awake against your will. I know that the brain is part of the body, that the mind is never separate from the thing that houses it, but the afterimages of those creepy paintings and Morgan Spurlock’s palpable misery seemed to come from a place beyond me, a void whose depth was only betrayed by how quickly its presence jolted me back into exhaustion. During the day, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was slowly killing myself every time I ate something I enjoyed. Though I didn’t have the language to articulate the intrusive thoughts, I became obsessed with the idea that living was nothing more than an agonizing series of microscopic trades against my own mortality, that each of the small, delightful things I thought I loved about being a person was fueled by irreplaceable crumbs of my soul. I was not afraid of being dead, but I was afraid of dying. I was afraid of the electric meat I was forced to be cradled by, afraid of how I always seemed to be trading wads of it for every individual moment of joy.

It’s a funny family anecdote that I refused to look at anything having to do with McDonald’s for weeks after watching Super Size Me, that I would turn away from signs and leave the room during commercials as if out of some twisted reverence. The older I get, the more I think of memory in terms of places, and thus feelings, that I can no longer occupy, the classrooms and basements and corners of friends’ houses I will never have access to again. Me belonging in my body and my body belonging in a place until it no longer does. Me trying to act nonchalant in the back corner of a tacky video store. Me sitting in the family minivan, averting my eyes from the golden arches’ omniscient glow. Me staring out the window of my childhood bedroom, watching the Midwest sunset paint the neighbor’s house an unspeakably tragic shade of yellow as I wondered if tonight would be the night I would finally fall asleep.

It’s undeniable that the movie traumatized me, but in exacerbating the depressed, anxious thought spirals I barely understood, the movie also gifted me a perverse kind of orientation. We do not get to choose the things that give us access to ourselves, not really. Spurlock was never a good enough filmmaker for his work to have created these feelings in me, but he was just good enough to help me recognize them from an indirect distance, good enough for his work to ignite the dry, existential detritus of my disordered eating, turning it into something with heat, power, meaning. My psychic pain didn’t have a name or a shape or a voice, but maybe it had a zipcode, a designated voting district, a favorite lunch spot.

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I am uninterested in rehashing the ways the bullshit methodology of Super Size Me has been debunked. That conversation has been had many different times in many different places, and ultimately, I find it to be beside the point. Spurlock’s intellectual dishonesty is inherent to the film’s premise. Eating nothing but McDonald’s three times a day for a month while moving as little as possible and deliberately failing to strategize your caloric intake, what Spurlock calls “every eight-year-olds dream”, has nothing to with the kind of questions the movie flirts with regarding fast food production and personal versus corporate responsibility. Spurlock’s stunt isn’t a science experiment or a politically sound demonstration or a thoughtful way to engage with the cultural moment he claims to be responding to — it’s just fucking stupid.

And make no mistake, the stunt is the movie; it’s the only interesting thing that happens during its 98-minute runtime. The film’s overall rhetoric is laughable and depressing: The framework of Spurlock’s “investigation” is petty, cruel, and uninformed, and though I’m sure he would be the first to tell you he’s not trying to make high art, the pretentious condescension baked into the movie’s perspective makes it obvious he’s not trying, period.

Super Size Me is partially about Spurlock’s stunt and partially about the pop-nutrition questions surrounding American obesity in the early aughts, but, mechanically and structurally, it’s mostly about stretching edgy cartoons and B-roll of random fat women’s asses over deliberately misleading statistics and contextless snippets of stilted talking head interviews. In a review of the film published in Slant Magazine in April 2004, Ed Gonzalez highlights the fundamental disconnect that ultimately sinks Spurlock’s shallow enterprise:

Forget that this stunt is completely irresponsible: Spurlock seems like a healthy guy, and he succeeds only in trivializing people with real eating disorders. The main hypocrisy here is that Spurlock takes on McDonald’s for exercising little to no ethical responsibility when selling burgers just as he’s needlessly getting fat in order to be able to sell a documentary. Spurlock knows he wouldn’t have an audience to pander to without the stunt (what doesn’t [sic] Super Size Me reveal that hasn’t been detailed on countless “Give Me a Break”-style news segments?), and as such he reveals himself to be as savvy and self-interested as that clown who’s feeding your children everyday.

