Why We Shouldn’t Be Overly Dismissive of Self-Diagnosis
The healthcare system has a longstanding reputation for mistreating queer people, and self-diagnosis can provide agency even with its shortcomings.
Getting BRCA Test Results Wasn’t What I Expected
I hope the lesson from this journey is to advocate for yourself to access the testing, results, treatments, therapy, and providers that you need and deserve.
Queer Moms Discuss What It Means To Come Out to Our Kids
Tig Notaro recently discussed what it was like to come out to her eight-year-old sons. Hearing Tig’s words made me think about my own kid.
What Comes After Surviving Suicidality?
What I’ve found to be near-universally helpful is talking to people about it.
How To Be a Better Advocate for Victims of Sexual Violence — Especially Yourself
Every small act of kindness to ourselves and others is a crack against the foundations of rape culture.
So You Want To Start an OnlyFans
Ultimately, online sex work is more akin to starting a small business than making easy money.
When it Comes to Queer Fertility, There Are No Perfect Choices
I was 22 years old when I donated my eggs anonymously at a fertility clinic in New York City.
67 Questions Your Neurodivergent and Socially Anxious Friend Has About Your Party
It’s (un)officially the first weekend of summer, and so there’s no better time to unleash my super power: Thinking of every possible question, from every single humanly possible angle, that I’ll most certainly have before agreeing to go to your party.
How We See Our Impairments as a Disabled Sapphic Couple
One queer couple explains how they approach their disabilities differently.
What to Expect While Awaiting the Results of a Life Changing Test
As I await the verdict of eighty-eight potential cancer-causing genes, I am buoyed by the legacy of LGBTQ+ people who came before and who helped bring empathy, and less stigmatization, to breast cancer and the gender-based shame that can come with it.
How Do We Navigate Ethical Concerns About Having Kids as a Queer Couple?
I think it’s really admirable that you’re thinking about the ethics of having a kid. A lot of people don’t, and there is value in doing this kind of consideration before having kids. But I think there’s a difference between being aware and letting it keep you from doing something you have always wanted to do.
Queer Mom Chronicles: How Do You Create Queer Community for Your Family?
I grew up around my mom’s queer friends, and I wanted my son to have that, too.
Brittney and Cherelle Griner Are Having a Baby!
CUTENESS ALERT! Baby Griner is due in July.
Queer Mom Chronicles: Having a ‘Picky Eater’ Doesn’t Bother Me Too Much
By not acting from a deprivation mindset, I think I’ve created a solid foundation for him when it comes to food.
You’re Queer, You Want to Be a Parent, Now What? Meet PregnantTogether
PregnantTogether is the queer family building community you’ve been waiting for.
Queer Mom Chronicles: Why Is It So Hard for Us To Take Time for Ourselves?
There have been many times when I’ve said that I’m going to make a stronger effort to take time for myself and that lasts for a couple weeks before I fall right back into the routine of ignoring my needs.
10 Things That Surprised Me After Top Surgery
I’m six weeks post-op from Top Surgery, and I’m learning a ton. I’m learning more about my body and my dysphoria, my goals for transitioning, and most importantly, life without boobs.
What to Expect When You Feel a Lump
If I was going to consider the possibility of having cancer then I wanted to be sure all treatment options were on the table without anyone else’s view of what it means to be a woman getting in the way.
Queer Mom Chronicles: I Have Mixed Feelings About Homework
As a parent who is making a concentrated effort to teach my child boundaries when it comes to helping manage burnout, homework doesn’t really fit in with that.
A Really F*cking Honest Breakdown of My Nighttime Routine
My real, true nighttime routine as a queer person in night school with various medical and mental health issues.