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Health

You Need Help: Can My Spouse and I Boil Our Menstrual Cups Together?

“Is there any sanitary reason NOT to?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya December 12, 2023
A menorah glows on the last night of Hanukkah, the candles almost burnt out, the background complete darkness.
Jewish Holidays

The Limits and Possibilities of an Anti-Zionist Hanukkah

For me, and so many Jewish people, the lack of certainty, the encouragement of complex discussion, is what connects us to our faith.

Drew Burnett Gregory December 11, 2023 20 Comments
1. three women at a holiday party with sparklers. 2. three lit candles with lavender. 3. a holiday elf in the snow. 4. a lit fire pit.
Holigays Quizzes

Quiz: Which Gay Holiday Archetype Are You?

Are you a Hot Cocoa Mommi, a Fire Pit Butch, a Chaos Elf?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya December 10, 2023 9 Comments
Holigays Shopping

Holigay Gift Guide: Things Marketed To My Former Gender That I Actually Want

I was always bad at being a girl but now, with inflation, fast fashion, and heightened capitalism…I am so glad I figured out I was trans years ago.

Motti December 10, 2023 8 Comments
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Holigays Shopping

Holigay Gift Guide: Goblin Mode

We have gifts for those in your life going goblin mode this season or all seasons, presents for the filthy gremlins you picked up on your quest, and offerings for the absolute trolls who are near and dear to your heart.

Nico December 8, 2023 5 Comments
A collage on a blue background with purple sparkles that includes: a green lifting belt, a pair of Adidas sneakers, wireless headphones, an Adidas gym bag, and a yellow t-shirt with sour patch kids lifting weights depicted on it.
Holigays Shopping

Holigay Gift Guide: What To Buy the Muscle Masc in Your Life

I’m including some tighter budget items and more size-inclusive options as well, because I don’t think anyone should be kept from being their best self in the gym just because of finances or lack of available larger sizes.

Stef Rubino December 7, 2023 10 Comments
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Christmas Movie Features Quizzes

If You Get 18/29 On This Quiz, You’re a Christmas Movie Expert and Also Probably Gay

If you love a good Christmas movie or even a bad Christmas movie, then it’s time to test your Christmas movie knowledge!

Riese December 6, 2023 12 Comments
Gaylor gift guide: Sparkly lavender background with a Certified Gaylor sticker, a tumbler, a shirt, and a phone case.
Holigays Music

A Holiday Gift Guide For Your Favorite Gaylor

Whether you’re a general Gaylor, a Swiftgron shipper (hello my people), or a Kaylor, there’s something for you here.

Sa'iyda Shabazz December 6, 2023 8 Comments
Holigays Shopping

Holigay Gift Guide: Upgrading Your Home Bar

Nice glassware, nonalcoholic options, and fancy garnish tools will take your gay home bar to the next level.

ashni December 5, 2023
dark christmas aesthetic: 1. bell door hanger 2. cat krampus ornament 3. black cheese board 4. tarot card 5. wassail candle
Holigays Shopping

Holigay Gift Guide: Dark Christmas Aesthetic Edition

We have a candle for those who want their place to constantly smell like they’ve just cracked open the grimoire.

Nico December 4, 2023 2 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: How Do You Handle School Stuff While Co-Parenting?

I am a big advocate of parent-teacher conferences, and I always make it a priority to go.

Sa'iyda Shabazz December 4, 2023 6 Comments
the following gifts for queer parents: 1. face roller. 2. a three wick candle. 3. white slipper. 4. a foot mask. 5. single serving coffee maker.
Holigays Shopping

Holigay Gift Guide: Your Gay Parent Friends Are Exhausted, Send Help!

Buying a gift for a parent is tough because the thing most of us want is sleep or rest.

Sa'iyda Shabazz December 3, 2023 6 Comments
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Christmas Quizzes

Quiz: Which Queer Christmas Movie Character Are You?

Are you one of the gals from Happiest Season or are you more of a Carol, or mayhaps even a Joanne? There’s only one way to find out and it’s through this very special Christmas movie quiz!

Riese December 3, 2023 12 Comments
Holigays TV Feature

Holigay Gift Guide: What Each Adult Yellowjacket Probably Wants

Taissa obviously wants a trench to add to her extensive collection.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya December 2, 2023 4 Comments
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Health Movie Reviews

“Periodical” Is a Valuable, Inclusive Documentary About Menstruation

I am fully ready to admit that, yes, indeed, we needed an informational documentary about periods and I am glad this one exists. 

Nico December 1, 2023 2 Comments
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First Person Holigays

Untethered: I Have To Stop Getting Engayged or Married on Holidays

My ex and I mutually proposed to each other on Christmas last year.

Nico November 30, 2023 11 Comments
an anchovies ornament, a garlic ornament, a groundhog ornament, and an ornament with a photo of the author and her partner Kristen Arnett on it
Christmas Comedy

My Christmas Ornaments, Ranked by Lesbianism

“Owls are the most lesbian bird of prey imo.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya November 30, 2023 7 Comments
The following skincare stocking stuffers: Supergoop Mineral Matte Screen sunscreen, Kiehl's Ultra Facial Cream, Advanced Snail 96 Mucin Power Essence, and Augustinus Bader The Rich Cream
Holigays Shopping

Holigay Gift Guide: Stocking Stuffers for Skincare Enthusiasts

Featuring skincare gifts at three different price ranges!

ashni November 29, 2023 1 Comment
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Money + Work

You Need Help: My Work Mentee Came Out to Me but I Didn’t Come Out to Her

There’s definitely a middle ground here: You can come out but also be clear about your boundary of not wanting to discuss your own identity in depth.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya November 28, 2023
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Christmas Quizzes

Quiz: Write a Gay Romcom, I’ll Tell You Which Iconic Christmas Movie Is Your Destiny

What happens if we write the cheesy made-for-cable romcom of our dreams, and an iconic Christmas movie pops out instead?

Carmen Phillips November 26, 2023 13 Comments
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