The thing people often fail to understand about fatphobia is that it’s not just about beauty standards or bullying or individual measures of self-acceptance. Rather, it’s an impossibly complex ontological construct, an invisible morality that damns some bodies and sanctifies others in service of honing and perpetuating cultural and political hegemony. It’s not just about who’s hot and who’s not, but about how and why and in what form people get to exist, about how endlessly nuanced concepts like gender, race, health, success, etc. get to look, and thus be understood through the lens of truncated, commodifiable signifiers designed to encourage some questions and erase the chance to ask others.

When I say Spurlock’s approach in Super Size Me is fatphobic and narrow-minded, I mean that the movie doesn’t make any sense unless you accept that fatness is the physical manifestation of a kind of spiritual curse that both comes from and affects nothing besides the individual shortcomings of the person in question. Even on my umpteenth rewatch, I am unable to stop myself from audibly begging Spurlock’s grainy spector to ask some goddamn follow-up questions. He totally ignores the intersecting political and industrial factors that one would need to consider when talking seriously about the “supersizing of America”: the economic forces and evolving realities of labor that impact people’s ability to exercise and eat in healthy ways, systemic infrastructure problems like redlining and gentrification that contribute to the creation of food deserts and food swamps, or the myriad environmental factors and living conditions that contribute to people’s poor health across decades. Spurlock has no interest in these things, and so they don’t exist.

But as with the movie’s pseudoscience, getting bogged down in these rhetorical blindspots only serves to distract from the thing no one ever talks about when discussing his work, the grim, unpleasant engine that drives Super Size Me specifically and much of Spurlock’s filmmaking in general. I keep returning to the movie not because it’s good or nostalgic or ironically compelling, but because I am drawn to Spurlock’s aforementioned stupidity. I am obsessed with the blantantness of it, the macabre ways it soaks into every aspect of his filmography to the point of total possession. Super Size Me isn’t just dated, it’s desiccated. The meat of the film, its noxious framework, was rotten from the beginning, never designed to hold up to time or basic scrutiny. Two decades out from the film’s release, everything else about it save for the white, hard knot of his suicidal McDonald’s binge has finally finished melting into the dirt. There is nothing else to witness besides the extended spectacle of Spurlock’s self-harm. Watching the movie today throws this fact into such stark contrast it almost hurts your eyes: as an auteur, as an muckraker, as a documentarian, Spurlock’s stupidity, his willingness to hurt himself and call it a conversation, is all he’s ever had. I do not find this to be noble or productive or beautiful, but there is something about it I find vital, important.

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It feels like Spurlock and his work have been following me around my entire life. Not just in how I think of him narrating his first “McStomachache” every time I inevitably fall back into my disordered eating habits, or the ways Super Size Me contributed to my interest in the theatricality of “nonfiction”, but in weirdly specific ways that echo throughout my family history.

Spurlock is from the same parts of West Virginia both my parents’ families are from: he was born in Parkersburg, a city up north along the Ohio River, and raised in Beckley, an old mining town an hour south of Charleston. My father’s uncle Miller was the first Black principal of Woodrow Wilson High School where Spurlock was a student, along with my maternal grandfather in an earlier era. It is not uncommon for Appalachian families to have distant relatives scattered across the land, for the history of these families to be a history of migration, exoduses of all sizes daisy chained across generations as people move from town to town for work and love and opportunity. One such exodus brought my parents to Columbus, Ohio.

In June of 2005, during the same month I first watched Super Size Me, Spurlock’s reality show 30 Days premiered on FX. The show followed the movie’s formula, documenting people as they participated in “unfamiliar lifestyles” for a month. In the pilot, Spurlock and his then-current fiancé move to Franklinton, a neighborhood in Columbus, to try and live off the era’s minimum wage of five dollars and fifteen cents an hour. The neighborhood, also called The Bottoms, is just up the road from the hospital where I was born, separate from my body, separate from my family home, separate from myself.

