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Sex + Relationships

How to Go on a First Date That Doesn’t Suck

Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.

By Carolyn Yates| January 18, 2021 | 37 Comments
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Breakups and Being Alone 101: The Autostraddle Guide To Life After Love

We’ve got advice on breakups and exes, playlists to see you through, unhinged behavior we highly recommend and so much more from the annals of Autostraddle’s achy breaky hearts.

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How to Have Strap-On Lesbian Sex

You’ve got your harness. You’ve got a dildo to use with it. So what happens next?

By Carolyn Yates| June 12, 2018 | 4 Comments
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How to Buy a Strap-On Dildo for Lesbian Sex

Everything you need to know about choosing the right dildo for strap-on lesbian sex.

By Carolyn Yates| June 5, 2018 | 10 Comments
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Shibari 101: Hogtie

Here’s how to put a few basic shibari ties together so you can hogtie your rope bottom!

By cee| May 31, 2018 | 3 Comments
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How To Buy A Strap-On Harness for Lesbian Sex

Everything you need to know about picking out a strap-on harness.

By Carolyn Yates| May 29, 2018 | 2 Comments
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Shibari 101: Leg Tie

Here’s how to do a basic shibari leg tie for beginners!

By cee| May 24, 2018 | 5 Comments
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Shibari 101: Basic Chest Harness

Here’s how to make a basic shibari chest harness!

By cee| May 17, 2018 | 6 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Shibari 101: Single- and Double-Column Ties

Single-column and double-column ties are the foundation for more complicated shibari ties, and they’re also fun on their own! Here’s how to get started.

By cee| May 10, 2018 | 5 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Have Lesbian Sex With a Trans Woman

Sex between someone with a penis and someone with a vagina gets a lot of representation, but not when the penis-haver is a woman. Here’s everything you need to know about lesbian sex with trans women who have penises.

By Mey| May 8, 2018 | 84 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage

Welcome to Shibari 101, your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! Today, we’re talking about history, basics and safety.

By cee| May 3, 2018 | 8 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Masturbate Like a Champ

May is Masturbation Month! Here’s your guide to doing you as only you can.

By Carolyn Yates| May 1, 2018 | 5 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Why Lesbian Shower Sex Is Like Dante’s Inferno (And How to Make It Suck Less)

Everything you need to know about how to have lesbian shower sex, including positions, tips, how to avoid falling into the ninth circle of Dante’s Inferno and more.

By Carolyn Yates| April 24, 2018 | 7 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Soundproof for Kinky Sex

If you want to make your sex or kink life a little quieter and a little more soundproof, here’s what you can try on your own.

By Carolyn Yates| April 10, 2018 | 4 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Bring Butt Plugs Into Your Lesbian Sex Life

Regardless of gender and sexuality, everybody’s got a butt. Here’s how to try butt plugs for the first time, how to add butt plugs to lesbian sex, and how to find the butt plug that’s right for you.

By Carolyn Yates| April 3, 2018 | 5 Comments
Sex + Relationships

10 Tips For Better Lesbian Sexting

Here’s how to take your sexting to the next level, including what to say, how to say it, how to give good sext and more.

By Carolyn Yates| March 27, 2018 | 12 Comments
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How to Buy a Vibrator

My first vibrator sucked; here’s how to make sure yours doesn’t.

By Carolyn Yates| March 20, 2018 | 13 Comments
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How To Eat Ass

Everyone has an ass. Here’s how to eat one.

By Carolyn Yates| March 13, 2018 | 10 Comments
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How To Be Friends With Your Ex

Is it possible? Yes! Is it a good idea? Only sometimes! Here’s everything you need to know about being friends with your ex-girlfriend.

By Carolyn Yates| March 6, 2018 | 13 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Write a Non-Monogamous Dating Profile

Here’s how to fly your consensually non-monogamous, polyamorous, consensually open relationship or whatever else flag in your dating profile so you get the best possible interactions from it.

By Andre| February 27, 2018 | 17 Comments
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How To Have A Lesbian Threesome

Planning your first threesome? Here’s how to do it.

By Carolyn Yates| February 20, 2018 | 30 Comments
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