Breakups and Being Alone 101: The Autostraddle Guide To Life After Love

It’s I Think We’re Alone Now Week at Autostraddle — a micro issue dedicated to being on your own, whether on purpose or by chance, and all the ways we’re out here making it work.

Let’s look back on the wealth of relevant content we’ve shared with you all in order to best navigate you through periods of heartbreak and solitude! You got this!

Unhinged Post-Gay-Breakup Activities

How To Change Your Hair Dramatically After a Breakup

Top 10 Special Weirdo Things I’ve Done Since My Very First Break Up

For Your Consideration: 30 Slightly Unhinged Post-Breakup Activities That Aren’t Actually That Bad

25 Reasons I’m Finally Starting to Enjoy Being Single (Besides Sleeping Around)

55 Questions to Obsessively Ask Yourself After a Lesbian Breakup

Generation Ex: 9 Chaotic Queers on Their Decision to Watch “L Word: Generation Q” With Their Exes

Valentine’s Day Date Ideas I’ve Had Since My Wife Left Me Six Months Ago

37 Delicious Things That Become Infinitely More Delicious After A Breakup

Soundtrack to Your Lesbian Breakup:

A Playlist for When You Break Up In Autumn

Playlist: Oh Wow So I’m Starting All Over Then I Guess

Playlist: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Playlist: Instead Of Texting Your Ex, Listen To These Songs

Why Is It So Damn Hard to Build a Good Lesbian Breakup Playlist?

Playlist: One More Time Without Feeling

Breakups in Books, Movies and TV Shows:

9 Books That Got Us Through Breakups, We’ll Just Leave Them Right Here For You

Top 17 Most Devastating Breakups in Lesbian Television History

The Perfect Queer Poem: When You Need to Break Up With Your Lover Who Is Also Your Best Friend

Top 5 Movies to Watch Before You Break Up with Someone

55 Ways To Leave Your Lesbian Vampire Lover (According To True Blood)

10 Movies That’ll Make You Pleased To Be Single On Valentine’s Day

24 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On

Solid Queer Break-Up Advice

The Best Break-Up Advice You’ll Ever Get

Texting Your Ex-Girlfriend in Five Easy Steps

Family Business: How To Break Up With Your Ex’s Family, Too

You Need Help: Why Do I Miss My Terrible Ex?

5 Things to Know About Dating Again After Your Gay Breakup

Call It Off: A Very Subjective Primer on Breaking Up with Someone You’re Casually Dating

You Need Help: Post-Divorce Feelings

You Need Help: So Your First Girlfriend Broke Your Heart — Now What?

How I Claimed Being Thirsty as a Personal Lifestyle and Learned to Live My Dreams

You Need Help: How Do I Break Up With a Casual Someone?

Holiday Breakups: 10 Reasons to Buck Up And Do It

You Need Help: Was Breaking Up A Mistake?

How to Honestly Tell When It’s Time to Break Up

Personal Breakup Stories, Essays and Anecdotes

The Museum of Broken Hearts

Monday Roundtable: Breaking Up and Fucking Up

For Your Consideration: For Your Consideration


The Lifespan of a Lesbian Heartbreak

Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend: Mila

Breaking the Habit: Exes, Past and Future

Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend: Marni

The Second to Last Woman I Loved

A+ Monday Roundtable: My Achy Breaky Heart

Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend: Laura

The Good China

All My Exes Live in Brooklyn

Nuggets, Milkshakes, Nosebleeds: Love After Heartbreak

I’m Single, I’m 36, and I Think That’s Fine

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Riese is the 41-year-old Co-Founder of as well as an award-winning writer, video-maker, LGBTQ+ Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and now lives in Los Angeles. Her work has appeared in nine books, magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. She's Jewish and has a cute dog named Carol. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

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  1. So, what do you do when a 30 year friendship breaks down?! I feel EVERYTHING ALL AT ONCE

    • I’m in the midst of a 15 year friendship breaking down and I also feel everything all at once. Solidarity, friend. (I’m making a breakup playlist. It helps)

  2. WOW thank you so much for this, I opened so many of these links so fast that I got rate limited by the website because WordPress thought I was DDOS’ing you?

  3. Yes! What perfect timing for my confused/sad heart. Also inspired by the things to do post break up that arent really all that bad, I reccomend finding a fuzzy sweater at a thrift store and wearing it basically all the time. Mine is yellow and kind of a crop top too, it’s perfect!

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