There’s No Right (or Wrong) Way to Go Home for the Holidays
No matter what happens, this is a firm truth: You deserve to be seen, affirmed, and loved for exactly who you are.
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You Need Help: Getting Kinky On A Budget
You’re in luck — kinky sex requires nothing but two (or more) bodies and a little imagination.
You Need Help: Are There Any Cheap Strap-Ons?
You may have to drop some cash for a toy that will last for more than one thrust.
You Need Help: Trusting Yourself in a New Relationship After Early Attachment Trauma
Possibly your trauma history is being triggered out of context in this relationship – but maybe it’s not. YOU are the expert, no matter what your trauma history is.
You Need Help: Rebuilding Desire and Confidence in Your Partner
“How can I help her feel confident and in the mood again without sacrificing any more of myself?”
You Need Help: Balancing Financial Security and Moral Bankruptcy
Doing something positive for the world is a constantly moving target.
Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.
You Need Help: A Non-Binary Woman Working Through the Gender Feels
“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”
You Need Help: Navigating Aggression, Desire and Gender in Dating
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
You Need Help: Closeted Girlfriends, Pregnant Butches, Straight Weddings and More
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Into the A+ Advice Box #8: Coming Out to Your Kid, Casual Hookups Galore, and So Much More!
This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!
You Need Help: What Does My Crush on Someone Older Than Me Mean?
“I have recently grown attracted to someone who is older than me. Not too much older, but enough to make me question where I’m coming from.”
Into the A+ Advice Box #7: Gender Neutral Parent Names, So Many Questions about Crushes, and More!
Highlights include: going down while wearing a nose ring, surviving the United States as a queer immigrant, living on the same college campus as your ex, and also how to perfectly time your break up. That’s just the beginning!
You Need Help: Finding a Therapist for the First Time
Therapy is your place to be all about YOU. It’s your place to be safe, vulnerable, and authentic, in order for your to learn about yourself. It’s never too early to start practicing how to prioritize yourself and your needs.
You Need Help: How Do I Get My Sexual Confidence Back?
You’re at your most vulnerable when you describe how afraid you are of never being desired by another again. Own that vulnerability, because really owning our soft parts is part of what confidence is.
You Need Help: Seeking Poly People and (Relationship) Anarchy in Small Town, U.S.A.
The first statement of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto is that “Love is abundant,” so why don’t we start there? Love is abundant. What kind of love do you want to create in your life?
Into the A+ Advice Box #6: Being Out at Work, Surviving “Bisexual FOMO,” and More!
Real life worries from readers like you! Including: coming out at any age, getting comfortable with butt sex, and so many questions about moving! Get ready! It’s a party!
You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
Your Homework For 2019 Is To Assume Everyone Thinks You’re Hot, I’m Serious
Hello it’s me, your supportive fun friend who thinks you’re literally the greatest hottest person on the whole goddamn planet.
The 8 Most Asked You Need Help Questions, Answered
Love and sex and internalized homophobia and, yes, straight girls.