In 2017, Spurlock would release what would ultimately be his last film, Super Size Me 2: Holy Chicken!, in which he opens a fast food chicken restaurant to explore the validity of the industry’s health conscious rebranding. The restaurant, another stunt that barely has anything to do with the questions the film raises, took over the abandoned husk of a Wendy’s at 2405 Schrock Road. The building is technically in Columbus, but is in reality part of the suburb of Westerville, just a three minute drive from my undergrad campus. As I watched the line of eager customers standing in the parking lot under the building’s ugly new lime green awning, I thought of how I had once stood in that same parking lot as the sun was setting, watching my dead 1999 Ford Windstar get pulled onto the bed of a tow truck. It was Valentine’s day, and me and the girl I was dating at the time had evening plans that my car’s shitty battery had ruined. She had showered me with gifts earlier that day, one of which was a full size strawberry sheet cake I was forced to brandish along with my license and insurance info. I thought about how ridiculous I must have looked sitting up against the wall of Spurlock’s future restaurant, feeling my chances of getting laid dwindling with the sunlight as I ate bits of cake with my fingers and waited for my friends to come pick me up. This, I remember thinking, is so fucking stupid.

Which is all to say that I feel a certain kinship to Spurlock and his work, a connection that isn’t love or admiration but has the shape and weight of those things, the stubborn kernel of a bond that I am forced to keep in my back pocket. I am not from West Virginia; I’m from people who are from West Virginia. I know the place not by the land, but by the way my folks carry the land’s lessons with them. There is something about Spurlock’s work that feels quintessentially Appalachian to me, animated by a scrappy kind of self-loathing that is, in its own way, comforting. Spurlock’s obsession with limiting the scope of his interrogations to the mechanics of his stunts, his impulse to shrink daunting social and ethical issues down into tchotchkes, tiny decorative monuments to his own asinine endurance, speaks to something beyond self-interest and mediocre filmmaking. The personal perspective of his films isn’t an issue because it jeopardizes journalistic integrity or taints some platonic ideal of objectivity, but because it proves Spurlock’s ultimate muse to be his own degradation. There is, to me, a certain kind of Appalachian impulse toward self-definition via self-harm. It’s often misunderstood by folks who are unfamiliar with places that are so thoroughly defined by the realities of addiction, poverty, systemic health issues, and corporate exploitation, defined too by all the outside narratives surrounding the abstract idea of those realities. If death is the only option, let me at least choose it for myself. To be faced with decay and seek dignity instead of rejuvenation, to seek freedom not in change but in the chance to rot on your own terms, is very West Virginia.

Spurlock’s work that best encapsulates this debasement-as-dramatic-question aspect of his artist ethos is his 2002 MTV reality show I Bet You Will. Originating as a webcast in the post-Jackass, pre-YouTube internet landscape, the show involved Spurlock and his assorted co-hosts offering supposedly random people money to publicly humiliate themselves. The stunts consisted of things like a woman asking beachgoers to stick gum in her hair, a woman bobbing for duck eggs in a vat of watery gravy, a woman jumping rope in branded underwear while Spurlock shoots her with a super soaker filled with milk, etc. At the beginning of Super Size Me 2, when Spurlock refers to him “making a career out of questionable life choices”, this is what he’s talking about. In a 2005 interview, Spurlock said he amassed close to a quarter million dollars in credit card debt over the course of a year leading up to the show’s cancellation just three months after it aired. Some of the money he made from I Bet You Will was put toward paying off these loans, and the rest was used to fund Super Size Me: “When they canceled the show and I was down to about two hundred thousand dollars, I said ‘Well I could either throw this money into that bottomless pit of debt, or I could make a movie.” He grins as the audience begins to chuckle. “That was my logic. Those were the only two possibilities.”

