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love is a lie

Lesbian Love Quotes: A collage of three books with lesbian love quotes inside them.

25 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On

“I want you to know, if you ever read this, there was a time when I would rather have had you by my side than any one of these words; I would rather have had you by my side than all the blue in the world.”

By Riese| April 13, 2021 | 14 Comments
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31 Reasons Why It’s Fine That We’re Single in a Pandemic, Thanks!

7. endless time to wrap your mind around what was really wrong with all of your exes

By the team| February 12, 2021 | 21 Comments
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Love Is a Lie: A Vapid Fluff Timeline of Heartbreak

“lol at my life, break up with someone right after you put out a love song about them, looool gonna go cry forever.”

By the team| February 12, 2021 | 4 Comments
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10 Times Queer TV Taught Me Love Is a Lie

“You want proof love is a lie?? Let me dramatically pull back the curtains and show you the broken shards of my heart on the floor!”

By Valerie Anne| February 12, 2021 | 9 Comments
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Playlist: That Love Was a Lie

We’re kicking off today’s festivities with a super neutral, super chill playlist of breakup songs. Is love a lie?? I mean, you tell us.

By the team| February 12, 2021 | 4 Comments
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Also.Also.Also: Elliot Page Is Getting Divorced, Another Day in the Books for Love Being a Lie

Yes, some thoughts about Elliot Page’s divorce. And also: Black Sign Language, Andra Day on Billie Holiday (we can’t wait for the movie next month!), and breaking up with white supremacy for good.

By Carmen Phillips| January 26, 2021 | 21 Comments

You Oughta Know: The Letters to Our Exes We Won’t Send

But we will show you!

By the team| July 30, 2020 | 21 Comments

BREAKING: Cara Delevingne and Ashley Benson Reportedly Split in Quarantine, Love Remains a Lie

But who gets custody of the rescue puppies and the sex bench?!?!?

By Stef| May 6, 2020 | 14 Comments

You Need Help: Will I Ever Get Over My First Ex or Is Closure a Myth

Closure is a choice — often one you have to make on your own. And it’s absolutely okay to not be friends with an ex.

By Kayla| April 21, 2020 | 8 Comments

You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?

Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to get away with certain things, and sometimes even be hard on yourself for it.

By Kayla| April 14, 2020 | 4 Comments

“Killing Eve” Season Three is Like a Bad Breakup

Yearning, grief, and tension fuel the show, which is at its darkest now.

By Kayla| April 12, 2020 | 3 Comments
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Breakups and Being Alone 101: The Autostraddle Guide To Life After Love

We’ve got advice on breakups and exes, playlists to see you through, unhinged behavior we highly recommend and so much more from the annals of Autostraddle’s achy breaky hearts.

By Riese| March 4, 2020 | 9 Comments

How Social Media Fucked Up Lesbian Breakup Culture

Breakups are so often garbage and hard, and managing the social media that surrounds it is just another gross layer that makes them even more garbage and even harder.

By Rachel| March 4, 2020 | 2 Comments

Lena Waithe and Wife Alana Mayo Broke Up, We’re Back to Love Being a Lie

The couple originally announced their marriage just two months ago. Today is sad.

By Carmen Phillips| January 23, 2020 | 16 Comments

50 Ways to Leave Your (Lesbian) Lover

12. Sometimes Love Doesn’t Win, Quinn

By Rachel| May 21, 2019 | 30 Comments

For Your Consideration: 30 Slightly Unhinged Post-Breakup Activities That Aren’t Actually That Bad

Embrace a little chaos without getting in trouble with your therapist.

By Kayla| May 14, 2019 | 138 Comments

How To Change Your Hair Dramatically After a Breakup

Seize control of your image! Be hot as a form of revenge! Do it for you! Just feel good about something in a time when it’s so easy to feel bad about everything!

By Kayla| April 29, 2019 | 15 Comments

For Your Consideration: Changing Associations After a Breakup

For when wiping the slate completely clean isn’t really an option.

By Kayla| April 16, 2019 | 19 Comments

Getting in Bed With Kristin: Grief, Anxiety, and the Practicalities of Breakups

End your week with a little bit of love and advice!

By Kristin| March 15, 2019 | 3 Comments

55 Questions to Obsessively Ask Yourself After a Lesbian Breakup

26. Will I ever stop talking about this?

By Riese| June 28, 2018 | 54 Comments

9 Books That Got Us Through Breakups, We’ll Just Leave Them Right Here For You

Here, thought you might need this.

By the team| May 23, 2018 | 11 Comments
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