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Sinclair Sexsmith on “Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica”: The Autostraddle Interview

“The questions quickly became, what is BDSM? And what is lesbian? I’m not sure I know the answer in general, but I figured out a context for this anthology to be born into, some parameters about kinks and fetishes and gender.”

Ryan Yates April 8, 2012 26 Comments
Gender

On 20/20, Trans Beauty Queen Jenna Talackova Enlightens Barbara Walters, Your Family

In which Barbara Walters thinks it’s okay to ask, “so if I saw you undressed you would look like a woman to me, totally? Yes?”

Riese April 8, 2012 103 Comments
Society + Culture

Sunday Funday is Definitely Thinking About Bunnies Today

Happy Easter! Happy Passover! I’m having a lot of positive feelings.

Carmen April 8, 2012 34 Comments
Issues Travel

Queer Girl City Guide: Boston, MA

From “Boston Marriages” to Second Saturdays at Machine, the Boston area has always been kind to the Sapphicly inclined.

Lizz April 7, 2012 138 Comments
Playlists

Playlist: Yer Listening to Wizard Rock, Harry

Music to write fan fiction by!

Intern Grace April 7, 2012 52 Comments
Food and Drink

Coffee Cake In A Mug Is The Best Thing To Happen To Mugs Since Coffee

Laura’s Team Pick: I think we all can agree that the best part of waking up is coffee cake in your cup.

Laura April 6, 2012 36 Comments
Issues Travel

A Love Letter To Savannah’s Past, Present and Future

Cities wanna be her.

fonseca April 6, 2012 38 Comments
Literature

Things I Read That I Love #20: Happy Birds

Topics include “a Web Site named Livejournal”, Münchausen by internet, the publishing, industry risky writing, teaching film in prison and Angry Birds.

Riese April 6, 2012 17 Comments
Politics + Activism

Meet the Woman Who’s Poised to Become America’s First Openly Gay Senator

To me, there is something quintessentially Midwestern about her: She’s polite, she’s reasonable, she’s serious, and she’s incredibly hardworking.

Jezebel April 6, 2012 9 Comments
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April Showers Bring Whiskey Sours (For All The Comment Award Winners)

Runner-ups for rhymes include: graham flours, kilometers per hours, artificial flowers, ivory towers and nuclear powers.

Laura April 6, 2012 14 Comments
Money + Work

Working It: Lesbian Professionals Out On The Job

Overwhelming evidence that shows that diverse workplaces are more innovative than their heterogenous counterparts!

Laura April 6, 2012 35 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Trans Miss Universe Contestant And Other Stories We Missed This Week

Donald Trump does something not-awful for once, Bully gets a PG-13, Alaska votes against being nice to gay people, and other stories we missed this week.

Riese April 5, 2012 29 Comments
Politics + Activism

DOMA Faces Challenge to its Constitutionality, Appears Increasingly Unpopular

A federal appeals court in Boston is considering whether it’s constitutional to deny same-sex married couples equal rights under the law.

Rachel April 5, 2012 2 Comments
The Scene

Brittani Does Dinah Shore 2012, Remembers Some Of It

I went to Dinah Shore 2012. I hope you will still take me seriously as a person.

Brittani April 5, 2012 31 Comments
Politics + Activism

Military “Investigates” Gay Pride Flag Raising in Afghanistan, Surely Has Something Better To Do

Because supporting gay pride is very much like burning the Koran, somehow?

Jamie J. Hagen April 5, 2012 38 Comments
Playlists Theater

Playlist: Broadway Breaks Your Heart

I dreamed a dream in time gone by…

Riese April 5, 2012 38 Comments
First Person Issues

Here/Queer: Two Years as a Lesbian Expat in South Korea

“Within the violence of invisibility there was also a sense of liberation and expansiveness, like we could just make everything up as we go along.”

Hallie April 5, 2012 90 Comments
School

VIDEO: Texas High School’s Anti-Bullying Lip Dub Video Goes Viral, Is Super-Cute

The cuties at Cypress Ranch High School made the best anti-bullying video of all time!

Riese April 4, 2012 50 Comments
Queer Fashion

Neon Looks Awesome, Won’t Make You Cry

Oh, I’m sorry, did you think neon went out with the 80s? You’d be wrong.

Lizz April 4, 2012 37 Comments
Book Features

Looking into Writers’ Bedrooms, Personal Style, Lives

Carolyn’s Team Pick: Flannery O’Connor’s looks like it would be good for napping.

Ryan Yates April 4, 2012 27 Comments
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