The fact that Spurlock was making the kind of derivative, uncomfortable TV destined for the hard drives of Russian fetishists right up until the release of Super Size Me shouldn’t come as a surprise. Spurlock has said that the original plan for the movie was to have someone else go on the fast-food diet, but that he decided to do it himself once he realized there was no other way to guarantee the guinea pig’s commitment. It was always about the stunt, about the performance of the stunt. In so many ways, the movie’s success was a fluke. Going back through his filmography, it’s clear that Spurlock never really grew as an artist or a journalist, that his movies all follow the same formula and fall into the same traps, that Spurlock’s career as a C-list documentarian hinged entirely on taking clumsy advantage of a brief cultural moment.

As I fuck up my YouTube algorithm to watch Spurlock wear a t-shirt that says STUPDITY PAYS as he cheers for “Trish” to shove an entire large pepperoni pizza slice by slice into her 240p skinny jeans, it becomes impossible to forget that Spurlock was both a confessed sex pest and a rampant alcoholic. In a 2017 blog post titled “I am Part of the Problem”, Spurlock details his history of sexual misconduct, infidelity, and at least one instance of presumed sexual assault. Spurlock also mentions he had been “consistently drinking since the age of 13” and  hadn’t “been sober for more than a week in 30 years” which, among many other things, renders Super Size Me even more meaningless than it already was. He also references being sexually abused as a child, his life-long battle with depression, and his absent father, mostly in the form of rhetorical questions. I don’t doubt the sincerity behind the post, but the whole thing is a textbook non-apology, a way of acknowledging past harm without truly growing or owning up to anything.

I wasn’t able to articulate my feelings about Spurlock and his work until he died earlier this year. That’s the thing about making a career out of hurting yourself, about making a living finding your own ways to scorn death: once death finally comes, everything will be revealed to have been for nothing. I am not here to defend Spurlock, and yet I find myself so desperate for his work to amount to more than it does, for his obvious self-hatred to be as meaningful in reality as it is to me personally. I have never known a version of myself who didn’t want to die, who doesn’t feel every pound of her existence all of the time. It is embarrassing to admit that I am still so desperate to find purpose in pain. I want to get in touch with the ancient parts of myself that allow me to aim my rot. Yearning for death is an entire country, a chilled continent whose primary export is sharp corners. What does it mean to “get better”, anyway? What does it mean to love your body, to love what your body houses, to love what your body needs to survive?

Because McDonald’s discontinued the Super Size option shortly after the film’s release, my understanding of the phrase has nothing to do with food. The song Spurlock commissioned for the movie by MC Doug Ray, AKA Toothpick, has been stuck in my head for 20 years. It’s named after the movie and is also total garbage, just over four minutes of half-assed rapping and cartoonish fatphobia (“Now I can’t get out of bed and I have to order in / I’m a triple fat fatty and I have a triple chin”). The back half of the chorus is what’s stuck with me: it’s just Toothpick saying the film’s title over and over again, but the repetition slowly twists the ostensible request into something sadder, more anguished. It’s so stupid, but there is a pleading to the words I can’t shake. He is begging for an impossible thing, and the begging is all he has. He’s craving purpose, death, a new form that can keep up with the world around him. Attention, understanding, a taste of what you got. Super Size Me. Super Size Me. Super Size Me. Super Size Me.

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Gyasi Hall

Gyasi Hall is a writer and critic from Columbus, Ohio. Their essays “Alas, Poor Fhoul” and “Eminem Drop-Kicked Me in This Dream I Had” were both nominated for the Pushcart Prize. They received their MFA in Creative Nonfiction from the University of Iowa, and their work can be found in Guernica, Longreads, ANMLY, The Iowa Review, Speculative Nonfiction, BRINK, and The Black Warrior Review, among others.

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  1. Your writing always leaves me feeling inspired and motivated. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world.

