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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Having a ‘Picky Eater’ Doesn’t Bother Me Too Much

By not acting from a deprivation mindset, I think I’ve created a solid foundation for him when it comes to food.

Sa'iyda Shabazz April 8, 2024 4 Comments
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You’re Queer, You Want to Be a Parent, Now What? Meet PregnantTogether

PregnantTogether is the queer family building community you’ve been waiting for.

Sa'iyda Shabazz March 28, 2024 6 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Why Is It So Hard for Us To Take Time for Ourselves?

There have been many times when I’ve said that I’m going to make a stronger effort to take time for myself and that lasts for a couple weeks before I fall right back into the routine of ignoring my needs.

Sa'iyda Shabazz March 25, 2024 8 Comments
Health

10 Things That Surprised Me After Top Surgery

I’m six weeks post-op from Top Surgery, and I’m learning a ton. I’m learning more about my body and my dysphoria, my goals for transitioning, and most importantly, life without boobs.

Motti March 19, 2024 8 Comments
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Health

What to Expect When You Feel a Lump

If I was going to consider the possibility of having cancer then I wanted to be sure all treatment options were on the table without anyone else’s view of what it means to be a woman getting in the way.

Katie March 15, 2024 1 Comment
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: I Have Mixed Feelings About Homework

As a parent who is making a concentrated effort to teach my child boundaries when it comes to helping manage burnout, homework doesn’t really fit in with that.

Sa'iyda Shabazz March 11, 2024 6 Comments
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Health

A Really F*cking Honest Breakdown of My Nighttime Routine

My real, true nighttime routine as a queer person in night school with various medical and mental health issues.

Em Win February 28, 2024 8 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: We Must Stand Up For Queer Kids

As a parent, I can’t imagine the pain Nex’s family is going through right now.

Sa'iyda Shabazz February 26, 2024 4 Comments
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AF+ Parenting & Family

I’m In My Thirties and Can’t Make Up My Mind About Having Kids

I’ve been thinking about it almost every day lately.

the team February 16, 2024 14 Comments
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Queer Pregnancy

Queer Mom Chronicles: Blending Our Family

Even though I often refer to him as my son, my wife is just as much of a parent to him as I am, and he considers her his mom.

Sa'iyda Shabazz February 12, 2024 12 Comments
Health

If Your Neurodivergent Ass Hasn’t Rediscovered Plushies, This Is Your Sign To Start

Society: hard and cold. Plush toys: soft and warm.

Summer Tao February 12, 2024 4 Comments
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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft Valentine's Day

What Do the Signs REALLY Want for Valentine’s Day?

No matter what zodiac sign(s) are your sweetie(s)’s, it’s probably a good idea to butter them up with what they really, really want for Valentine’s Day.

Nico February 6, 2024 5 Comments
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Money + Work

Queering Wealth: Examining Our Attachment to Nonprofits

How can we move away from a colonizer, savior mindset when it comes to supporting our community with money, and move into a more collective-centered mindset?

Laila Makled and Carolyn Collado
February 5, 2024 1 Comment
Health

What to Expect When You’re Expecting a BRCA Test

My only reference for genetic cancer testing was when Angelina Jolie was highly criticized publicly for the decision to do a double mastectomy to protect herself from her own genetic cancer risk. It’s absurd to recall this now.

Katie February 1, 2024 8 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: How Do You Spend Quality Time With Your Kids?

My son is genuinely one of my favorite people to hang out with.

Sa'iyda Shabazz January 29, 2024 12 Comments
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Health

Photo Essay: I Chose To Remove My Fallopian Tubes in Post-Roe v. Wade Texas

For photographer Josie Norris, the decision was more than a form of birth control. It was gender-affirming care.

Josie Norris, The 19th January 26, 2024 2 Comments
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Health

What Queers Need To Know About Eating Disorders

Despite finishing a Master’s in Psychology — in queer healthcare access, no less — I didn’t realize I had a serious eating disorder until afterward.

Summer Tao January 23, 2024 9 Comments
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Parenting & Family Style

Queer Mom Chronicles: Let’s Talk Mom Fashion

Admittedly, I’m still trying to figure out how my queerness factors into my mom style.

Sa'iyda Shabazz January 16, 2024 14 Comments
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Health

How To Engage With New Year’s Resolutions More Thoughtfully

I have to take a page from my time recovering from an eating disorder. The habits and encouragement found in supportive eating disorder recovery look a lot like the things we want to emulate in daily life.

Summer Tao January 15, 2024 2 Comments
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Health

Healing After Top Surgery: Expectation vs. Reality

What’s it like to walk down the stairs with nothing bouncing? What’s it like to feel a seatbelt flat against me? What’s it like when my girlfriend lays her head on my chest, REALLY on my chest, closer to my heart than ever?

Max Gross January 11, 2024 12 Comments
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