You Need Help: My Mom Supports My Bisexuality, but Not My Butchness
Kristin of Everyone Is Gay and My Kid Is Gay gives advice for a 16-year-old and her mom trying to deal with coming out as bisexual and gender nonconforming!
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You Need Help: Wedding Fashion For Queers Just a Few Centimeters Femme of Center
I’m a tear-filled romantic who loves parties, so I love weddings, and I’m obsessed with dress-code-based fashion, so I love weddings even more. I’m also pretty obsessed with the idea of androgynous dresses, so I’m excited to talk about them.
You Need Help: Why Don’t I Like Going Down On My Girlfriend?
“I really really want to like going down on her, but I don’t. It feels overwhelming — the smell, the taste, the trouble breathing.”
You Need Help: What To Do With Your Gay Hair In Trump Country
I think you could style your hair like Dolly Parton and people on Kentucky front porches and in Kentucky truck beds would still call you a dyke in that horrible ugly tone that only bigots can growl with.
You Need Help: How Do I NOT Cause a Breakup with a Tough Talk?
“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t want to break up with them. I really just want to be happy with them.”
Fool’s Journey: Where is My Path Leading?
“I’m entirely lost. Which direction should I be heading in right now? Where is my path leading? What should I be putting most of my energy into to one day become an independent and successful person with a flourishing career?” A tarot reading to explore possibilities.
Y’all Need Help #5: Being a Virgin Doesn’t Make You Straight
Do you have to go to your homophobic asshole cousin’s wedding? How do you tell your more-than-friends friend that you’ve slept with her ex? Is 22 too old to still be as pure and virginal as the driven snow? Get in here and find out!
You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
You Need Help: What To Do About the Jerk in Your Friend Group
What’s a compassionate queer to do when an insecure friend starts to make the whole group miserable?
You Need Help: How Do I Break Up With a Casual Someone?
So you want to break up? Don’t be mean. Be honest.
You Need Help: How Soon Is Too Soon To U-Haul, Get Married, Have Ten Babies, Be Together Forever and Ever and Ever and Ever?
“…there’s a value in extending the period of time in which the way you build a life together is directed only by what’s in your heart and guts and brain, not by leases and legal documents and bill payments and shared sofas.”
Y’all Need Help #4: You’re a Person with Complex Emotional Responses to a Variety of Situations
A 28 year-old closeted lesbian and married mother of three, and a token gay friend who’s feeling quite encroached upon. Calling it like I see it!
You Need Help: How Do I Make Out With My Friend?
“I want to make out with my bestie. I love her dearly, but I don’t think I’m in love with her—I don’t want to be in a whole relationship thing with her or anything.”
You Need Help: Issues With Strap-On Size
What do you do when your girlfriend has a small vaginal opening and wants to have penetrative sex?
You Need Help: Will Studying Abroad Break Us Up?
Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.
You Need Help: What’s a Reasonable Reason to Dump Someone?
So you were dumped because…you’re not a vegan?
You Need Help: You’re Bisexual and Your Girlfriend Wishes You Weren’t
“Am I in denial? Should I view this as a total dealbreaker? What is a girl to do?”
You Need Help: Making Friends as a Queer Adult
“How exactly do I make new friends, especially queer ones? This is the first time I’ve been not-in-school for a long time.”
You Need Help: Are You Asexual or Was Having Sex With Dudes Just the Worst?
“I was bred as a Southern Baptist, which gave me plenty of reasons not to let a guy touch my boobs. For example, it would break Jesus’ heart. And also I would go to hell.”
You Need Help: You Don’t Know How You Feel About Non-monogamy
Sometimes the girl you have a crush on has an open girl/boy/boifriend and you’ve never even thought about non-monogamy before. Here’s how to start.