  2. “i have never known a version of myself who didn’t want to die, who doesn’t feel every pound of her existence all of the time. It is embarrassing to admit that I am still so desperate to find purpose in pain. I want to get in touch with the ancient parts of myself that allow me to aim my rot. Yearning for death is an entire country, a chilled continent whose primary export is sharp corners. “

    god this is so good

  3. “You are the worst version of yourself, your own abject conclusion. You cannot be trusted to care for the trillions of cells you have to pilot every day, and as such, you are not made to eat for your own nourishment, but the nourishment of your future perfect form. The person they feed is not the person you are, but the person they believe you can become.“
    This was the passage that made me realise I was reading something remarkable. There are so many other hauntingly effective lines all the way through, and there are some ideas I really want to sit with about Appalachia and self harm. Thank you for writing this, and I absolutely intend to look up your other stuff. I was not surprised to read the stellar bio, just glad to see you’re getting the recognition you definitely deserve!

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With T4T Care and More Effective Results, Bluebird Is Revolutionizing Hair Removal for Trans Women

I knew I was trans before I found community and I knew I needed to get rid of my beard once I started walking around Queens in women’s clothing. And so, the first trans woman I met after coming out was my electrologist.

For many trans women, electrolysis or laser hair removal are the first steps of medical transition. For many others, they are also a necessity when approaching a later step: bottom surgery.

But as important as these services may be, they aren’t always easily accessible — and even when they are, they might not be attuned to the specific needs of trans women. One company in Toronto is starting to change that.

Djuna Day poses in front of a mural that says Hair removal for everyone

Djuna Day, owner and founder of Bluebird Laser

Bluebird Laser is a trans-owned and operated studio tucked into the bustling alcove of Kensington Market. When you walk onto their floor, the energy outside drifts away. There’s a sense of calm with inclusive illustrations on the wall and a reading nook with trans literature in the corner. It has the welcome of a spa without the intimidating aura.

“I did all the writing for our website and it was through that process I figured out what I wanted to say, what I had to say,” Bluebird founder Djuna Day told me. “The website is older than any of our spaces, so I’ve tried to make the spaces match.”

Over the last decade, Djuna and Bluebird have been on a journey to get to their ever-growing Kensington location. Djuna came out in 2013 when a cis straight woman named Allison was doing almost all the hair removal for trans women in Toronto. “She was the only one and she had a year-long waiting list,” Djuna recalled. “I waited like everybody else.”

But hair removal was more than just an important step in transitioning for Djuna. It also gave her an idea. She’d previously worked as a carpenter and felt tired of being in a space filled with cis straight men. “I was looking for a way to surround myself with queer folks,” Djuna said. “And I wanted to do some good for people I actually cared about rather than rich ladies from Forest Hill paying $10,000 for dining tables.”

“While I was lying on Allison’s electrolysis table, I started Plan B-ing it in my head. Could I do this work too?” It helped that the schooling was cheap and fast.

The plan was not to start Bluebird. But after applying to every laser clinic in the city and facing obvious employment discrimination due to her transness, she felt called to take action. “If they weren’t willing to employ us, they certainly weren’t serving us or serving us well,” Djuna said. She didn’t see an option other than creating a space for herself — and her community.

It was Allison who allowed Djuna to make the jump from school to suddenly running her own business. Allison lent out her space to Djuna, talked to her about challenges with clients, and coached her until Djuna felt confident she was doing work up to her standard.

Allison also passed along a technique that according to Djuna — and my own observations — was unique to Allison and is now unique to Bluebird. Rather than framing laser and electrolysis as competitors, they utilize both methods, often on a single client depending on where they’re at in the hair removal process. “Laser has things it’s good at and things it cannot do and electrolysis has the same,” Djuna explained. “By starting with laser, Allison could speed up this whole process because laser is just faster. And then once she got most of the dark coarse hair off the face then she could switch to electrolysis and get the rest done.”

