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Comedy Holigays

13 New Years Resolutions You’re Welcome To Steal

I don’t know when we normalized asking people what their worst habits are, but at some point, we did and now we do it every year! I hate it!

ashni January 3, 2024 3 Comments
A group of queer-looking friends light sparklers with big smiles.
Holigays

New Year’s Resolutions Can Be Fun Actually

If you want to work out more, that’s great. But it’s also great if what you want is to watch every episode of the original Twilight Zone or dedicate more time to long masturbation sessions.

Drew Burnett Gregory January 2, 2024 5 Comments
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Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Happy New Year!

Giving up control is hard for me as a mom who was a single parent for so many years.

Sa'iyda Shabazz January 1, 2024 6 Comments
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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft Holigays

What Should Your Questionable New Year’s Resolution Be, According to Your Sign?

Let’s all agree to make THIS year call us “Daddy.”

Nico December 31, 2023 10 Comments
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Health

Here’s a Step-By-Step Guide on How to Find a Therapist

We’ve all been in a place where we know we should see a therapist, but the idea of even taking the steps from “yeah I should probably see someone someday” to “I called them yesterday and set up my first appointment” is daunting. I’m going to guide us through it.

Em Win December 26, 2023 5 Comments
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Holigays

You Need Help: How Do I Become Less Afraid of New Year’s and the Expectations it Brings?

This time of year inherently brings stress, so please treat yourself with kindness.

Em Win December 26, 2023 1 Comment
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Health

Alyson Stoner on the Power of Movement and Queer Joy

“One of the most beautiful things, especially in the queer experience, is joy.”

Motti December 25, 2023 2 Comments
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Holigays

Holidays Are for Best Friends, Teletubbies, and Arthur

Every holiday season, I revisit 2000’s Arthur’s Perfect Christmas and its lessons about friendship.

Em Win December 25, 2023 1 Comment
Christmas Movie Reviews

Hallmark’s “Friends and Family Christmas” Is The Cheesy Holiday Romance Sapphics Deserve

“Friends and Family Christmas is everything that those of us who want an easy, cheesy Christmas romcom could ask for. Low stakes, lots of twinkly lights, and two openly queer actresses playing the romantic leads.”

Sa'iyda Shabazz December 24, 2023 7 Comments
Dwayne in How To Blow Up a Pipeline says "Merry Christmas", surrounded by snowflakes
Christmas Movie Features

My Favorite Queer Christmas Movie Is “How To Blow Up a Pipeline”

Yes, it’s a Christmas movie actually. Let me explain.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya December 22, 2023 6 Comments
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Comedy Holigays

25 Things To Do if You Need a Break From Your Family This Holiday Weekend

8. Go down a social media rabbit hole trying to figure out what your favorite high school English teacher is up to.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya December 22, 2023 5 Comments
Comedy Holigays

I Think I Accidentally Bought My Fiancée a Haunted Music Box for Christmas

Who knew the vintage clown music box that inexplicably plays “Memories” from the musical Cats would be haunted?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya December 21, 2023 10 Comments
KOLKATA, WEST BENGAL, INDIA - 2023/12/17: A participant holds placards in solidarity with Palestine during the Kolkata Pride Walk. Hundreds of participants took part in Kolkata Pride parade 2023. Kolkata Pride is the longest running pride parade in India. (Photo by Avijit Ghosh/SOPA Images/LightRocket via Getty Images)
Life

Gay People: I Need Us To Care About Palestine

“In a world where it is clear that the nation-state is an outdated model that cannot hold us down, that cannot protect us, I ask: what do we owe each other? What do we owe the land? How do we protect each other, and the land, in this increasingly turbulent time?”

Fatimah Asghar December 21, 2023 16 Comments
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Christmas Food Lists

Power Ranking Italian (and Italian-American) Christmas Desserts

My ancestors really said “Ok, let’s make a dessert that looks like cured meat.”

Stef Rubino December 19, 2023 10 Comments
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Christmas Parenting & Family

Queer Mom Chronicles: Christmas With a Tween

My mother warned me that it goes by fast, but f*ck. The constant back and forth of being the mom of a tween is breaking my heart.

Sa'iyda Shabazz December 18, 2023 7 Comments
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Christmas Recipes

Tie-Dyed Christmas Cookies and Coquito

Are you really going to tell me that you don’t want melt in your mouth sugar cookies and cinnamon, coconut, and rum to wash it down with, right this very moment? Because I don’t believe you.

Carmen Phillips December 17, 2023 6 Comments
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Crafts & DIY Projects Holigays

Join Me in Making DIY Holigay Soap

It’s the holigay season! It’s time to do cozy things and get gifts for your loved ones. I figured I would do you a solid and tackle both of those things in one fun post!

Em Win December 16, 2023 1 Comment
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Dating Holigays

10 Budget Friendly Holigay Dates

We can’t all vacation to a ski chalet to drink hot cocoa and enter their gingerbread house contest for a weekend! Here are some cheaper alternatives to capture some romantic holiday magic.

Em Win December 13, 2023 3 Comments
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Jewish Holidays Movie Reviews

We Got High and Watched Hallmark Hanukkah Movie “Round and Round,” and Yes of Course the Sister Is a Lesbian

“Do you think we think everyone is gay because they are or because we are or because we are high or because of Jewish?”

Drew Burnett Gregory and Riese
December 13, 2023 7 Comments
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Holigays

How To Romanticize Being Solo for the Holidays

Going it solo for Christmas is turning out to be annoyingly emotional. However, what’s helped immensely has been romanticizing the whole affair.

Nico December 12, 2023 6 Comments
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