A+ Monday Roundtable: My Achy Breaky Heart

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Breakups! They suck! Do you remember when/how you knew your relationship was ending/it was time to get out? Was there a turning point in your relationship that stands out for you? How did you proceed? Or maybe it wasn’t you who did the breaking up, how do you view your breakup now?

Mey, Trans Editor

The first time a girl broke up with me was caught off guard, but I really, really shouldn’t have been. On one date I asked her what she was going to be for Halloween, my favorite holiday, and she said "I don’t really celebrate Halloween? It’s the devil’s holiday." Both of us were church going Christians and I even taught Sunday School, but wow, this was a huge warning sign. I should’ve realized right then she was not operating by the same set of lifestyle rules that I was. A couple weeks later, on another date, she said to me, "So, I have to break up with you. I’m betrothed to my high school boyfriend. He joined the navy and we promised that when he got back ...

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