Hot, Creative Ways to Spend Valentine’s Day With Yourself, Your Friends or Your Partner(s) That Don’t Involve Flowers or Chocolate
Let’s take Valentine’s Day by its fuzzy, pink horns and hold on for dear life.
How To Surprise Your Partner for Valentine’s Day When You’ve Spent Every Day Together for Two Pandemic Years
It can maybe seem silly to “celebrate” Valentine’s Day — you’re together all the time! But that’s why it’s important to carve out some intentional time together and also shake things up from your daily routine.
Valentine’s Day Gifts For 10 Queer Archetypes
Whether you’re buying for a Literary Queer, Kitchen Queer, Techie Queer, Pop Culture Queer, Witchy Queer, Adventure Queer, Decor/Design Queer, Fashion Queer, Radical Queer, or Sports Queer, we’ve got you covered.
Seeing the First Sunrise Makes Each Year Feel Special
Waking up early and standing out in the cold may not seem like self-care, but to me, it is.
Forgiving Myself as the One and Only New Year’s Resolution
I’m letting the dust of others’ expectations begin to settle, leaving room to see that I am not to blame for the hurt and harm I’ve dealt with. This year, I’m not making a list. Instead, I’m focusing on forgiving myself for ever thinking anything different.
Fishy Christmas Eve Traditions
I put a lot of pressure on myself to learn and revel in the customs of “our people,” which meant that I always included a small scoop of the fish salad on mine and then tried to avoid it the rest of the night.
In Remembrance of My Queer Nigerian Christmas
That Christmas with queer family reminded me that multiple possibilities exist even in the darkest of places.
Free, Last Minute Gifts You Can Find in Your Home Because You’re Poor, the Supply Chain Is Broken and Capitalism Will Inevitably Crumble
Need last minute gifts? You probably have stuff you can give away without making a dent in your bank account.
The Stories We Tell
One of my earliest memories, perhaps my earliest one, is watching the snow fall from the sliding glass doors to the balcony of the small apartment my family rented in a Boston suburb.
Finding Love in the Year of the Ox
On New Year’s Eve when the clock strikes midnight, the glimmering thoughts that slip across my mind are usually all variations on the same question: who have you been loved by this year?
The Gay Nightmare Before Christmas: A Holiday Fanfic of Disturbing Lesbian Movies
Consider this your break from happy endings and an opportunity for some gay yuletide catharsis.
Grief Is a Promise
The unthinkable can and will happen, but sorrow and loss are only splinters of what we can handle. The ritual is in the remembering.
Ground Yourself With a Five Step Ritual To Take Care of Your Inner Child
By convening with our inner-children as adults, we’re able to establish new holiday traditions to meet our own needs.
Holigay Quiz: What Entirely Made Up Gay Hallmark Christmas Movie Are You?
Consider all of these results my official pitches for absurd lesbian Christmas movies that should be made! Get at me, Hallmark!
“Everybody’s Fine” Is a Pretty Good Christmasy Movie With Three Minutes of Shane
This overlooked kinda-Christmas movie from 2009 features Drew Barrymore as the bisexual daughter of a telephone wire enthusiast who never takes his jacket off and also Kate Moennig is in it!
I Listen to Christmas Music 24/7 This Time of Year and You Can Too
It’s the most wonderful time of the year, aka time to play Christmas music literally at all hours. Be warned.
9 Witchy Alternatives to Traditional Holiday Movies
Any movie in which sisters reunite to kill bad boyfriends feels like Christmas to me, okay?
On Reconciliation, Reconnection, and Acceptance
Spending time in the kitchen and learning how to cook the comfort food of my childhood has helped me connect to my mother in ways I never expected.
Roundtable: Is There Anything Hot About the Holidays?
Many of us associate the holiday season with Very Unsexy Things. Is there anything we can do to make the holidays hot? Here’s what Autostraddle writers and editors have to say.
Say Hello to RITUALS, an Autostraddle End of Year Miniseries
The eight writers who contributed to this miniseries will share all sorts of rituals: rituals for love, rituals for grief, rituals for forgiveness, rituals for inner peace. My wish is that it will help us all feel somewhat less alone this December, more connected to our community, and more ready for whatever January 2022 delivers.