This approach is one I discovered on my own. I did a year of painful, slow electrolysis before switching to laser, because I ran out of money. A year of laser made an immense difference — in addition to being way cheaper and way less painful — and made me wonder why I hadn’t done a year of laser first and then finished with electrolysis. When I first came out, I’d been told laser was temporary and electrolysis was permanent, but the truth is more complex.

A history lesson courtesy of Djuna: Electrolysis was invented in the 1850s and for over a century it was the only method to permanently remove hair. But when laser became popular in the 90s, the electrology industry was decimated. Hair removal was geared toward cis white women and, for them, laser pretty much did the trick. In response, electrologists argued laser’s flaws to protect their business. But especially now that laser technology has advanced to work on all skin tones, it’s a very effective method for permanent hair removal.

Djuna and her Bluebird Laser team pose on a couch

Djuna and the Bluebird Laser team

While I’m back to electrolysis to finish off the last hairs on my face, this new understanding of laser was a relief to me. I’m planning on getting bottom surgery in about a year and my dread around getting electrolysis on my pubic hair vastly outweighed any fears around the surgery itself. To start instead with laser, and to have it done only by trans technicians at Bluebird has been a relief.

“Forget about the transness and the bottom surgery aspects, getting up on a table and spreading your legs for anybody is a really vulnerable position,” Djuna admitted. “We are trans folks doing this work for trans folks and that helps with lots of our clients.” Djuna said some of their clients may never have had this kind of surgery prep done if not for Bluebird. I understand why. It’s challenging enough in this ideal environment.

But Djuna is quick to point out that what makes Bluebird unique goes beyond vibes and t4t care. Or rather, t4t care has further benefits. “I’m a trans person, I’m also an autistic person, and in this business these have become my super powers,” Djuna said. “I’ve applied my technical brain to how to do laser better than anybody.” This means figuring out completely new laser settings with her team. Once again, the laser industry was first and still is geared primarily toward cis white women. Djuna has thrown out the chart that’s given with the lasers to figure out how to — safely — do better work for all her clients.

“We often have trans clients say they’ve had between 12 to 20 sessions somewhere else and they come to us because they’re not done. We typically finish a trans woman’s face in 8 to 11 sessions. We’re not the cheapest people in town, I know we’re not. It’s expensive to run a business in downtown Toronto. But I think we do better work.”

When Allison was treating trans clients in the 90s, discretion was essential. She worked out of a small office with a medical aesthetic and advertised to trans clients only via word of mouth. But Djuna is no longer willing to settle for working in obscurity. She wants trans people to know about Bluebird and she wants competitors to see what’s possible when all clientele are given the treatment they deserve.

“We have the feel, we have all these trans women working in this beautiful space, but it’s also technical. We’re not just smoke and mirrors, we’re not just branding. There’s something behind this.”

When I first went to Bluebird, my plan was to get a couple sessions while in Toronto for the summer, and then find someone new back in my other city of Brooklyn. But after two sessions with Djuna, I’ve changed my mind. I would drive the nine hours back to Canada for this level of care.

Djuna and her team pose in streetwear outside their office.


Learn more about Bluebird Laser on their website

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3 Comments

  1. How timely, I am going to a trans owned laser clinic for my first visit tomorrow 😅. I guess it shows how much of a bubble I’m in on social media, I think “everybody” knew you start with laser if you can (hair and skin color permitting) but then have to switch to electro for the stragglers and the hair that was already grey or white… (Yes it’s a race against time for later transitioners…)

    It was actually a fairly last minute decision to go with the trans owned/operated place, it’s a bit of a drive, but I figured that between the experience and skill of the operator, and her familiarity with the specific “problem at hand” so to speak, it probably made more sense to go there rather than an in-town chain with a “lifetime” package sold per body part.

    • Hey Rylie, Djuna here from Bluebird Laser. I’d love to know who you’re going to see. It would be great to connect with other trans folks doing this work! Cheers!

  2. ahhhh the thing about doing laser and electrolysis together makes so much sense. this place seems so cool, i wish i had one near me!

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