Y’All Need Help #29: What to Wear, When to Quit
Impress your tattoo artist, confront your braggy woke friend, leave your fiancee, plus two HR questions get answered by a real professional!
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How to Have a Difficult Conversation 101: Tough Love From @xenaworrierprincess
Come for the memes, stay for the advice so honest you might start crying while eating an enormous frozen Costco pie-sized peanut butter cup.
Y’All Need Help #28: Being Careful With Your Sex Eyes
Keeping it casual with straight gals, wondering if your kid and divorce will torpedo your lesbian dating life, and feeling disconnected from the queer community post-breakup. Plus some updates from past advice seekers! Let’s go!
You Can Leave Your Partner Who Scares You
“I’ve been dating this person for four years who is genuinely the light of my life but has some anger management issues. Though they would never, ever turn that anger towards me, it still terrifies me just witnessing it. They are aware of it, but I don’t think they’ll ever go to therapy about it. They don’t really want to even though they acknowledge it’s a problem.”
Y’All Need Help #27: But Back to YOU
A ruined friendship, body hair at work, coming out a little later when you’re about to marry a dude, and a frank conversation about assault. We really can have it all.
You Need Help: Am I Bisexual If It Really Is Just This One Guy?
“I’ve identified as a lesbian for three years now, and this identity makes me happy. But… I made out with one of my closest male friends whilst drunk, and then again whilst sober, and we’ve talked about it and decided to pursue a friends with benefits situation. So now I feel guilty, but I feel silly calling myself or thinking about “coming out again” as bi because it really is just this one guy; I’m not into “men,” I’m into women (and some NB people) and him, and that’s it. Am I betraying everyone?”
You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Makes More Money Than You, Just Wants to Have Fun
“How can I support the way she wants to live and not drown in debt?”
Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings
We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!
You Need Help: How to Be More Assertive (or, When to Clap Back at Men)
It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.
You Need Help: Is Love Really a Lie? Should You Even Try?
It’s a hard time to have hope, but friends, don’t give up.
You Need Help: Taking the Leap to Study Abroad
“Moving to Portland would be a dream come true, but I’m scared about being away from my support network, and finding people to live with who I can trust. Should I go?”
You Need Help: You’re Not Sure If You’re a Boy and Gender Is Hard
“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your gender from a different angle. What makes you feel affirmed?”
You Need Help: Your Potential Throuple Turned Into a Couple and Someone’s Feeling Left Behind
“If y’all are close friends, you might want to make this sacrifice/compromise to preserve the friendship. Generally speaking, friends are more important than lovers, depending on how close of a friend they are.”
You Need Help: Long-Distance Relationships
So far away! Courtney Trouble gets blunt about LDRs.
Y’All Need Help #25: Spring Cleaning Part 4
Did someone say they needed me to answer 19 questions in one post?? No, they did not, but I did it anyway!!
You Need Help: You’re New to the Queer Dating Scene, Do You Need to Change Yourself?
One person is worried being femme and bi will stop her from dating. Another is worried being fat and having no experience will. Good news! None of that will stop you!
You Need Help: You Want to Have Sex But Also Sex Is a Lot Wow So Complicated
You and your girlfriend don’t have to have sex unless you both want to have sex, no matter how long you’ve been dating. But also if you DO wanna have sex while respecting your history of trauma, here are some tips!
Y’All Need Help #24: Spring Cleaning Part 3
18 questions and pretty much 18 answers! Is one of these questions yours? Come on in!
You Need Help: Post-Divorce Feelings
“It’s so important to learn lessons from past loves without them negatively affecting or preventing us from being able to give our all to future loves. How to do that, though, is so difficult, and I guess is the work of being human.”
You Need Help: You’re Gay but Oh No You’re Falling for a Man, What the F*ck
“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”