If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses your experience. But the more important questions here are: what do you want and why do you want it?
“How do I know this isn’t some quarantine induced haze and I’m just projecting my feelings of loneliness onto her?”
Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen. Learn how to discuss safety frameworks, talk about the risks, and actively engage with consent.
Being too eager or too worried about saying the right thing can be just as alienating as disapproval.
Remind yourself that your life is your life and that you don’t need validation from her.
“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that — but you might consider the possibility that there are more opportunities to do so than you think.”
My advice for folks who KNOW that they want to break up with their partner is almost always the same: Break up with your partner!
You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.
Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting the past, but it does require some space to let your brain and heart breathe.
When your anxiety stems from a valid concern about a real and terrifying threat, it’s hard to draw the line between reasonable fear and full-blown panic – here are some concrete tips for managing COVID anxiety.
The confident vibe you get from me? The “naturally sexy” way you (might) think I am? It’s not natural at all. It’s a choice; it can be learned. Here’s how!
She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.
Transmitting a deadly virus doesn’t exactly say “I love you,” so it makes sense that this particular conflict is bringing up big questions about your relationship.
The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.
Breaking up with someone does not make you an asshole.
“He has been, without fail, late to everything we’ve ever planned. His tardiness ranges from one to three hours. Sometimes, I wait an hour and politely ask “what’s your ETA?” and he replies with “Sorry, I’m just going to do my hair and 15 other things and I’ll be on my way!””
Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.
The pandemic has made ghosting easier for those who might otherwise act like mortals.
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are, and you get to do the messy work of finding out what’s next.
There is no quantifiable metric for being over someone. If you’re ready to date, you’re ready to date.
