“It’s common to want to tell everyone about your newfound realization about your identity, so that you can feel like you’re living authentically and with integrity. But you get to do whatever feels best to you!”
A reader has just realized that Shenny is OTP. What now??
Take a deep breath. You can get through this.
Your family buys you weird gifts, your mom is kinda rude about your long-distance girlfriend, and you can’t move on after this breakup. Let’s get some shit done! Come on!
“There’s nothing better than finding out the way you love your body the most, and you’ve done that. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad or weird for that.”
What to do when you have a crush on your roommate and you’re both asexual and are definitely more than just friends and definitely don’t know what to do about it.
“Why can’t I just let it roll off me? And do you think there’s a way to react that might make the situation a little less miserable for me?”
You sent your Yes/No questions and now I’m answering all of them!!! Do what I say!!
Old friends trying to reconnect, a first date that’s causing some nerves, and the overwhelming pressure to pick a major and stick with it. It’s time to give some advice and send some love to strangers!
Strap-on sex shouldn’t leave any bruises unless you want it to.
You don’t want to wear a dress but also don’t want to disappoint your family, you’re not as excited about your girlfriend as you used to be, and your girlfriend doesn’t know if she’ll still be with you next year. Get in here!
“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when my parents ask what’s going on in my life. Of course, I know coming out can be difficult in general, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for coming out in the context of a toxic family relationship? How can I best protect myself from the inevitable insults, yelling, and criticism while still being honest?”
Being miserable at your 9-5 job, your family isn’t wild about your fiancee and you’re embarrassed to get married, you’re not wild about your current roommate, and people think you might be related to your gal BUT YOU’RE NOT. Come on in!
Queer time moves differently than regular time; we’re on our own schedule; we exist outside the rigidity of the patriarchal space-time continuum.
Checking on your ex, being honest with coworkers, being honest with everyone including yourself, and pulling yourself out of a year-long sad thing! Come help give advice!!
The weight of expectation does not belong in bed with you.
Our gender is not a burden, the binary mainstream society is. You are wonderful, I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Take what works from my suggestions, and know I’ll be hoping it all turns out for the best.
Yes, helpful therapists exist! Yes, they are worth it! And yes, they are very hard to find! Stay with me.
Here’s how to forget about the world during sex and be present instead.
What to wear when you don’t want to channel Leather Mommi Barbie.