Baby Steps #1: How We Got Gay Pregnant
My wife and I are having a baby and this is the first edition of Baby Steps, a column about the gestation and eventual birth of this human child who I think is going to be pretty tall!
Questions To Ask Yourself Before Going to Your Family’s Super Straight, Potentially Hostile Holiday Gathering
The answers to which might tell you you shouldn’t go at all.
For Many Queer People, Cutting Off Family Is Hard but Vital
My wife, novelist Kristen Arnett, hasn’t had any real contact with her parents for about eight years.
My Girlfriend and I Went Viral for Dressing as Chappell Roan and a Passenger Seat for Halloween
It was settled as early as August: Britt would be Chappell, and I would be a literal passenger seat.
Quiz: Which Spirit Halloween Animatronic Are You?
From the same twisted, gorgeous mind who brought you Spirit Halloween Animatronics, Ranked By Lesbianism.
Drew Burnett Gregory Rates Her Past Halloween Costumes
Before transitioning I would describe my costume choices as a decades-long performance art exploration of masculinity.
Quiz: Pick Your Own Victorian Mansion Escape Adventure and I’ll Tell You What Your Halloween Costume Should Be
Why have Victorian homes become the default ‘haunted house’? Well it’s time to get your ass out of one to uncover your Halloweeny destiny.
Kristen Arnett Rates Her Past Halloween Costumes
Like many homosexuals, I enjoy dressing up. Is there a theme? Terrific! Costumes, wigs? The freakier the better.
Testosterone Gel vs. Injections: Which Is More Effective?
I’m not a doctor or a scientist. What I am is a trans man whose own transition experiences have made me curious about how it all works.
Quiz: What Recent Queer Horror Book Should You Read This Halloween Season?
Sapphic vampires, perhaps? Trans body horror? Or maybe a queer zombie romp is more your style.
I Am Not Lorelai Gilmore But I Also Kind of Am
“Suddenly I was pregnant. And then I was a dropout. And then I was a single mother. I had no money or resources outside of my deeply evangelical family, the same people who’d taken me to picket outside of abortion clinics when I was six years old.”
I’m Looking for a Trans in Finance
Some of these trans advisors, coaches, and planners operate outside the system, identifying as anti-capitalist and advocating for integrating social justice values into investing. Some exist inside bigger, more established firms working from the inside out.
My Top Surgery Was Complicated. I Don’t Regret It
We rarely hear about how healing can be an iterative and potentially complicated process.
How Much Does Injectable Testosterone Hurt?
For over a year, I swore shots were too scary for me. Now, three months into them, I only wish I’d started sooner.
Was Ozempic Right For Me?
Fat people have long been stigmatized and harshly judged as not “doing enough” to take care of themselves, disregarding the impact of socioeconomic factors on people’s access to healthy food or even having time to exercise. Now, when all that can be fixed with just a simple drug, we’ll be judged for not taking it, disregarding the socioeconomic reality that not all of us can afford it.
Why We Shouldn’t Be Overly Dismissive of Self-Diagnosis
The healthcare system has a longstanding reputation for mistreating queer people, and self-diagnosis can provide agency even with its shortcomings.
Getting BRCA Test Results Wasn’t What I Expected
I hope the lesson from this journey is to advocate for yourself to access the testing, results, treatments, therapy, and providers that you need and deserve.
Queer Moms Discuss What It Means To Come Out to Our Kids
Tig Notaro recently discussed what it was like to come out to her eight-year-old sons. Hearing Tig’s words made me think about my own kid.
What Comes After Surviving Suicidality?
What I’ve found to be near-universally helpful is talking to people about it.
How To Be a Better Advocate for Victims of Sexual Violence — Especially Yourself
Every small act of kindness to ourselves and others is a crack against the foundations of rape culture.